Would you say something?

[FergieTCat]

Over the weekend, I went shopping with a friend and her GF. I went to meet her, and she drove to the mall. During the course of our shopping, my friend got sick. We were in a store and her GF found me to tell me that my friend was sick in the restroom, and that we needed to leave immediately. That's fine, nothing you can do about that.

As we left the mall, we spent another hour making 3 additional stops in stores that my friend wanted to visit. Remember, she was sick and we were supposed to be leaving IMMEDIATELY (her GF made that clear). I had made it clear that I wanted to stop in Macy's, which we never got to. My friend apologized, and her GF said to her "I don't know why you care, you never wanted to shop in Macy's in the first place."

I'm irritated that (1) if my friend was sick, why did we spend another hour at the mall, (2) if she had told me we weren't leaving immediately, I would have met her at the car, and (3) if she didn't want to go to Macy's, why didn't she tell me so I could have gone myself.

So, my question is, would you say something or let it go? If so, what would you say?

 

[Crankyshank]

The first time they stopped off at another store when they were supposedly on their way out I would have told them I needed to run quickly to Macy's and would meet them at the car in 15min.

 

[kelleigh1]

I think now it is too late to say something. I agree with what Jenn said. I would have said something when we stopped at the first store or even the second so you could have at least gotten done what you needed to do too. Or I would have said something when you finally got to the car. The only thing you'll accomplish by bringing it up now is more anger and hurt feelings.

 

[Buckalew11]

If I wanted to shop for something important that I needed to get, I'd make sure I never shopped with that friend again. Had she been sick and needed to leave immediately, I would have understood but her shenanigans tell me otherwise. I'd pass on the next trip.

 

[SC Minnie]

That's one reason I prefer to shop alone.

Too late to say something now but at least for the future you know not to go with them.

 

[FergieTCat]

Thanks for the input.

I guess it is too late to say something, but I am never wasting my time with her again. This is the first time she's pulled this type of stunt, but she has done other things in the past. I am getting good at heading her off at the pass, but this was a new one.

The problem is that she truly believes the world revolves around her (because her mother has been telling her so for the past 40 years) and managed to find a GF who supports this belief.

 

[HoneyPooh]

To late to say something now, but you know for future reference.

I have a friend as well as a sister that I refuse to go to the mall with. Both of them end up dragging me around the mall helping them cart their purchases. I'm not a PPH (personal package hauler) . I like to spend time with them just not at a mall, EVER.

 

[KarenAylwood]

Thanks for the input.

I guess it is too late to say something, but I am never wasting my time with her again. This is the first time she's pulled this type of stunt, but she has done other things in the past. I am getting good at heading her off at the pass, but this was a new one.

The problem is that she truly believes the world revolves around her (because her mother has been telling her so for the past 40 years) and managed to find a GF who supports this belief.

Oh believe me, I know how you feel. I have a "friend" like this- we were pretty close initially then her true colors just kept showing through little by little until I got burned by one of her selfish moves and really saw her for what she is.

Many of these people just won't understand that the world doesn't revolve around them, and if you tell them so- it will only make them angry. I've found that the best way to deal with my "friend" is to just let these things go (unless it's saying something small in the moment when she's doing something that irritates me). If you let them build up and then say something much later, not much comes from it but more frustration.

 

[ilovepcot]

I found myself gritting my teeth as I read the OP. That's they very reason I refuse to "seriously* shop with another person. Just to tag along and "look" is fine, but if I'm on a mission, let me go alone. Other people distract me and, quite frankly, waste too much of my time. Solo shopping....it rules!

 

[nowellsl]

Next time I would meet her at the mall - then you can stay if she has to leave. I don't think I would say anything at this point.

 

[Freyja]

I´d probably let it go but still be annoyed.

 

[lulugirl]

I would let it go.

 

[figment52]

Thanks for the input.

I guess it is too late to say something, but I am never wasting my time with her again. This is the first time she's pulled this type of stunt, but she has done other things in the past. I am getting good at heading her off at the pass, but this was a new one.

The problem is that she truly believes the world revolves around her (because her mother has been telling her so for the past 40 years) and managed to find a GF who supports this belief.

PAST 40 YEARS!!!!


I thought one of the teens posted this - lol