Would you be angry if....

[hrh_disney_queen]

Originally posted by phyllis1966
I agree that we should choose our battles, but the issue here, IMO, is not the style of the cut, but the fact that it was cut at all! How can anyone presume to make a personal decision, no matter how trivial some think it to be, without consulting the parent first?! I'm truly astounded that a relative would take such a decision upon herself!

ITA, Phyllis. It doesn't matter that it will grow back, even if it was a trim, permission should have been asked first. I would tell SIL that the next time she wanted to change something about DS's appearance, to buy him some new clothes....

 

[tnkrbell]

YES I would be mad!!!!!!! They are not her children and you should of been asked if it was ok.

And as far as a "rattail" My professional opinion And personal opinion is they are horrible!!!! Good thing she didnt give him a mullett!!! Atleast you can cut this off when you get him home!!

 

[Kewz1]

You are not being unreasonable! I would be pretty ticked off myself. At least it will grow out. Hang in there!

Kristen

 

[Kallison]

Boy's hair grow fast -- don't be too mad. Life is short. I would be more likely to be mad if he said he didn't want it cut a certain way and she did it anyway.

I took my neighbor's son once to the barber with my son and he kept saying in the car on the way over -- Mom keeps yelling at Dad to take me to get my hair cut. So I called her at the barber shop and said - should I get it done? She was like sure, but don't buzz it. Well my son got it buzzed and it was summer and his friend really wanted it buzzed too so I let him get it. She wasn't too mad, especially when I told her that her son was begging. I figure it would be grown out in 6 weeks before school started.

 

[buzzlady]

Absolutely!!

 

[Nancy]

I would be upset too. My sister has taken my kids for hairwraps and for manicures...but she would never take them to get haircuts without asking me.

BUT I wouldn't say anything...no sense in causing bad feelings...family is family, and if you get along you want to keep it that way.

 

[missypie]

I would be furious. I actually thought about this issue when DS was a toddler/preschooler, because DS had beautiful red curls that we kept fairly long and DH's family kept asking when we were going to get him a "little boy" haircut. Good thing they were never alone with him! (Funny thing is, now long and shaggy is back in style amoung middle school aged boys in our area, so I'm glad to let his hair grow again.)

 

[Alice28]

Yes, I would be angry.

 

[wdwdvcdad]

Originally posted by JVL1018
I would be livid! Especially if he had a rattail! Didn't they go out in..oh about 1983???

no. THEY WERE NEVER IN!

 

[bigbabyblues]

YES! My MIL watches my kids for an hour or so a couple days a week between the time I go to work and DH gets home. When ds1 was little, she kept threatening to take him to get his haircut while she was keeping him if we didn't get his hair cut.

He hadn't had a haircut yet, and he didn't have a lot of hair, her reasoning was that if we cut it, it would grow thicker.

I told her, and DH backed me up, that if she did, she wouldn't babysit anymore. I was serious and she knew it. I normally get along very well with my MIL, I consider her a friend, but that was one thing that really made me mad.

Steph

 

[Disney Doll]

Yes it would make me angry. I'd tell her about, tell her not to do it again, and drop it. I'd also probably outline what other things were not acceptable for her to do without discussing with you first, such as piercings, tattoos, massage parlors, strip joints.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I echo Disney Doll. Time for the "talk" with your son. It is one of those times where you say to yourself, 'I can't believe I have to have a rule about THAT!'.
While I would not be to happy with happy with SIL I would probably drop it as well. Tell her to check with you next time.

 

[Pete's Mom]

Take her son and get him a mullet......

 

[Lanshark]

Yep

If this was a person I liked I'd tell them NEVER to do that again and I''d let it go.

 

[momm2four]

When my boys got home today, I discovered that not only does my eight year old have a rattail, but my seven year old now has a "Marine Haircut"

When I asked Ben if his cousins had gotten their hair cut too, he said, "No, just Jake and me." According to him, they were talking Monday night about hair (don't know how that topic came up), and Ben said he liked Annakin Skywalker's, so his aunt said that maybe they would go and get a haircut the next day. Quite honestly, I think she just thought his was too long and she wanted it cut.

She did ask my DH if I was angry, and he said something to the effect of "I think she just wishes you had called her first"

Oh, well. In the scheme of things, not a biggie, but thanks for your responses. They helped me over my temporary "fit"

Lori P.

 

[minmate]

Yep... I'd be totally beside myself -- 8 years old is too young to make a drastic decision... I mean, couldn't she have called you first? I am totally weird about my girls' hair... One has very long hair... I don't think I'll let her cut it even if she ever wants to! It broke my heart to cut my older dd's hair for the first time (she was like 4!) but it was just so straggly -- some people's hair is not meant to be butt-length I've been told... which makes me all the more adamant about keeping my other dd's hair long -- IT IS SOOOO pretty! Anyway... yes, it will grow back, but I totally acknowledge your grief of the hair loss and the fact that the boundaries were crossed. Guess you'll have to add that to the list of "do's and don'ts" when dropping your kids off at SIL's from now on --