Would You Guys Find This Strange? Update: Everything's Okay But I'm Mad

[vald1977]

The whole situation seems strange to me. If you talked to them the night before they left, why would they not say they were leaving town? Hope everything turns out okay.

 

[CajunDixie]

I would get myself over to the house also to see if she's there. If you cannot get a straight answer and get in contact with her yourself, I think I would call the police.

You have got to be kidding!

You would call the police because 2 adults each decided to go out of town and didnt ask for the child's permission?!?! Unless you think your father is a murderer why would you do this? If my parents called the police everytime I was busy living my own life we'd have no relationship. You even said you talked to them the night before so less than 24 hours later you think the police need to be notified? It may have been inconsiderate but its not criminal to live your own life.

 

[Lorix2]

CajunDixie - relax a bit...

Go back and reread my posts, I had misunderstood the story, you obviously missed that.

 

[honeywolf7]

I didn't call the police and wouldn't unless I go like 24 more hours without hearing from my mom and without being able to reach her, but I don't think I'll do it even then.

 

[poohandwendy]

I am sure everything is ok and that you will talk to your mom soon, but I am confused...if you talked to your dad, why didn't you just ask when they were both planning on returning home? And did you ask why your mom was in NC?

 

[poohandwendy]

Oops, double post....

Also, why not just call your dad back, tell him you are worried and get some answers?

 

[honeywolf7]

He basically hung up on me after telling me that talking to him on the cell phone was not a good idea and that nothing was wrong but they were checking something out.

 

[poohandwendy]

So why not call him back and ask him to call you (collect) from a payphone (because you are worried about them) OR tell you when they will be home? I just don't see why you don't do the legwork that the police would obviously start with.

 

[Lorix2]

honeywolf - doesn't it seem to you that your dad is hiding something? From your posts, it's seems as though he is. Poohandwendy had a good idea.

I just can't see a parent being so vague and elusive with their kids knowing it's causing them major concern.

Unless god forbid, something is really wrong.

He still will not tell you where your mom is?

 

[keenercam]

honeywolf -- I don't want to scare you, but just wanted to relate to you something that happened to me a couple years ago.

I couldn't get in touch with my parents. Finally, my dad returned my call and just said he and my mom had been busy. When I asked to talk to her she was out here or there, constantly. Finally, when I tried very very late one night and he couldn't make an excuse, I found out she was in the hospital, in ICU and the prognosis was very bad, but she had made him promise not to tell me because she didn't want me to worry. Can you imagine how scared and angry I was? She ended up being in ICU a total of 13 weeks, but eventually came home.

I hope your parents are just separately pursuing other interests. Good luck and keep us posted. I will say a prayer for them and you that this is all very simple and innocent.

 

[honeywolf7]

I just tried to call him back and got the voice mail. That could mean the phone's off or that he's busy or that he just doesn't want to answer it. I also called my mom's phone and still got the unavailable message. The thing is my mom wouldn't hide anything from me (which is why it surprises me that she didn't tell me they were going out of town....she's not usually inconsiderate) but my dad doesn't seem to know the meaning of the word "considerate" at times.

 

[4cruisin]

Becki,

Do you have a close family member (aunt or uncle) or friend of your parent's that you could contact to see if they are aware of what is going on. Maybe your mom confided in a friend or family member rather than worry you.

Just a thought.

Nancy

 

[honeywolf7]

I'm thinking of calling their next door neighbor because she and my mom are diet/exercise buddies and have become really good friends, but part of me is afraid my dad will get mad at me for bothering her if it turns out to be nothing.

 

[bizybea]

honeywolf7~ This is just what I was thinking when I read what your dad said about the cell phone...maybe they are in a hospital and he feels he shouldn't use his cell phone because they will interfere with the machinery. (They do have signs saying no cell phone usage in this area.) Also because he said they were getting something checked out. I would call the neighbor and see if she knows anything. If your dad gets angry, let him know that when he didn't let you know what was going on you had to see if you could get information from someone else. I would also leave a voicemail for your father asking him to call you and let you know what's going on because you are worried. I hope that you hear something soon that will ease your worries. *hugs*

 

[honeywolf7]

I can't believe I didn't even think to worry about my mom. I started classes yesterday and my dad might not be the most considerate person in the world, but he doesn't like me to worry about things that I can't change and when the dog that I had since I was 12 and that died when I was 25 was sick, dad didn't tell me and even had my mom tell me after she died (I know a dog and a person are very different issues, but I do see a pattern with my dad) and it worries me that he said "Nothing's wrong." That seems like he was trying to cover something up.

 

[honeywolf7]

Everything's okay with my parents....They decided to go look at a motor home (or rather my mom drove my dad to Raleigh-Durham and then he flew to look at a motor home) and dad didn't think it was important to tell me so mom went along with him....I gave her a major lecture about letting me know from now on if they're going somewhere. I am so tempted to not tell them the next time I go somewhere.

 

[preshi]

I'm glad everythigns ok but why should your parents as ADULTS have to tell you where they are going? And why should you as an ADULT tell your parents every move you make?

 

[honeywolf7]

It's considerate to tell someone if you're going that far out of town. My mom even said she knew I'd worry and she still didn't tell me b/c dad didn't think I needed to know. I sure as heck wouldn't go out to L.A. or something without telling someone. What if something happened to me....who would know where I was supposed to be? Besides, would it have been so hard for my father to say "I'm looking at a motor home" when I talked to him yesterday? The kind of funny thing was that I talked to my ex-father-in-law about it because he lives closer to where they do and he ended up asking me where I had been the week before last (I certainly didn't think he was one of the people I needed to tell when I go out of town) and he also asks me questions like whether I'm on the Pill (I guess maybe I got used to being part of a very close-knit family when I was married to Thom and I'm still very close to his dad and step-mom so I expect the same kind of closeness with my parents, but maybe I'm wrong to expect that.)

 

[bizybea]

honeywolf7~ I am so glad that everything is alright. I would be angry, too...not that they didn't tell me what they were doing but over the fact that they (being your father) didn't reassure you that there was nothing to worry about. He was being awfully vague with you on the phone and all...of course you would worry. I'm glad it was nothing serious and I would have reacted the same way.

 

[disykat]

oops! Double post!