Would You Guys Find This Strange? Update: Everything's Okay But I'm Mad

[honeywolf7]

I've been trying to call my mom all day and been getting no answer. So, I finally tried one of my parents' cell phones (each one of them has one but they trade them back and forth so I never know which one of them I'll get when I call plus sometimes they go into Richmond-they live about 45 minutes away from Richmond-together so I might get them both together.) Well, today my dad answered and I asked him where mom was. He told me she wasn't there and that he was in Chicago. He then went on to say mom was in North Carolina. I just talked to them last night and they were at home and didn't mention that they were going anywhere. I go places sometimes unexpectedly, but I don't just disappear....I tell people that I'm going somewhere even if I don't necessarily tell them where (they can always reach me on my cell.) Would anybody else feel really concerned about what the heck was going on? Oh, one more thing....when I asked my dad what he was doing in Chicago, he said that I should talk to him when he wasn't on the cell (exactly how am I supposed to do that when he's in Chicago?) and that nothing was wrong but they wanted to check something out. Honestly, part of me is worrying that something is wrong since he's had some health problems recently but he won't let mom tell me about them (I've gotten a little about them out of her, but she tells me that he doesn't want me to know.)

 

[Rajah]

Yes, I would.

 

[Lorix2]

Yes, I would find this strange.

I would get myself over to the house also to see if she's there. If you cannot get a straight answer and get in contact with her yourself, I think I would call the police.

 

[honeywolf7]

Thanks....I can't reach my mom on the cell phone and the more I think about this the more I worry. I called TJ and he's going to take me out to their house since he's a sheriff's deputy and would probably have better rapport with the police if I have to get them involved. I didn't even think to worry about my mom.

 

[Lorix2]

Can you get your dad to understand that this is worrying you? Also that if he will not cooperate you'll send the authorities out there? How is your dad's mental health?

 

[honeywolf7]

I've always thought my dad's mental health was pretty decent (although he's always been depressed and one of my mom's counselors at one point said that just like my ex is bipolar, she thinks there's a good chance that my dad is as well although he's never been diagnosed.) He might listen if I said that I was going to send the authorities out there if I can't get a straight answer but what good does that do if neither one of them is out there? I don't want to overreact, but it just seems strange to me.

 

[CEDmom]

I'd be concerned but I wouldn't be at the point of calling the police or going to their house. You know your father is in Chicago and your Mom is in North Carolina so they're not missing. I would wait until your father gets home (do you know when that will be?) and go see him to find out what's going on. Some people are leary of telling personal information over the phone for fear someone might intercept the call. It sounds like your father is one of those people. It is odd they didn't mention traveling when you talked to them yesterday but maybe they wanted to have all the answeres on whatever the situation is before telling you.

Sorry, I forgot to add that I really hope everything is ok and this is just a case of misunderstanding or something like that.

 

[Lorix2]

Well, getting the police involved might make your dad have to tell you where she is because you are worried about her well being and that he will not divulge in the info and you cannot locate her and that it's not like her to do that or him to change the whereabouts twice to you.

Tell them everything you posted here to them. Only if you're truly worried something might be wrong, that's all I mean.

 

[caseylouandtyler2]

I agree with CEDMOM.

 

[honeywolf7]

It's not like my mom to disappear without letting me know nor is it like my dad to let her drive to another state considering he doesn't like her to drive in the dark here and he says an hour is too far for her to drive here. No, he didn't say when they'd be home. I'm going to go out there to make sure nothing looks strange (after all, I am an only child so there's not really anyone else to check) but I'll give my mom 48 hours to call me before I alert the police.

 

[Lorix2]

honeywolf - I'M SORRY!!

I misread your post to think that your parents were 45 minutes from you in Richmond and that he said she was in Chicago then changed it to NC - I'm really sorry, that's what got me concerned

 

[tmq2766]

I too would be concerned.... Why does your dads cell phone work in Chicago but you can't get your mom in North Carolina.....
Did you ask your dad where he is staying in Chicago? Maybe you can call him on a land phone so you can get more information out of him.

 

[FreshTressa]

Wow, I guess I would be a pretty worried!

I hope it isn't anything bad. I would be sitting on pins and needles waiting to find out what the deal is, but I am sure as soon as they get it figured out, they will let you know.

 

[honeywolf7]

That's okay....I'm still concerned but most of my concern is focused on what my dad is doing in Chicago and why he wouldn't tell me and why my mom didn't let me know she was leaving (that's not like her) than on him having done anything to her. My ex's father told me to relax, not worry, and if I haven't heard from her by tomorrow afternoon he'll help me figure out what to do.
My dad didn't tell me where he was staying in Chicago. The only reason I can think of for his cell working while hers doesn't is that he has AT&T and she has SunCom.

 

[CookieGVB]

Did you try calling the OTHER cell phone number to talk to your mother?

Honestly, I'd be confused, but wouldn't worry if he said nothing was wrong. Wait until he gets home to grill him.

 

[honeywolf7]

Cookie, I called one cell and got him and then I tried the other cell and got the roaming or unavailable message.

 

[AirForceRocks]

Originally posted by honeywolf7
Thanks....I can't reach my mom on the cell phone and the more I think about this the more I worry. I called TJ and he's going to take me out to their house since he's a sheriff's deputy and would probably have better rapport with the police if I have to get them involved. I didn't even think to worry about my mom.

First off, I hope your parents are both OK.

But now I'm confused - been busy and not keeping up, but who is TJ? What happened to Roger?

 

[honeywolf7]

I don't feel like explaining the whole thing on this thread, but here you go : http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=493602

 

[Cruisin]

Do you know of any reason why your mother would be in North Carolina, does she go there for any reason that you know about?
I would also be concerned and wonder what in the heck was going on if I were in your situation.

 

[honeywolf7]

No, I can't think of any reason for my mom to be in North Carolina (no family there or anything) anymore than I can think of a reason for my dad to be in Chicago (or a good reason, anyway...I keep thinking of bad reasons.) At least the house looked normal when we went yesterday.
Honestly, I'm still worried but I'm also a bit ticked off because I would never worry my parents like this....I always tell them if I'm going out of town and I think it was inconsiderate for them not to tell me.