Would you sell it or give it away?

[MIGrandma]

Frustrated. The thread was pretty straight-forward and on-topic until it was pulled off-topic by people who wanted to judge the OP for her 'parenting' skills. So, to answer your question, my feeling at the time I posted my response was frustration: frustration with beings who feel the need to create drama where there is none.

To predict your next question, I now feel indifference and have no desire to continue the drama-fest that may now ensue since history has taught us that there are people who see differences of opinion as an opportunity to waste two or three hours of a beautiful Saturday afternoon arguing on an internet bulletin board.

OP, you have my advice. I hope the sell/give-away goes well for you!

Since when has ANY topic stayed "on topic?"

And there was no "drama" until you chose to criticize those of us who said we wouldn't make her give up the stuffed animal.

Enjoy your beautiful Saturday afternoon!

 

[luvmy3]

Since your dd bought it I would let her decide whether to sell it or give it away.

And OP, I'm totally with you, I would not want a used stuffed animal in my house let alone a huge one . If I was at that garage sale with my dd and she wanted it, it would be a big fat no way.

 

[disykat]

I would not buy the sob story. I'd still charge the $10 and then give all that money to my daughter.

Me too. The person wanting the stuffed animal was not on freecycle. Craigslist is for selling things. You aren't auditioning people who have the best story. They either want to pay your price or they don't.

 

[LuvLDM]

Since keeping it isn't an option I would just give my Dd $2 then toss the stuffed animal in a donation bin.
Craigslist for a used stuffed animal that cost $2, seriously?

 

[ADisneyQueen]

I would just give it to Salvation Army or another charity thrift store. It would not be worth it to me to go through the hassle of selling it, especially if the buyer were coming to my house to get the toy ( waht if they are creepy).

 

[PaulaSB12]

Wow....I guess I'm the only one thinking, "No, you should have let your daughter keep it. It was her money."

But now that you've listed it, you've kind of tied your hands. I'd give it away and then give my daughter $20 to spend on whatever she wanted to make up for me denying her something for no good reason that she bought with her own money.

Another who thinks giving it away is wrong. It shows a lack of respect to her daughter to say that something SHE owns is to be got rid of. It doesn't belong to the OP. How would she feel if her husband craiglisted some of her possesions?

 

[daisyduck123]

I would not buy the sob story. I'd still charge the $10 and then give all that money to my daughter.

Yep - same here!

 

[maxiesmom]

Another who thinks giving it away is wrong. It shows a lack of respect to her daughter to say that something SHE owns is to be got rid of. It doesn't belong to the OP. How would she feel if her husband craiglisted some of her possesions?

No kidding!

 

[WDWorBUST]

I would just probably donate it to get rid of it. However as far as whether your daughter should get to keep it or not only the OP knows her situation. Personally I wouldn't have allowed my daughter something like that to begin with and if she got it without my permission it would be going away. Our house is so tiny there sure isn't room for a 4 foot tall stuffed dog.

 

[dislaney]

I would sell it for $10 and give the whole $10 to my daughter.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Oh good grief. Seriously? Is this not a message board?

Anyone who posts anything on a message board such as this is going to get all kinds of responses. You've been here long enough to know that. But I guess it made you feel good about yourself to let us know that.

And thank you, but we really don't need our memories refreshed.

Exactly.

OP, you have my advice

Ah. Then what else does she need?

Me too. The person wanting the stuffed animal was not on freecycle. Craigslist is for selling things. You aren't auditioning people who have the best story. They either want to pay your price or they don't.

I agree. Personally, I don't sell on Craigslist...we donate to the Salvation Army (sometimes Freecycle), but if you do sell on Craigslist, you decide the price you're willing to accept.

Before I'd do anything tho, I'd throw the thing in the wash (laundromat if you need a big machine) and see how it comes out for DD to keep (unless it's just too far gone and gross). Too bad for the older sibs.

