Would you be annoyed?

[pilesoflaundry]

If you didn't already have a once a month or twice a month getaway yes. Otherwise I don't see it as that big of a deal. Dh and I get a night alone about 1x a year or less so in that case I would be flipped.

 

[SharpMomOfTwo]

If you didn't already have a once a month or twice a month getaway yes. Otherwise I don't see it as that big of a deal. Dh and I get a night alone about 1x a year or less so in that case I would be flipped.

Once or twice a month?!?!? I wish!!!!! Its once every 2-3 months, and thats being generous!!!

 

[emer95]

Just to clear some stuff up.....

Getting one day/night along every 2-3 months may seem a lot to some people, but to me, who works a fulltime out of the house job, and a full time in the house job, and a DH who works anywhere between 40-50 hours a week.... its not enough!!! LOL
The fact that he was selling the TV (and whatever else he had out there) wasn't the issue either. Our neighbors woke us up rather early - it was about 6am that we heard them getting ready for their garage sale. We had discussed that night that since we had to pick up the girls by noon - that ment we were going to stay in bed (would get out for food and bathroom breaks) till 11.30am - something we haven't done since.... before we had kids!!!! I guess thats why I was so upset - he just decided to change the plans without even telling me.

Yes, I went for bagles - We had walked many many miles in the city the day before - I was a hungry girl - I needed food!!!!!

Wow- I work full time, and so does my husband (but he works more like 65 hours a week). My in-laws take our kids ONE A YEAR on our anniversary, and we consider ourselves extremely blessed to get that time alone.

I think you're incredibly lucky and you need to focus on that.

 

[bumbershoot]

Ya know, I had so many great records - The Beatles, The Who (my favorite band) and he has sold so many of them over the years at all our garage sales, that at this point, I don't really care anymore. I do wish I still had my Who records though

That really sucks. And it's too bad you don't care anymore. It took hubby something like 5 years to finally sell some of his comic books, because I wanted to make SURE that he was doing it because HE wanted to, not just b/c they were such a huge waste of space. Meanwhile I've carted around hundreds of albums through something like 7 apartments the last 9 years, b/c I inherited them from my mom and I'm still not ready to get rid of them...if I'd just sold the comics, or if he just sold the albums, we'd have serious problems with each other. Hope you can get that worked out!


About the first post...communication is so good. So often, the best of intentions cause the biggest fights, just b/c there's no communication. Also, it seems like he did what our counselor called "one-upping" you. You were upset about something, so he decided to *get* upset about something. Doesn't fly around here, and is always called out. Doing that doesn't result in a happy time. You could have gotten upset about him rushing off with bundles of things to sell (sounds like the TV could have been sold without supervision, right? it was the extra things that caused your reaction?), and he *could have* smoothed it over. But as soon as he one-upped you with the "well you got up first" (nanny nanny boo boo, so there (and any other toddler-ish statement I can think of, LOL)), it was over. He could have made it all better, but he chose to be childish. Sigh.

Now I'm not saying that I agree with your initial reaction...and considering that we have NEVER had a night "off" from our son I do hope you know that you are lucky beyond words (to have trustworthy people who are ready, willing, and able...we have NONE of those things)...but I do think that his reaction to your reaction was junky, and it would definitely deserve quite a bit of conversation in my household.


Also, you're lucky to have a place for a garage sale! Living in a condo, downtown, does NOT yield itself to a garage sale, and we're too chicken for CL or ebay!

 

[pilesoflaundry]

Once or twice a month?!?!? I wish!!!!! Its once every 2-3 months, and thats being generous!!!

Oops I was distracted while reading.

Anyway, you kinda opened it up when it was ok about the tv. Next time be clear those weekends are for you guys to hang out, not to do major house projects/yard sales/leave the bedroom

 

[rie'smom]

I'd have gone with the flow but that's me. I probably would have taken the bagels inside, sliced them, got some spreads, coffee, and taken a tray outside to share with my husband.

 

[daisyduck123]

I would've had our stuff out on the driveway quicker than your DH did.

I love cleaning out crap & I would've been so happy to have DH help.

 

[mjkacmom]

My DH is a packrat, and somewhat of a slob. I would've passed out from the excitement of him bringing items to a garage sale, and the fact that he would be willing to sit there and sell the junk! Nothing in this house leaves unless I get rid of it, and all 5 kids carry the hoarding gene. OMG, I would be his slave if he did this!

 

[denisenh]

Just to clear some stuff up.....

Getting one day/night along every 2-3 months may seem a lot to some people, but to me, who works a fulltime out of the house job, and a full time in the house job, and a DH who works anywhere between 40-50 hours a week.... its not enough!!! LOL
The fact that he was selling the TV (and whatever else he had out there) wasn't the issue either. Our neighbors woke us up rather early - it was about 6am that we heard them getting ready for their garage sale. We had discussed that night that since we had to pick up the girls by noon - that ment we were going to stay in bed (would get out for food and bathroom breaks) till 11.30am - something we haven't done since.... before we had kids!!!! I guess thats why I was so upset - he just decided to change the plans without even telling me.

Yes, I went for bagles - We had walked many many miles in the city the day before - I was a hungry girl - I needed food!!!!!

ok so you are in the same boat as the majority of us are in......you need to learn to be sneaky to get in 1 on 1 time.
I would have met DH in the garage....wearing a tool belt of course.

