Would you ever remarry?

[MICKEY88]

Originally posted by snoopy
Well I can't say for sure, I think I probably would.

I've also picked out the wife for DH should I meet my untimely death before my kids are grown. Its someone I think would be a great step mother to my kids and a good wife to DH. He of course is mortified at the very though, since he doesn't really like her in that way. I told him he'd learn to like her.

sheesh you throw away the poor mans hats, you pick his next wife..I'm afraid to find out what other decisions you make for him..

 

[goofy4tink]

Nope. Married for the first time for 10 yrs. Spent my 10th anniv. in the lawyers office. Met current dh, waited 9 yrs to get married. Now, 14 yrs. have gone by. I have told him there will be NO dh number 3. Enough is enough. I tell him that perfection can't be beat but....well, that's just what I tell him. The truth? Not even close to that. But, like C.Ann, I'm 54, so am in a different spot than most of you.

 

[ShuisFan584]

Well, both my parents have, and if it wasn't for that, my sister and I wouldn't be here right now!

I've never been married, so it's hard for me to say. I know a lot of marriages don't work out, but I don't think you should have to stay single forever, just because your first marriage didn't work.

 

[Disney Doll]

I am not a "typical" woman, if what I hear and read about these days is typical. Many of my work colleagues (all ages) practically sell themselves in the quest to "get" a man...put up with ALL kinds of garbage, poor treatment, physical and verbal abuse, lack of consideration etc. I am lucky that my DH isn't like that, but if he was, I'd tolerate it for about the 30 seconds it would take for me to kick him out!!!!

So, seeing that many men today are probably "used to" a woman that will bend over backwards to get/keep them, I'd have to say that I provbaby wouldn't get asked again, even if I did want to.

Plus, my DH would be a tough act for any man to follow. I really lucked out in the husband department.

My guess is that I'd develop many friendships, and do a lot of travelling.

As for DH, I would hope he'd marry again, if he found a nice woman who wasn't a gold-digger or a shrew. I'd have to keep an eye on things from "upstairs" and make sure I send him a good one!

 

[flaps]

Originally posted by Disney Doll
I'd have to keep an eye on things from "upstairs" and make sure I send him a good one!

Disney Doll - Your comment reminds me of something. My mom once said that if she died and my dad remarried, she'd pee on him from heaven.

 

[snoopy]

sheesh you throw away the poor mans hats, you pick his next wife..I'm afraid to find out what other decisions you make for him..

Hmmmm.....well, he seems pretty happy after 18 years so I must be doing something right.

(btw the hat thing was sorta tounge in cheek tho, in case you weren't aware. )

 

[Cruise04]

Being a divorced remarried person I can say right now that I don't think I'd get remarried again. Like someone said earlier, getting my divorce was the best thing I could have done for my life and I have an absolutely wonderful husband, but I have learned this time around that I am make a better girlfriend than a wife and I think I'd be happier just dating someone and not going through the whole marriage thing again. For me, 3rd time would not necessarily be the charm.

But I would want my husband to marry again if he found someone he was very happy with. I don't think I'd want him to be alone.

 

[dizneegirl]

I've told this to DH...

I love him to death, and absolutely LOVE being married to him. But if, for some reason, we weren't together any more, I wouldn't marry again.

I'd have a "friend" or two, but I don't ever want to marry and live with someone else... have to wash someone else's underwear... have to cook for someone other than myself...

 

[welovedisneyx4]

I voted no.

I can't see my kids get used to someone else being their "father" and I don't think I could get used to someone else being my "husband". Hopefully, my parents and DH's parents and our other friends and family would still be around so I would have a good support system. I know that step parents can be wonderful, but I just don't see it in my situation. I have enough trouble w/ 2 families on holidays, etc. I don't need to add another!!! LOL!

 

[Mishetta]

I don't know if I could but I would want to for companionship! My DH is so perfect (for me) that I don't think I could ever find another man who I would love nearly as much so & I'd probably always be comparing.

We're celebrating 10 years of marriage today. I'm even more in love with him today than I was the day I married him (if that's even possible!) He's so kind to me (always, always, always puts me & the kids first) & sensitive to my needs & helps me around the house & he's such a great Dad...where in the world would I find another like that?

 

[emmagata]

Too late. I already did. But now that one is over too.

Maybe 3's my lucky number.

But at this point, that's the last thing on my mind so I can't answer one way or the other but it's interesting to see the split is almost even up.

Maybe the poll should have been setup to show gender as well. That would even more interesting.

 

[Freyja]

I certainly hope I´ll never end up in that kind of situation. However, I can hardly think of anything as sad as going through life alone. So yes, I even hope I would remarry if my life would turn out that way.

My mother died two years ago. My dad was only 53 at the time, far too young to end up sitting at home alone. He has now met a wonderful woman and has started enjoying his life again. I can´t see how anyone could be against that....

 

[gina2000]

I'd remarry if the right guy came along. I'd also have a relationship with someone while maintaining separate residences.

 

[4greatboys]

Well I already have remarried. Was married for 10 (long and unhappy) years the first time around. Met my now dh, and we dated for about 4 years and now have been married 5 yrs. It was the best thing I ever could have done!! We have a lot of fun together and enjoy being around each other.
As to whether or not I would remarry after this marriage, it would just depend on if I met the right person or not.

 

[Cailin'sMom]

I would have to agree with Disney Doll. My DH would be a tough act to follow. Don't get me wrong...he is by no means perfect. However, he cleans house (sometimes better than me), does laundry, takes care of all yard work, cooks and watches our DD when he has days off from work (he works shift work so he is off about 2 weekdays each week.)

It is hard to say what you would do when you have never been in that situation. However, my feeling is that I would not. I am extremely independent and as I said it would be hard to find someone who measures up.

I also come from a family of women that makes it on their own.
My great-grandmother was 40 when my GGF passed away and she lived to be 86, never even dating anyone. She said that her family consumed her life and she never needed a man. My GF died in 1985 so my GM has lived alone for almost 20 yrs. And my parents divorced 5 1/2 yrs ago after 26 yrs of marriage and my mother said that in order for her to get remarried the next one would have to "walk on water" and we know how likely that is.