Would you follow through by doing anything else?

[Justanopinion]

Here's the situation.

I picked up DD(4) from Pre-K yesterday. First thing she says is that her teacher Ms. C put a bandaid on her thumb because she hurt it on the playground. I asked how and she described scraping it. I asked her if she got a splinter and she said no. She would not let me take the bandaid off.

By the way, Pre-K is through our school district. Her school is Pre-K and K only.

So last night I put her in the bath tub. She wants to leave the bandaid on still. The bath water got it wet enough that if fell off. There is a huge, I mean huge, splinter in her thumb. This splinter was as long as my finger nail.

So it takes DH and I both holding her to get the thing out. It was in there deep. I think part of it was that after it got wet, some of it easily broke off and out while part of it was in there so deep we had to dig it out with a needle. You can imagine her screaming.

I was very upset. Why hadn't the teacher sent her to the nurse? Why did the teacher not send a note home?

So this morning, DH gets up and takes DD to Donuts with Dad to kick off the FRED program. It came up in coversation there with a few other dads. I think because DD was showing off her new bandaid to the teacher.

Well, the teacher told DH that she didn't see the splinter. I have a very hard time believing that, this splinter was huge.

Anyway, DH talked to some of the other dads, most had girls. And it seems this is becoming a problem on the playground. After talking with the other dads DH headed right over to Central Office to talk to a higher up. The dads are willing to donate time, energy, cost and what not to fix this problem on the playground, they just need to get permission first. One dad is even a construction worker. How cool is that? Save the district money and get dads involved.

But my concern is still the my child was not sent to the nurse, that no note was sent home, and that the teacher says she didn't see the splinter. If a nurse isn't even allowed to adminster headache medicine, then why should a teacher be allowed to apply a bandaid.

Would you follow through with an email to the principal or anything? I just don't want to over react but I don't want to under react either.
Thanks

 

[Boo'sMom]

let it go, nobody is going to take care of your child like you do...but it was a splinter.

 

[Aneille]

Let it go.

BTW I think its cool that all the guys want to help out the school's playground.

 

[mickeyboat]

I would focus my energy on solving the splinter problem on the playground rather than on accusing a teacher of lying. The first option will get you somewhere, the second will get you nowhere.

 

[TriMom]

Let it go - the teacher probably didn't see the splinter.

 

[jx3smom]

I have to agree with the others, let it go and focus on getting the problem fixed.

 

[ols386]

I'd let it go. I also think a teacher giving headache medicine to a child is different than a teacher putting on a band-aid. I bet the teacher just glanced at your dd's thumb, and didn't see the splinter.

 

[disykat]

I'm guessing your daughter didn't want her teacher to see the splinter any more than she wanted you to.

Like others, I'd focus on fixing the problem of the playground.

 

[AristocatFan]

I agree with let it go and focus on solving the playground problem. Here it wouldn't of mattered if the teacher or nurse had seen the splinter. They are not allowed to mess with a splinter. All they can do is put a band-aide on and instruct the child to tell mom/dad.

 

[NMAmy]

I asked her if she got a splinter and she said no.

What if the teacher asked the same question and took your dd's word for this just like you did?

Bottom line is...you don't know what really happened. Accusing the teacher of lying is not productive. The dads have the right idea by fixing the problem and preventing the kids from getting splinters in the first place.

There's no need to email anyone.

 

[shellybaxter]

Hi,
I work in a Child Development Center - I'm the Director actually. I think it would be reasonable for you to ask for a written notice if your child is hurt, but I agree wit everyone else - don't accuse the teacher of lying.

Also, our regulations allow us to apply anything that is not medicine. We can put on ice packs, band aids, even ace bandages; but not chap stick - go figure - but those are the rules.

I think its fabulous that the Dads want to help and I bet the teachers do too. Child Care programs are always last on the list of priorities for a school system.

 

[phorsenuf]

Damn teachers. They're good for nuttin!

 

[LMC]

We have to fill out accident reports for even the smallest of incidents. If I have to apply a bandaid or ice, it gets a written report to the parent and school office.

 

[Stacerita]

Id let it go. The splinter may have well not been seen by the teacher. Sometimes when water is applied to the fingers, they get puckery and that could have brought the splinter up to be more visible. I wouldn't assume the teacher is lying. And applying a bandaid is not the same as giving a med.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

What if the teacher asked the same question and took your dd's word for this just like you did?

Bottom line is...you don't know what really happened. Accusing the teacher of lying is not productive. The dads have the right idea by fixing the problem and preventing the kids from getting splinters in the first place.

There's no need to email anyone.

What she said

 

[Jennasis]

I think it's hilarious and very telling that all the DADS got together and their solution to the splinter problem was to fix the playground, but MOM is upset that the teacher didn't notify her that the kid got a splinter.

It's a splinter...let it go. I bet the kid told the teacher she hurt her thumb and the teacher handed her the band aid without even looking at the kid's thumb.

 

[Magic Mom]

But my concern is still the my child was not sent to the nurse, that no note was sent home, and that the teacher says she didn't see the splinter. If a nurse isn't even allowed to adminster headache medicine, then why should a teacher be allowed to apply a bandaid.

You really don't see the difference between a sticking a band-aid on a thumb and administering medication?

Would you follow through with an email to the principal or anything? I just don't want to over react but I don't want to under react either.
Thanks

She told you she didn't see it. Why would she not take care of it if she saw it? Let it go, it was a splinter not a steak knife.

 

[Mom2Nick]

No I absolutely would not follow up on a splinter. Teacher's are busy and it's hardly like your daughter was in danger or scarred for life over a splinter.

 

[daisyduck123]

Please just let it go. I'm sure the teacher did not see the splinter. I never look closely at children's boo boos unless they're screaming in pain.

This is absolutely NOT worth contacting the principal over.

 

[shellybaxter]

You really don't see the difference between a sticking a band-aid on a thumb and administering medication?



She told you she didn't see it. Why would she not take care of it if she saw it? Let it go, it was a splinter not a steak knife.

Actually - we are not allowed to remove a spliter unless its really really easy to pull out. No tweezers, needles, knives, etc. I'm sure its a liability issue. We are required to make an "ouch" report if we see an injury (especially if we put a band-aid on.