Would you be mad?

[caitycaity]

holy moley! it was rude of your parents and rude of your dh to go.

i'm sorry.

 

[PRINCESS Ariel34]

Sorry your feelings were hurt You should definitely let your husband know how you feel. My father and mother in law tried the same thing with my husband. He turned them down flat.

BTW, let your MIL know how you feel. Let her know what you think about her rudeness. When she realize your onto her, she will think twice before disrespecting you like that again.

Good luck

 

[Lady M]

It sounds pretty rude to me!!! I think you have every right to be upset, Katie.

Marie

 

[helenabear]

I'd be upset if I were you! That was just plain rude of them to do that! Sorry they did such a thoughtless thing

 

[missymouse3367]

I also would have been very upset. I first would make sure dH knows this. I also would let him know that MIL needs to know that she did wrong. {{hugs}}

 

[EROS]

Tell your DH and MIL to take a loooooooooooooooooooong walk off a short pier .....

 

[browneyes]

I would be livid. But I have a tiny bit of a temper.

Do they do this frequently? If my SO had gone after I was excluded, he would be in a LOT of hot water too.

 

[shep]

that's mean..
my parents and dw's parents KNOW BETTER than to do something like that..
Sorry they treated you like that..

 

[Rajah]

Yup, I'd be mad.

 

[Tink13]

My MIL tried this once (WAYYYYYYYYY back when we were first married) Of course my sweet DH not wanting to hurt me or HER, didnt know which way to turn,,,I told him HE would have to make up his mind on his own,,,,he DID NOT GO,,and I took that as my GREEN light to tell the old battle axe (OOPS MIL) that she would be better off not trying to exclude me again, cause he would not go without me,,,thing is up to this point I never knew there was a problem with me being there,, lol,,,,I know this feeling so I am sure you are hurt,,and have every reason to be MAD!!! Why do people go out of their way to try and make someone feel bad (YOUR MIL that is??) Can you ask her why you werent invited???


Tink13

 

[disykat]

Yep - mad! In my situation though my inlaws have treated me badly for so many years that I gladly send him off to visit them without me. However, now all visits are initiated by us on our timetable - not by them. If they were to invite - I think they know they would need to invite us both.

Is this new or an on going problem? Does dh have a clue how you feel about this?

 

[#1 Disney Fan]

Wow.

{{{{Hugs}}}} Katie.

 

[WillyJ]

I think it was unquestionably rude of your inlaws to invite your husband to dinner like that and not you. . .

But I also personally feel that it was even worse for your husband to go along with it. Maybe there is some history or details you haven't mentioned, but if it's pretty much like you describe it, then he made it possible for them to hurt and humiliate you by going, and my main beef would be with him. He should have protected you from that by giving his parents an emphatic "no" if they even hinted at inviting him and excluding you.


I hope you can talk to him Katie, and that it was just a case of him not thinking in this one instance. . . and I'm sorry this happened to you. It doesn't sound fair or right under any circumstances. . .