 

[Magpie]

I think you were wrong to put it on Craigslist. Your daughter bought it with her own money, therefore it was hers.

However, since you've already done it, take the ten dollars and give the money to your daughter.

Ten dollars won't break the bank for the family with the sick kid, so you don't have to feel bad about charging them for it.

My son dragged home an old black and white TV once that he found on a curb. His dad wanted to get rid of it (he's got a thing about stuff you find on the curb), but I felt bad for the boy because he'd worked so hard to get it home. So I said he could keep it. And you know what? My son built an antenna out of a coat hanger and actually got the thing working for awhile. Eventually he got bored with it, though, and THEN when we asked if it could go back out on the curb, he said sure.

 

[Mermaid02]

I'd give it away (those fair stuffed animals are not worth anything) I'd give my daugher $2 and remind her that she can't buy stuff like that at a yard sale without asking.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I would either give it away to the person who said their kid was sick, donate it to the salvation army, or sell it for the $2 your daughter paid. And in any case, unless you specifically forbade your daughter from buying it in the first place, I would then give your daughter $2.

 

[buckler]

Sell it for $10 and give the money to your daughter. She'll realize that she made $8 on the deal . She'll buy up all the gigantic stuffed animals she can find and go into business reselling them on Craigslist. Your home will be besieged by enormous pandas, monkeys, rabbits and dogs!

 

[ksjayhawks]

Don't buy the sob story. You get a laot of that from Craig's list unfortunately.

Sell it for $10 and give the money to your daughter.

 

[EllenFrasier]

Nope, you're not the only one. I was thinking the same thing myself. If she had her own money why should she have to give it up? What harm is there in keeping it?

Now if the mother specifically told her NOT to buy any stuffed animals, that would be different. But if the mother never put any stipulations on what items she could buy, I think she should be allowed to keep it.

I wouldn't ever have told my DD she couldn't keep something she bought with her own money at a garage sale, unless I specifically told her not to buy certain items.

Actually, I did tell her not to buy any stuffed animals, so she knew she shouldn't have bought it. The thing is so big it literally takes up half her bed - you've seen the big stuff animals at Six Flags - it's one of those. And she has allergies and asthma so excess stuffed animals around collecting dust will not be a good thing. She just got it Friday, so it's not like it's her favorite stuffed toy or something.
I'll see if the person with the story wants to come tomorrow and pick it up, if not then it's going to the next person in line.
And it's not going to be my money, the $10 goes to dd11 for somethings she's saving up for this summer.

 

[luvmy3]

Another who thinks giving it away is wrong. It shows a lack of respect to her daughter to say that something SHE owns is to be got rid of. It doesn't belong to the OP. How would she feel if her husband craiglisted some of her possesions?

As long as my children live in my house what they purchase would have to be OKed by me, my 12 year old isn't allowed to just buy whatever she wants. Good grief, its not like the OP snuck into her dd's room went through her stuff and decided to get rid of some of it by selling it on Craiglist

 

[EllenFrasier]

As long as my children live in my house what they purchase would have to be OKed by me, my 12 year old isn't allowed to just buy whatever she wants. Good grief, its not like the OP snuck into her dd's room went through her stuff and decided to get rid of some of it by selling it on Craiglist

I used to make my kids nervous when I sold things on Ebay way back when it was not a losing battle to sell on Ebay. I'd go through their toy boxes and sort stuff - they'd come and say "Mom, I still play with this"....of course, I would never get rid of anything without okaying it with them first.

I wasn't offended by the posters who went off on a tangent - been around long enough to know that some people are just like that.

 

[PebblesMom]

Sell it for $10 and give the money to your daughter. She'll realize that she made $8 on the deal . She'll buy up all the gigantic stuffed animals she can find and go into business reselling them on Craigslist. Your home will be besieged by enormous pandas, monkeys, rabbits and dogs!

I have a large red bull dog that I would be willing to give her to get her business up and running! I don't even think DH would miss it