Would this make you mad?

[FreshTressa]

Over a year ago, when I first got my cell phone, I did not know how to retreive my messages. My mom kept leaving me messages. I told her not to leave anything important because I never listened to them.

FF a year (last june). I was checking my messages and there was a call from MIL. Now MIL is very long winded in her messages and they last forever.

Now today, I called my mom as she had left a voice mail about 10 minutes earlier. I did not check the voice mail, I just called her.

She says "Did you get my message?"

I said no, I just called you back.

She says "That's right, you don't listen to my messages, just those from your MIL."

What???? Where did that come from???

Was that a mean thing to say on her part or am I over-reacting? She seems to really hang on to things I say. These conversations happened over a year ago.

 

[CEDmom]

I'd probably say something sarcastic like "mom, I didn't want you to find out like this but I love my MIL more than you ".

 

[FreshTressa]

That is exactly what I said!

And then she said, well, you are the one who said it, and started yelling and I hung up on her.

 

[Honu]

The message on my cell phone says "You can leave a message, but I have no intention of listening to it."

 

[Mono~rail]

I don't listen to messages that my mom leaves me because she sounds like she is trapped inside the machine (or phone) and yelling desperately for help. It goes like this - Hello? Hello? HELLO?? Can you hear me? I said hello? Are you hearing me? Hello? Hello? HELLO!!! *click*

 

[Mono~rail]

The message on my cell phone says "You can leave a message, but I have no intention of listening to it."

Good one! I would use that line myself but I can't figure out how to leave a voicemail recording. Really, I can't. I'm constantly telling people to NOT leave me messages on my cell because I don't know how to check them and I'm not interested in finding out how. DD13 is embarrassed that I have a Tracfone. I'm not embarrassed by it in the least though. I detest talking on the phone. 500 minutes last me for 6-8 months.

 

[MerryPoppins]

DH knows I never listen to messages left on my cell phone. So he found out how to roll my cell phone to our home phone if I don't answer. Now messages get left on our home answering machine which I do listen to.

Sorry. I'm sure that hurt your feelings. I'd probably be mad, but I'd just let it go. Life's too short to stay mad and let things make you unhappy.

 

[magicmato]

I would call her back and note that while you listen to your MIL's messages, you call your mother *back*. Which would she rather?

 

[beckmrk04]

FreshTressa- is your mom Barb H? Are we long-lost siblings?

This is exactly the kind of garbage I put up with all the time.

SO, to you because I know it sucks and I haven't figured out how to not take it personally.

 

[figment52]

The message on my cell phone says "You can leave a message, but I have no intention of listening to it."

Are you related to me? My cousin's message says "Go ahead, leave a message but I haven't figured out how to retrieve it so you are just going to call back".

 

[FreshTressa]

I love my mom dearly and would do anything in the world for her, but she is retired and home all day with nothing really to do, so she wants me to talk to her all day on the phone and gets upset and hurt if I'm not there. Well, I have two kids, lots of friends and an active life, and I love spending time with her but one day a week and about 3 phonecalls is all I have time for. Like shegets really hurt if I cut the phonecall short because i"m helping the kids with their homework.

I feel really bad for her. I know she is lonely and just loves me, but I can't give as much as she needs.

She refuses to drive on the freeway and wants me to come get her and take her shopping 2 times a week or else she starts crying that she is lonely.

She is so jealous of me and is always insulting/degrading my friends. I don't know how to handle it!

 

[DawnCt1]

The message on my cell phone says "You can leave a message, but I have no intention of listening to it."

That's a good one. I really hate listening to cell phone messages unless I told someone to call my cell and leave a message. I have two friends that leave long winded messages. They always ask me if I got there messages. I always tell them I never listen to messages more than 5 words long. They do it anyway.

 

[FreshTressa]

That's a good one. I really hate listening to cell phone messages unless I told someone to call my cell and leave a message. I have two friends that leave long winded messages. They always ask me if I got there messages. I always tell them I never listen to messages more than 5 words long. They do it anyway.

My MIL will always talk until the machine cuts her off!

 

[TnTsParty]

My grandmother is one of those that thinks you can hear what she is saying like she is on a regular answering machine. "Are you there? Can you hear me? Tricia, Tricia?" I am constantly telling her I can't hear her talking when she leaves me a message. The last time she did that, she insisted she could hear me talking - which I had to think for a minute because I had been talking to my mom about my grandmother when she left the message. I thought for a minute she heard me talking about her!!!

 

[FroggyinArk]

dd had her voice mail working in like 2 min after getting her cell, even went as far as using my phone to leave herself a message, i've had mine for 6 years and still havent set it up.

 

[Planogirl]

I would have been annoyed but I think that I would let it go too. It's really not so big in the overall picture.

Now about your Mom wanting more time, that is a hard one! Do you have any relatives that could pitch in and get her out once in a while?

 

[mamatojon]

I would be hurt too. My mom does says that kind of thing all the time, and is especially jealous of my relationship with my MIL too. It is a self fulfilling prophecy too, the more she is that way the less I want to be around her. I know it is going to get worse as she ages.

On PBS this past spring they had a speaker about this topic, Dr. Christiane Northup, she was amazing. You might check out this book, it is the one she was plugging in her special.

Mother-Daughter Wisdom, Dr Christiane Northup

 

[Beca]

We moved a year ago, and last spring some of my students flew down to spend spring break with us. They were "chastising" me for not knowing the information they had "texted" me via my cell. I told them I did not know how to get messages, so they checked my cell...I had 28 text messages. Some of them were FOUR years old!!! They have never let me live that one down. They always say, "When you get old, you can't work the "new-fangled" devices because your brain is too feeble".

 

[paigevz]

I don't listen to messages that my mom leaves me because she sounds like she is trapped inside the machine (or phone) and yelling desperately for help. It goes like this - Hello? Hello? HELLO?? Can you hear me? I said hello? Are you hearing me? Hello? Hello? HELLO!!! *click*

This sooo made me laugh!!!

OP, I STILL don't know how to retrieve messages, and Iknow I"ve had this service for at least 2 years...................but yeah, mom has a little bit of envy there.................

 

[Mono~rail]

This sooo made me laugh!!!

OP, I STILL don't know how to retrieve messages, and Iknow I"ve had this service for at least 2 years...................but yeah, mom has a little bit of envy there.................

You'd be laughing uncrontrollably if you could hear it for real! Maybe I'll record it one day and post it. It is that good.