WTH Plus size clothes for kids!?! vent

[MUFFYCAT]

Okay, just because you're kids are thin, everyone else should too?
If you have never had excess weight as child- don't talk!!
From personal experience I can tell you it's not something we wanted or want our kids to be.

I would never tell my friend who has a DD was underweight that she should do something about it. That's her business- not mine.

You haven't been there, don't go telling us we should do something.
Since when did God make you the high almighty??

I guess your kids are perfect

 

[kristen821]

Let's put it this way. If you were in the grocery store and you saw an adult abusing a child would you be judgemental? How is feeding your child unhealthy food and setting them up for teasing, health issues, etc any different?

I find this to be different because, your not be judgemental if you know the facts. If you see a child abused in a store that is fact the parents did something wrong. Being upset over the "fat" people you see in the mall, you have no proof that the parents are doing it to those kids. I feel bad for overweight and underweight children and adults, but nobody has a right to judge them without knowing them.

 

[lindalinda]

there are so many things in the world today to worry about. getting all riled up about them has no benefit whatsoever. if you can do something about it, by all means do something, if not, find somewhere else to focus your energy. the world is a different place today than when we were kids and we truly dont know the ramifications of everything we are doing now. heck, those i-pods we are all buying may be the downfall of civilization as far as we know. i can remember how tickled my grandma was at the advent of "convenience foods". the miracle that was "shake and bake". she certainly didnt think it was such a big deal then. some people just tend to be judgemental and thats all there is to it. if it wasnt fat kids, it might be the wrong accent or manners or religion. avoiding having those tendencies is sometimes difficult, but it's one of my priorities in teaching my son about life.

 

[Marseeya]

And I don't think kids with thyroid problems or bad genes were even meant to be included in this. The # of kids with these problems has not risen with the numbers of children battling obesity from bad environmental circumstances. There have always been plus sizes out there for kids like this- who are a little chubby, or have some kind of medical problem. But now there are TONS of plus sized clothing out there. Like another said- it's the EXPANSION of it, not the presence of it.

Maybe they weren't "meant" to be included in it, but how could they not be when the OP talks about "those families" that she sees in the malls and stores? How on earth can one possibly know whether the family is obese because of genetics, other issues, or simply for bad choices?

You see a fat woman sitting in a restaurant eating a big burger -- how can you know if she eats that way all the time, or if that's her one big splurge for the week? (Weight Watchers, anyone?)

How are we not supposed to be offended? Do you think overweight people are blind to the looks of disgust? To the judgments? Do you think the kids are blind to it?

 

[kasar]

I dare anyone to find two more active, athletic, fit kids than my two daughters. They play sports every day and eat excellent, healthy meals (with occasional treats). That said, they are extremely difficult to fit, mainly because they're both super tall and have muscular builds - not fat at all. My poor DD is 10 and she's 5'6" and has a size 10 shoe. Even though she's the size of an adult she's still a little girl and all she wants to do is fit in Limited 2 clothes like her friends - what's a mom to do? Whenever I see a plus size I grab it because it allows me to get her the cute clothes that her peers wear for a little bit longer. Please don't judge little girls, they do it enough on their own.

 

[luv2nascar]

why is it still okay for people to make fun of fat people. It is no longer exceptable to make fun of religion, race, sexual orientation, etc but fat make all the jokes you want to. It is hard to find clothes for tall people, slim people, bigger people etc. How can you look at clothes on a rack and determine obese people are wearing them.

We all need to be a little more understanding - as others have said people come in all shapes and sizes.

My grandmother was plus sized, my mother wears size tall & is very slim, I am not tall or slim. Different strokes for different folks.

 

[Marseeya]

I guess your kids are perfect

You mean you didn't realize this by now? Skinny people ARE perfect! It's the ideal that we all want to achieve.

 

[inaminute]

If I were to start a thread that stated that I saw a lot of children who looked too thin and that it was their parents fault for not feeding them enough would that be OK?

