Would you have expected a call?

[golfgal]

I would consider the call from my 14 year old sufficient. If the accident was more extensive, yes, I would want to talk to the mom but probably would have done that when they dropped off my child or when I picked them up.

I probably would have called the mom, however, to make sure she was ok and to see if she needed help getting the kids home, etc.

 

[clh2]

I guess I don't see it as that big of a deal. I would think she was making calls to the insurance company, husband, etc. The DS is old enough to let you know what happened and he could have told her he had texted you.

This.

 

[mjkacmom]

If this was dd14, I would've expected a call - from her. I don't even have most of her friends' mothers' phone numbers! I can't imagine getting a phone call from another mom in this situation (unless it was her bff's mom - we are good friends).

 

[goofyernmost]

Just wondering...did you call her to see if she was alright? If not then the pot is calling the kettle black.

You knew he was OK, he texted you and told you so. There was no reason for a panic call, there were no injuries and it was a minor accident. Your child knew that you had your phone off so he left a message and since there was no urgency, that was all that was required.

 

[Disney1fan2002]

I don't think i would even expect my 14yo to call.

I am trying to think back to when I was that age. If I were in a fender bender (and a minor one at that) my mom would not have gotten a call, I would tell her when I got home. Granted, there were no cell phones back then, but I don't think the other mom would need to call my mom from her rotary dial land line with the 10 foot cord after she got home.

 

[Christine]

If it truly was just a minor fender bender then No I wouldn't have called with a 14 yr old with their own phone. I would just think that the kid would have let you know. If it was a little child I may have but not with a kid that old if it were very minor.


Since when are fender benders in the news?

Yeah, it depends on the seriousness of the fender bender.

My car was hit from behind while going 5-7 mph. It took most of one side of my bumper off and I did have to call the cops and a make a report. I did sit around waiting to finish up paperwork for much of an hour.

If I had someone else's 14 y/o with me and I was late getting them home, yes I would have called and let them know. Other than that, probably not since I was "tapped."

If we had been a higher speeds and were jostled about when the hit occurred, I would certainly call the parent.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

Did she even know your son was texing you? She could've been busy with the police or exchanging information with the other party when your son texted you. Or she could've asked the kids to contact their parents to let them know and your son sent you a text since he couldn't reach you.

IMO, after she made sure everyone was ok, she most likely needed to talk to the police, her husband/SO, insurance company...that can take awhile, depending on the circumstances. It's understandable that you didn't get a call right away.

Yep. The accidents I've been in, it can take a while to get everything squared away. Contacting the parents of a perfectly normal 14 year old with a cell phone who should know how to contact his parents would be low on the list, if it was even on the list.

 

[luvsJack]

If I had been the other mom, I would have made my calls to insurance, etc. and then asked your son if he called you. If he said, "yeah, i sent her a text", I would have assumed that was sufficient. Maybe that is what she did?

I probably would have made sure he or I did something, though. We live in a small enough area that it would be really easy for you to have gotten a call from a neighbor saying, "hey! I saw xxxx and it looked liked she was in an accident".

 

[dislaney]

If my 14 year old had contacted me that would have been enough.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

With a small fender bender, If I had seen your son send you a text I probably would have figured that was sufficient.

If it had been a really bad accident and/or your son was injured I would have called you myself.

 

[sue and co]

With a minor incident and no injuries then no I wouldn't expect a call if it was one of mine nor would I make one for a child of that age. I would probably ask if they had their phone with them and if not get one of my kids to lend them their phone to call home whilst I was using my phone to sort things out. With a younger child or if anyone was injured I would be making that call.