Would you cancel if extended family couldn’t go?

[mmounsey]

We have similar extended family issues...it probably helps that most of the older adults (grandparents) are fine with not going...it's the younger ones that would love to go back (most have only been once). We just try not to talk about it constantly, until just before we go...they know we usually go every other year, so they are used to it. But we would never cancel...it is our family, and fun, mostly Disney vacations, are part of being in our family.

I'd love to take everyone for a big blowout trip...but honestly, with all my type-a, control issues, I'd probably drive myself nuts.

Go and enjoy your family and WDW, they are only young once.

 

[eeyoreandtink]

I wouldn't, and I have vowed that I will never attempt to take anyone else to Disney. So much of how a trip is structured depends on individual personalities and preferences that frankly taking my extended family would be a nightmare because they are so vastly different from us. My parents don't do crowds or waiting in line and my sister is a control freak who changes her mind way too much for me. it is much easier to take extended family vacations to places like the beach where everyone can come and go as they please and do as much or as little as they want.

 

[usnuzuloose]

You know you have your own family, and that should not stop you. It really doesn't matter what type of vacation you take. I mean I can't afford to vacation, but I am happy to hear when people can. Weather it was family or not. You have to learn that your life will not revolve around the family for every vacation. It is healthy for your family to be doing things on your own.

 

[North of Mouse]

This is an issue we’ve been dealing with and the feelings of guilt have put me to a point where I am strongly considering cancelling and postponing our Disney trip for a later time. DH and I haven’t shared our upcoming Disney trip plans with extended family. Should we just cancel and postpone our plans until DH and I can afford to pay for both grandmas to go to Disney with us?

I say it's past time to cut the apron strings and guilt! Sorry, op, but y'all are now a 'separate' family (have been for years) and need to be on your own for most things.

Yes, it's great that y'all are close, and would love to take some trips together (especially Disney), but feeling guilt about going on your own if everyone else can't make it??? Come on, that's stretching it! For your own sakes, you need to get a life, and fast.

So, no, don't postpone, and definitely don't feel guilt! Enjoy your trip!!

 

[Mousemommy1]

No. While I think it's nice of you to be concerned about your family, it's not your responsibility to make sure they can go on vacation. Your responsibility is to your immediate family, and if you can afford to go, you should. No guilt.

 

[sk!mom]

If it's YOUR dream and desire to take your moms and you could reasonably do that by postponing and saving for a few more months then maybe.

However, if that isn't the case, then heck no! You are a grown woman with her own family. Honestly guilt for taking a family vacation at your age/stage of life suggests that you may need some boundaries between yourself and your extended family.

BTW, What does your DH think?

 

[cdnjason]

Heck, I'd be more inclined to go without them.

 

[SweetMissy]

No it's your life, your vacation. We're the only ones in our family who go on vacation every year...sometimes 2. It's not my fault our financial situation is better than theirs. It's not your fault either. Go and enjoy the time with your kids.

 

[maxiesmom]

No way would I cancel. You have a right to enjoy your vacations, regardless of what other family members can and cannot afford. Stop feeling guilty about it! Life is too short, and you have no way of knowing what may happen in the future.

 

[Disneylover99]

I love my extended family, but I would never cancel if they couldn't go. In fact, I'd be secretly happy. DW trips with my extended family tend to slow me down.

 

[Baklava]

Honestly, this sounds more like they don't want to make saving for the trip a priority. My BIL is like that, they have told us that their son really wants to go to Disney with us, but we would have to pay because they aren't spending their money on it. Um, no.

I'm *howling*. Seriously, laughed out loud.

 

[DSNY4ever]

The bigger the group, the harder the trip. If family chooses to join us we only allow them to come for part of our trip, but then we need our space. I don't think there is anything you need to feel guilty about saying you are going to Disney World, and that you are just going to have some family time together. They are welcome to save and go on their own at any time

 

[2Pirates2Princesses]

Thanks again for everyone's honest feedback.

 

[Angel Ariel]

As another PP said, if it is a dream of *yours* to have the grandmas go to disney with your kids, then I would consider postponing - if they, the grandmas, were willing to do what they could to put money aside and save for it as well (to help not create the expectation that you will just cover it for them).

If it is not a dream or a priority for you, though, then no, don't postpone and don't feel guilty about going. Vacationing with extended family can be great, but I wouldn't miss out on something we really wanted to do just because others couldn't join us.