Yeah, maybe we should label these poor children anorexic and turn their parents in for abuse and neglect. After all, don't they know is unhealthy to be too thin?

 

[vivilasvegas]

You mean you didn't realize this by now? Skinny people ARE perfect! It's the ideal that we all want to achieve.

Well, that's just as condescending as making fun of fat people.

I've seen overweight children at work who eat well and are active. I've also seen the overweight children where the mom gives them a chocolate bar to keep them quiet. I'm assuming the OP is discussing the latter.

 

[poohbear1029]

You mean you didn't realize this by now? Skinny people ARE perfect! It's the ideal that we all want to achieve.

Apparently they must be cause its my skinny DH who has spent his whole life trying to put weight on and he eats way more junk than me! I on the other hand am plus sized and continually striving to be thinner.


Just because someone is think doesnt mean they are any healthier....yes, obesity is a health risk....but so is being an underweight.....but its easier for society to judge the overweight person.

Thin people who eat cheeseburgers have heart attacks too!

 

[lindalinda]

I must confess I am a recovering skinny person. I say recovering because althought I have achieved slightly chubby, I am an avid exerciser and could revert at any moment. At least I keep telling myself that Seriously though, all my friends and co-workers are always flabbergasted that I am not skinny as a rail. Because they see me in constant motion, know I exercise daily, take 19 flights of stairs at work, and eat healthy choices (most of the time). My son is thin and exercies and works out. And he is WORRIED. That bothers me. He is afraid he will get fat. Mostly because he sees how hard I work to fight it off. He thinks that genetics will get him and so he better stay as thin as he can now to try to fight it off. I mean, I am glad he is cognizant of the issue but I hate that he worries at 14 that he will get fat at 30.

 

[SueM in MN]

My 2 DDs were always thin with long legs, so we were always looking for slims (my sisters and I were like that too). It was annoying for me to be able to find every size except what I needed.
Obviously, for whatever reason, there is more demand for plus size clothes than for slims or they wouldn't have those sizes. But, they have been around for a really long time. I remember some of my friends wore "Chubbies" or "Pretty Plus" (kind of off-putting names for those sizes). My niece wore plus sizes, but she wasn't fat, just solid. She couldn't fit in Juniors because she didn't have any curves (and you need hips to fit in those). When she shot up about 6 inches and got hips, then she fit in Juniors.
They used to have a size called Subteens or something like that. I have a feeling that some of the older girls who wear the 1/2 sizes would actually fit better in those if they still had them.

I think it's nice that they have sizes to fit lots of body types. (I just wish they had more slims).

 

[vivilasvegas]

I must confess I am a recovering skinny person. I say recovering because althought I have achieved slightly chubby, I am an avid exerciser and could revert at any moment. At least I keep telling myself that Seriously though, all my friends and co-workers are always flabbergasted that I am not skinny as a rail. Because they see me in constant motion, know I exercise daily, take 19 flights of stairs at work, and eat healthy choices (most of the time). My son is thin and exercies and works out. And he is WORRIED. That bothers me. He is afraid he will get fat. Mostly because he sees how hard I work to fight it off. He thinks that genetics will get him and so he better stay as thin as he can now to try to fight it off. I mean, I am glad he is cognizant of the issue but I hate that he worries at 14 that he will get fat at 30.

When I was a teen, I was skiiiinnny. So I ate whatever I wanted. Someone should have told me that at 25, it wouldn't work that way anymore!! I agree, it's bad to be worrying about weight all the time, skinny or fat.

Now at 32, I'm thin, but now I have to watch what I eat and exercise. And I try not to beat myself up if I eat junk for a week and gain a few pounds. Stupid metabolism.