 

[GJM]

It is common in NJ to have yard sales on Sun. My sister and I always do one on Sat. & Sun.

Honestly I would have been thrilled if my DH decided to get rid of stuff and was outside trying to sell it.

I really think you got upset over nothing.

 

[Stacerita]

I would have just gone with the flow.

 

[BelleWDW]

I guess I live in the "Bible Belt" also-NEVER heard of Sunday Garage sales-ever!

 

[DebIreland]

if my DH did that on his own without my begging, pleading, or threat of death, it'd be better than anything that might have followed the bagels... heck, who am I kidding... it'd be better than anything that came before 'em too!

You only have to threaten death?? I have to threaten death and eternal damnation. You're like a spoiled princess compared to me.

OP, I think you were frustrated and maybe a bit lonely for him and that's why you behaved a bit over the top. He did a good thing but I know too that when we feel like being cherished (uh, family board an' all, LOL!) and real life gets in the way it can be hurtful even though no malice was intended.

But I must say, I felt bad for your neighbours cause if I was them I'd be thinking your DH was taking away my customers and couldn't he have picked a different day to do his selling!!

 

[mjkacmom]

I don't see what the big deal was. You would have still been together (without the kids.) You could have enjoyed the morning sitting outside talking, reading the paper, eating your bagels (were they from Panera---I LOVE Panera cinnamon bagels.) Consider yourself blessed if the worst thing your husband does is throw together a last minute yard sale to earn vacation money on your special Sunday off.

She's in NJ - we get our bagels from bagel stores (do they have them at the shore?). Yes, glorious stores that sell JUST bagels. As for the Sunday thing, ds11 shows up at church in his soccer uniform, if he can make it to church, because sometimes soccer and baseball games interfere. Fortunately, a lot of us NYC metro-ers are Catholic, and can attend Saturday night Mass.

 

[Magic Mom]

She's in NJ - we get our bagels from bagel stores (do they have them at the shore?). Yes, glorious stores that sell JUST bagels.

Golly gee.. a BAGEL store?? Yes we have those here in non-NJ land too, but the cinnamon bagels at Panrea are still great.

 

[PinkRhombus]

I'd have gone with the flow but that's me. I probably would have taken the bagels inside, sliced them, got some spreads, coffee, and taken a tray outside to share with my husband.

Ditto. Would have brought out more stuff to sell, too.

Your husband made a good effort!!!!! Do you think he's going to do that ever again? Heck, no! He'll just wait around for you to tell him what and when to do something so he won't have to hear you complain at him. And then you'll be on here complaining about him never taking the initiative.

I mean, heck, this is going towards your "Vegas fund". I'm assuming only you and he are going? What's better than a good night in Vegas seeing a show, eating a good dinner and getting a little tipsy before going back to your room?

 

[JPN4265]

Ok, heres the situation. DH and I have two beautiful daughters. We love them to death, but love to get away from them every once in a while . Every 2 months or so, his parents take them for a night so we can get away, relax, etc. So we drop them off Saturday morning, and go into the city for the day. The next morning, we are lying in bed, and DH notices that our neighbors are having a garage sale. I swear to you, dollar signs came to his eyes. Hes like "I'm going to bring our old TV over there to sell." I said fine, got dressed, and went out to get us bagles. I come back, and DH has our whole friggin drive way set up with crap the sell!! (Hes a fast guy - I was only gone for 15 minutes!! )

I got upset. First of all, yes, I knew he ws bringing our TV over to the neighbors to sell (with a few other things as well) but that was it - he wasn't going to have to sit outside all day because of that - now he will. Now all of the sudden we are having a full fledge yard sale which takes a lot of time and work. What happened to our romantic morning alone?!?!? When he sees that I'm upset, he starts turning the whole thing around on me - "You got out of bed to get bagles." "I'm doing this for you - its our Vegas Vacation fund." blah blah blah. I pretty much slammed the door in his face and told him to have a great morning alone. At that he dragged everything back into the garage/basement. Then I got even angrier - our morning was already totally RUINED - no way to get the "romance" back now, and now hes just going to scrap what he started?!?

So would you have been upset about it, or just gone with the flow?

This is an easy one. Honey with the money you are going to make, "YOU AND I ARE GOING TO DISNEY WORLD!!!!!".

 

[sunnyday123]

Ok so you and your DH work the same amount of hours everyone else does. Do the kids go to bed, ever? There's some one on one time. Reallyl, the fact that you slammed the door in his face makes it sound like right after that you threw yourself down on the floor and kicked and screamed. Unless you had some new yoga move you realllllly wanted to show him, you over did it, in a big way.

And the fact that he moved everything inside after your mini temper tantrum sounds like you have some control issues. Marriage is all about compromise.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Ok so you and your DH work the same amount of hours everyone else does. ...... Reallyl, the fact that you slammed the door in his face makes it sound like right after that you threw yourself down on the floor and kicked and screamed. .... And the fact that he moved everything inside after your mini temper tantrum sounds like you have some control issues. Marriage is all about compromise.

BINGO!!!!!

Any adult who would throw a fit and actually slam doors over something like this... After he spent his entire Saturday and Saturday evening with her...

Yep, I so suspect entitlement and control issues.

Anger issues too...
Even after everyone here suggests that she 'chill'...
She has come back with angry post, trying to justify.

Either that, or there is a lot more going on here.

 

[KristinBelle]

I think you over reacted-big time.