Would this cause you to end a friendship?

[noseybuddy]

He's been selfish in other ways, but never like this.

Well his true colors finally came out.

 

[mrsg00fy]

You obviously don't know all of the facts and are making a serious decision about this friend. He deserves the benefit of the doubt. I think you are being too harsh. Please think about this before ending a friendship...unless you weren't great friends to start with.

 

[vivilasvegas]

You obviously don't know all of the facts and are making a serious decision about this friend. He deserves the benefit of the doubt. I think you are being too harsh. Please think about this before ending a friendship...unless you weren't great friends to start with.

Actually I think we do know all of the facts. And I guess maybe I didn't think of this as a great friendship to begin with. Especially now, with those in the know not even really being surprised by it. And from what my friend who talked to him said, he wasn't really upset about it. And it's not like it's the topic among all of us, only 4 of us know. The friend who told us originally said "_____ told me he put Sammie to sleep. He was moving and didn't want to take care of him."

If it was so different, why didnt' he tell us about it? I mean, he calls about a hangnail to ask advice....

 

[Dina]

My friend also asked him why he didn't try to put it up for adoption, he said he just didnt' think about it.


And he didn't go to his regular vet to put him to sleep.

Who knows what he was thinking

He probably couldn't put it up for adoption. We tried to put our 8 year old cat up for adoption and had a really hard time-- every shelter told us that they would not be able to find a home for an 8 year old, as they were not able to find homes for all of their kittens. After finding out my 3 year old son had asthma and bad allergies, we tried for 3 years to find a home for my cat. We were on a list at our vets office, and I asked everyone I knew. We tried to keep him and see how our son would do, but his asthma got worse and worse, and then my youngest son also developed reactive airway disease and allergies. We finally had to give my cat to a shelter who said they would try their best to find a home, but may have to put him to sleep. If I could pay a fee to stop them from doing that, believe me I would have. I never cried so hard in my life, and didn't stop for months. It may have been a harder decision on your friend than you think, and finding a home for the cat may not have been as easy as you think. Maybe they tried with shelters and got the same answer I did (there are alot of homeless animals unfortunately), and maybe they didn't know you would have taken the cat. Try and give him the benefit of the doubt. I know it sounds horrible, but you never know how agonizing that may have been for him. It literally was the most gut wrenching, difficult thing I have ever done in my life. And, I still haven't gotten over it. But three years later, my son's asthma was worse, and I had to put him first.

 

[Dina]

Sorry, Double Post

 

[vivilasvegas]

He didn't ask one place to put the cat up for adoption. He didn't ask anyone if they would take the cat.

hey, it's nice some of you are trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, but the more I hear of what he said, the more I know he just didn't care.

It happens, people can just be jerks.

 

[Aimeedyan]

No, I would not be a friend of anyone like that.

 

[2BigKIdz]

Definitely not a person I need for a friend!

A lady my mom worked with got a divorce, she and the husband were fighting over custody of their cat. He didn't want her to have it so took it to the vet and put it to sleep, the vet put a perfectly healthy cat to sleep! I can't help but think of this from time to time and that's been about 5 years ago.

Oh and the person that had the cattle dog put to sleep because it nipped at heels is a complete moron! Should have done a little investigating on the breed of dog he had. Herding dogs do that, it's their instinct. My collie nipped at peoples behinds all the time, it was hilarious. He especially did it to my best friend, she always thought someone was pinching her butt. As he has gotten older he has grown out of that for the most part, but every once in awhile the old instinct kicks in.

 

[Planogirl]

I might talk to him and ask him about the situation. However, it certainly sounds like someone I wouldn't need in my life.

 

[Grandma Bear]

I would have a hard time respecting him and thus doubt we would be friends.

 

[UrsulasMyHero]

Yes it would have. I would have been very irate. Someone would have loved that kitty for a long time. My Ex Mother in law did something like that to a pet of hers, a Pure breed Show dog who got mated by a mutt on accident (the dog got out). When she found out, she had her put down. When this came to my attention, I had a hard time looking her in the eyes, and had lost all respect for the woman.

 

[twojo21]

yes i would be rubbed & would reconsider a friend who makes decisions like that.

fyi a vet cant deny a customer wanting to put a pet down.

 

[nomie74]

I have a coworker who put a dog to sleep because they didn't have time to house train her. Then went out 2 months later and got a new puppy. Don't know whats going to be different this time around but I don't look at this person the same way and have lost respect, especially since the purchase of the 2nd dog.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

Also, (sorry I'm ranting, but better here than to him!) my cat go quite sick last year...urinary stones...he almost died, I spent over $1300 on him, and pretty much was broke for a bit. And yes, there were times I was so stressed that I thought about giving him up, but never putting him to sleep. But we got through it.(knock wood) Every time time I would get frustrated when he got sick again and more money had to be spent, I'd look at him and my heart would melt and I'd do anything I could for that stupid cat! For my dogs too.

And if I couldn't provide them with what they need, I'd move heaven and earth to find someone who could.

Same here!

I estimate that I've spent close to $3,500 in vet bills for Chloe (one stipulation DH is making before the new pup, is insurance for both), although $1,000 was to remove a Carmex lid that she ingested (my fault for leaving it on a table), the rest have been the typical nickel and diming vet bills. While mine may be on the extreme side, it's part of owning an animal! They're for keeps!

Chloe's hips could go out at any time and that would set us back around $5k. I would do it in the blink of an eye. Because I'm rolling in money? 'Fraid not! Because I love her, plain and simple. This is sure to cause some flames, but I wouldn't not treat her, anymore than I wouldn't treat my three DD's. And, I'm proud to say it.

These stories are making my stomach hurt. To hear of these animals being put down for reasons that range from inborn behaviour, to owner convenience, makes me want to hurl.

Hopefully your "friend" knows about the DIS and can read these responses. If it's an eye-opener for one person, it's worth it.

 

[epcotfan]

I couldn't continue a friendship with someone like that.

 

[cats7494]

I honestly do not think I could be around someone like that. As you said -he should have checked with friends and family to find another home! I am sure someone would have taken in the cat.
I know I would have!

 

[puggymom]

I couldn't continue the friendship.

Right now I am trying to deal with an idiot brother. I love my pugs with all my heart, my rescue needed bladder surgery recently, life threatening. Before I adopted him he had had another bladder surgery that as it turned was botched. So with complications, etc. it cost me $2200. Worth every penny. He is only 4 years old. My idiot brother told me I should put him down and get the new and improved model. He said this a couple of weeks ago and I am still upset about it. Unfortunately you can't pick your family.

 

[experiment626mom]

Yep that would end the friendship for me. I could never be able to look at him again.

 

[luvwinnie]

I'd lose all respect and admiration for that person.

 

[dumboiu]

I just lost my precious dog to heart failure. I would have done anything to save her. I can't fathom the selfishness of someone who did what he did.