 

[grlpwrd]

I distinctly recall an older post of your's mentioning about how shocked you were about seeing mostly black people living in New Orleans:

As I've been watching the post hurricane footage from New Orleans I couldn't help but wonder, are there any caucasians in New Orleans? Being from Seattle, where african americans are a small minority, and some of us are naive enough to think the whole US is this way , I thought maybe only the white folks chose to evacuate before the storm. After checking the demographics (2000 cencus) for New Orleans I see that the total population is 484,674 - with 325,947 blacks and 135,956 whites. That being said, do you think it will hamper fund raising, that the majority of the victims whose faces are on the television are black? The media has been under scrutiny lately for following stories of whites more than blacks lately (I'm thinking of the missing girl in Aruba). Do you think it will make a difference in how much money is raised?

I also remember my response that living where you live it's understandable how you see things the way you do:

Thanks for asking a non-PC question. I didn't interpret any racism in your post, just inquisitiveness. Seattle is not very racially diversified - I've lived in Kirkland for 11 years and attended the UW for 5 years - so I can see why you asked.

Looks like you really don't have much diversity there both ethnically and size-wise - still. Just curious...Have you ever lived anywhere else? Most importantly, though, I sure hope your mentality about chubby folks is not reflected onto your dd.

I'm not going to get after you about the issue of obesity per se (edited/added: because it's common knowledge that our country has an obesity problem), but I think a big part of why you feel the way you do is that there is little to no diversity there and hence little to no tolerance, unfortunately. To me that is worse (or just as worse) as being chubby or overweight, but that's just my opinion.

 

[kristen821]

I think somebody needs to pass some popcorn over here!

 

[chobie]

The OP wins! She's a better parent then parents of kids who wear plus sizes! Congrats!

 

[Cindyluwho]

Most importantly, though, I sure hope your mentality about chubby folks is not reflected onto your dd.

it's common knowledge that our country has an obesity problem), but I think a big part of why you feel the way you do is that there is little to no diversity there and hence little to no tolerance, unfortunately.

As I stated before, I see no problem with an adult being overweight or obese, that is there own situation and their business. But passing on an unhealthy lifestyle to their children should at the very least be addressed. It's all over the news every day that it's extremely unhealthy for children to be obese so it's not like folks haven't heard that information before. And no, I will not be tolerant when it comes to the life of a child. Enough is enough and these children deserve better. If you're feeding your child healthy foods - fine. If your child is genetically predisposed to being overweight - fine. But when you feed your child junk food, soda pop and they don't participate in any physical activity - that is YOUR fault and no one elses and it's downright abusive.

 

[skiwee1]

Let's put it this way. If you were in the grocery store and you saw an adult abusing a child would you be judgemental? How is feeding your child unhealthy food and setting them up for teasing, health issues, etc any different?

You have a lot of room to talk. You call it abuse when you set the child up for teasing yet you would name your boy child Elvis!!!! Bahahahahaha! I consider that abuse. Can you imagine what teasing and ridiculing that child would go through with that horrendous name?

 

[Cindyluwho]

Okay, just because you're kids are thin, everyone else should too?

I guess your kids are perfect

Let's get this straight right now. The skinny girl on the left in the photo is our Akulina, she is from the Chernobyl area. She comes to us every June suffering from malnoutrition and I do my darndest to get 10-15 pounds on her in just six short weeks. And even though I send as much $$ as I possibly can back home with her the only food they're able to buy there is so full of radiation that it's unhealthy anyway and there's usually nothing on the store shelves anyway. So yes, I do worry about what the kids eat and I make sure that it's as healthy as can be. My own DD is what I would consider average build, she just happens to be tall so it's hard to get clothes that fit.

Talk about being judgemental! So, Miss judemental here (me) cares enough about kids to try to make a statement for parents to wise up and care for their children. Doesn't anyone realize that in other parts of the world children are starving and here we are in the US with many families overeating. Use that extra money you spend on unhealthy food and help out others that are less fortunate.

 

[Cindyluwho]

You have a lot of room to talk. You call it abuse when you set the child up for teasing yet you would name your boy child Elvis!!!! Bahahahahaha! I consider that abuse. Can you imagine what teasing and ridiculing that child would go through with that horrendous name?

Considering my Dad's name is Irp, I thought Elvis was rather tame