Would you be annoyed?

[SharpMomOfTwo]

Ok, heres the situation. DH and I have two beautiful daughters. We love them to death, but love to get away from them every once in a while . Every 2 months or so, his parents take them for a night so we can get away, relax, etc. So we drop them off Saturday morning, and go into the city for the day. The next morning, we are lying in bed, and DH notices that our neighbors are having a garage sale. I swear to you, dollar signs came to his eyes. Hes like "I'm going to bring our old TV over there to sell." I said fine, got dressed, and went out to get us bagles. I come back, and DH has our whole friggin drive way set up with crap the sell!! (Hes a fast guy - I was only gone for 15 minutes!! )

I got upset. First of all, yes, I knew he ws bringing our TV over to the neighbors to sell (with a few other things as well) but that was it - he wasn't going to have to sit outside all day because of that - now he will. Now all of the sudden we are having a full fledge yard sale which takes a lot of time and work. What happened to our romantic morning alone?!?!? When he sees that I'm upset, he starts turning the whole thing around on me - "You got out of bed to get bagles." "I'm doing this for you - its our Vegas Vacation fund." blah blah blah. I pretty much slammed the door in his face and told him to have a great morning alone. At that he dragged everything back into the garage/basement. Then I got even angrier - our morning was already totally RUINED - no way to get the "romance" back now, and now hes just going to scrap what he started?!?

So would you have been upset about it, or just gone with the flow?

 

[Wishing on a star]

Well, first of all, a big garage sale on a sunday morning!
Wouldn't fly around here..

Second, You had your Saturday and your Saturday evening, right?

Your gonna eventually have to run out and get the kids..
And, it sounds like you are able to have these weekends fairly often.

One can't speak without walking in your shoes, but I am wondering if perhaps it would have been better to go with the flow.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

You gave him the "OK" and then got mad about it.

If you wanted a romantic morning, you should not have left to get bagels or told him not to go and sell the TV. A little communication goes a long way.

Then again I have been married for almost 19yrs. and I know this....

 

[C.Ann]

Actually, I think his idea was brilliant! What better time to get rid of some junk and make some cash when there is a garage sale next-door and you don't even have to advertise?

I definitely would have gone with the flow.. It's not like the two of you never get a weekend alone..

 

[VAN]

I think I would have been more annoyed that he was taking things from the house to sell without checking with me first!!!

Yeh, I suppose I'd be a bit annoyed; however, doesn't sound like you had anything specific going on, so I'd spit and sputter a bit and then go get a cup of coffee and watch HIM run a garage sale.

Oh honey, as long as you are selling stuff, why don't we also sell those old trophies and sports equipment that are cluttering up the basement?

Oh yea, let's make this a good thing!

 

[merryweather20]

You gave him the "OK" and then got mad about it.

If you wanted a romantic morning, you should not have left to get bagels or told him not to go and sell the TV. A little communication goes a long way.

Then again I have been married for almost 19yrs. and I know this....

Okay, here is where I get confused both you and the OP's DH mentioned the bagels. Isn't going out and getting bagels for someone a nice thing to do? How does doing something nice kill the mood?

I don't think "Oh well you killed the mood first, you went to get me breakfast" sounds like a good excuse.

 

[NHdisneylover]

We live no where near family and have a morning alone maybe once a yaer or so and I STILL would have gone with the flow. If I were opposed to it I would have said so as soon as he brought up the TV. Otherwise (sorry to sounds so harsh), it sounds to me like YOU "ruined" the morning when you came back and got angry at him and slammed a door in his face, etc. Goodenss, the chance to deal witha sale without the kids and with a super motivated and helpful husband sounds great to me.
I hope it all blows over and you get on better terms ASAP

 

[KAMLEM]

Well, first of all, a big garage sale on a sunday morning!
Wouldn't fly around here..

What's wrong with a garage sale on a Sunday morning? I don't do garage sales so I don't know much about them, but I would think that Sunday morning would be the best time.

 

[wvjules]

Yes, I would be annoyed....at you.

 

[diznygirl]

I still haven't gotten past the fact that you went out to get bagels instead of rolling over and going back to sleep. That would have been the big score!!!!

 

[Wishing on a star]

The bagels really have nothing to do with it...

IMHO, the OP may be a little over-reacting/demanding.

However, I too would be royally pissed if my DH (who is the garage-sale guru) was selling stuff that I did not want sold!!!!

But, that is not the issue she mentions...

The OP had her whole romantic day and evening Saturday...
Which, they apparently enjoy fairly often...
That wasn't enough?????

God, what I wouldn't give for just that one alone-time day and evening.

 

[Wishing on a star]

What's wrong with a garage sale on a Sunday morning? I don't do garage sales so I don't know much about them, but I would think that Sunday morning would be the best time.

Wouldn't fly here!!!!
Garage sales are Thu-Fri-Sat...
Sunday is for 'church'... either that or sleeping in.

 

[ChrizJen]

I would have gone with the flow. I would have pulled up a lawn chair, sat down, and enjoyed the rest of the morning with my significant other over bagels. To me, it's a waste of energy to throw a temper tantrum about plans being changed.
And in my opinion (for what it's worth), the bagels had everything to do with it. When you got up to go get the bagels, I would have made the same assumption that your DH made. That you were getting up to start your day.

 

[SharpMomOfTwo]

Just to clear some stuff up.....

Getting one day/night along every 2-3 months may seem a lot to some people, but to me, who works a fulltime out of the house job, and a full time in the house job, and a DH who works anywhere between 40-50 hours a week.... its not enough!!! LOL
The fact that he was selling the TV (and whatever else he had out there) wasn't the issue either. Our neighbors woke us up rather early - it was about 6am that we heard them getting ready for their garage sale. We had discussed that night that since we had to pick up the girls by noon - that ment we were going to stay in bed (would get out for food and bathroom breaks) till 11.30am - something we haven't done since.... before we had kids!!!! I guess thats why I was so upset - he just decided to change the plans without even telling me.

Yes, I went for bagles - We had walked many many miles in the city the day before - I was a hungry girl - I needed food!!!!!

 

[lovemygoofy]

I'm a little confused about the television and other stuff going to the neighbors. Was your husband just going to dump it on them and ask them to sell it for him? I couldn't imagine just dumping stuff on my neighbors to sell on my behalf. It makes sense to set up your own table.

I understand being upset that your romantic morning was ruined but you could have thought of it as a differnt opportunity. Your husband mentioned that he wanted to use that money for vegas. You could have said sure but that means this money is for a romantic dinner or date night or something likewise. Afterall, I imagine it's easier having the sale with your girls gone anyways.

As for the bagel thing, I don't think of that as a romantic thing personally. Going out for bagels or doughnuts while the other is doing something is just a nice thing. Going together and then proceeding onto something else could be considered romantic.

 

[SharpMomOfTwo]

Wouldn't fly here!!!!
Garage sales are Thu-Fri-Sat...
Sunday is for 'church'... either that or sleeping in.

Well to many many people around here - having garage sale on a Saturday doesn't "fly." Saturdays are for schul.

 

[Minnesota!]

I think you WAY over reacted! I would have loved it had DH taken the initiative to get things sold/money made! And yes, you guys seems to get "alone time" fairly often (no one has ever taken my kids for me...), so I think you should have just gone with it. Hopefully he will forgive you soon...

 

[Minnesota!]

Oh and a Sunday garage sale wouldn't ever happen around here. Thur-Fri-Sat. Sundays are for rest, church, etc.

 

[diznygirl]

Just to clear some stuff up.....

Getting one day/night along every 2-3 months may seem a lot to some people, but to me, who works a fulltime out of the house job, and a full time in the house job, and a DH who works anywhere between 40-50 hours a week.... its not enough!!! LOL
The fact that he was selling the TV (and whatever else he had out there) wasn't the issue either. Our neighbors woke us up rather early - it was about 6am that we heard them getting ready for their garage sale. We had discussed that night that since we had to pick up the girls by noon - that ment we were going to stay in bed (would get out for food and bathroom breaks) till 11.30am - something we haven't done since.... before we had kids!!!! I guess thats why I was so upset - he just decided to change the plans without even telling me.

Yes, I went for bagles - We had walked many many miles in the city the day before - I was a hungry girl - I needed food!!!!!

Okay - if the yard sale woke you up, then I would be more mad at the neighbors than at hubby. I would chalk it up to him making the best of the situation.

Hope you have forgiven him.

 

[JESW]

I would have been absolutely THRILLED if my dh showed the initiative to get some stuff to sell to make some $$$ as we have a basement full of crap that needs to be gone through. (we are in the process of finding a dumpster)

As far as killing the mood...I think once you got up and went out to get the bagels you set the day in motion. We never have the kids out of the house so early morning is our best time alone....wouldn't be able to have time after that until later that night. He probably figured that you were already up so he found something to do.

Not worth it to fight over for me anyway.

Jill