Would this cause you to end a friendship?

[vivilasvegas]

First of all, make sure you have the right story- the friend who told you may have heard wrong- not likely, but you should make sure.

The vet may have decided that the cat's heart disorder made it logical to kill the cat.

I don't believe either of the ideas I tried to come up with to excuse the behavior, but I had to try. It makes me sad that he didn't try to find a home for the cat.
I would have doubts about continuing the friendship.

It's a true story, our other friend called him. She said he just seemed very, "well, what else was I supposed to do?"

 

[noseybuddy]

I just don't see it that way. If the he couldn't deal with the cat, then he could have given it to one of us. He just wanted the easy way out.

And his new apartment allows pets.

I have to agree with you. Some people should never have pets. As soon as one thing goes wrong where it involves money or an inconvience their first thought is to put the pet to sleep. I just can't understand it.

 

[disney4us2002]

It sounds like you've already made up your mind about not continuing the friendship so not sure why you're asking for opinions. I have questions.

1) How expensive was the medication?

2) How difficult was it to give the cat meds? (My dog is nearly impossible to give meds.)

3) What was the life expectancy of the cat? With meds? Without meds? Would the cat have suffering w/o meds?

4) Did your friend know you would've taken in the cat?

I'm sure the vet advised him that a shelter wouldn't take a sick cat and adoption would be difficult under those conditions - perhaps that is why the vet agreed to put down the cat.

I've had cats and currently have a dog but I don't humanize pets. My bil/sil do. Their poor dog has had nothing but health problems and they've spent a small fortune on various procedures, not all success either. The dog nearly died twice in December and they ended up paying nearly $9000 for a bowel obstruction and reconstruction surgery. There is just no chance I'd do that. To each his own. I don't think your friend thought much of his cat but I doubt I'd write him off completely over it.

 

[Marseeya]

I'm with those who say they would lose respect for someone who sees pets as disposable.

 

[vivilasvegas]

It sounds like you've already made up your mind about not continuing the friendship so not sure why you're asking for opinions. I have questions.

1) How expensive was the medication?

2) How difficult was it to give the cat meds? (My dog is nearly impossible to give meds.)

3) What was the life expectancy of the cat? With meds? Without meds? Would the cat have suffering w/o meds?

4) Did your friend know you would've taken in the cat?

I'm sure the vet advised him that a shelter wouldn't take a sick cat and adoption would be difficult under those conditions - perhaps that is why the vet agreed to put down the cat.

I've had cats and currently have a dog but I don't humanize pets. My bil/sil do. Their poor dog has had nothing but health problems and they've spent a small fortune on various procedures, not all success either. The dog nearly died twice in December and they ended up paying nearly $9000 for a bowel obstruction and reconstruction surgery. There is just no chance I'd do that. To each his own. I don't think your friend thought much of his cat but I doubt I'd write him off completely over it.

Well, I'm asking for opinions because it's a discussion board and I wanted to see how others felt.

A. I don't know, but if he couldn't afford it, he could have tried to find someone who could.

B. see above

C. The cat would have lived a normal life. This wasn't a new condition, he knew about it for a while. I think he just didn't want the cat and used his condition and his move as an excuse.

D. We all have pets, my one friend volunteers at a shelter. And he still could have asked someone, even if he didn't know who would take the cat.

 

[lulugirl]

As an animal lover, I would find it very upsetting to see a friend do this (especially since it seems he did not explore any other options.).

 

[hucifer]

I think I am a lone voice here, but as horrific as it sounds, I don't think I would end a friendship over that.

 

[vivilasvegas]

My friend also asked him why he didn't try to put it up for adoption, he said he just didnt' think about it.


And he didn't go to his regular vet to put him to sleep.

Who knows what he was thinking, but I'm just sad for poor kitty.

If you can't deal with a medical problem, then you should do everything you can to find a home for the cat. Especially for a condition that is treatable.

 

[vivilasvegas]

I think I am a lone voice here, but as horrific as it sounds, I don't think I would end a friendship over that.

I don't know if I'll never speak to him again, but I probably won't think of him the same.

I just have to calm down before I talk to him.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

Would you be mad?

I think you can probably guess my answer, after participating in my "dog" thread.

I can't even put it into words!

 

[Saphire]

I'm with those who say they would lose respect for someone who sees pets as disposable.

I agree, and also struggle with those who see their own children as disposable.

 

[noseybuddy]

I think I am a lone voice here, but as horrific as it sounds, I don't think I would end a friendship over that.

Well as i said in a previous post, I did end a friendship over my friend putting a pet to sleep. As much as I know that it is none of my business what they did with their dog, I couldn't help the way I felt about it. For me to continue to be her friend would be far from real, because I lost respect for her that day and I knew that the friendship would never be the same.

 

[simba928]

That is horrible. He clearly was not meant to have the wonderful honor of having an animal. That cat would have been by his side if he were sick, but when the cat got sick, he turned his back on the poor baby. I would be so upset. If I were to stay friends, it would take a LONG time, if he ever could, to gain my respect again.

 

[Free4Life11]

I wouldn't be mad nor would I end a friendship.

 

[vivilasvegas]

Also, (sorry I'm ranting, but better here than to him!) my cat go quite sick last year...urinary stones...he almost died, I spent over $1300 on him, and pretty much was broke for a bit. And yes, there were times I was so stressed that I thought about giving him up, but never putting him to sleep. But we got through it.(knock wood) Every time time I would get frustrated when he got sick again and more money had to be spent, I'd look at him and my heart would melt and I'd do anything I could for that stupid cat! For my dogs too.

And if I couldn't provide them with what they need, I'd move heaven and earth to find someone who could.

 

[vivilasvegas]

I wouldn't be mad nor would I end a friendship.

Not even disappointed? Maybe mad isn't the right word?

I love animals. I guess it's different when you don't feel the same about them as others do. And I'm not saying that's wrong, just different.

 

[damo]

Oh ya. I'd be furious and that would be the end of the friendship. I couldn't be friends with someone with that little respect for life.

 

[Skywalker]

When someone can so easily take the life of another living thing (or in this case, order the life to be taken), to me that shows a callousness inside them that scares the heck out of me. Especially, an animal that you have shared your life with for five years. Someone that is capable of being that cold, no thank you.

Put the friendship to sleep.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I would not end my friendship over this, but I would never let him watch my pet or get him a pet for a gift. Since the vet agreed, maybe there was more medical problems that you did not know about.

 

[vivilasvegas]

I would not end my friendship over this, but I would never let him watch my pet or get him a pet for a gift. Since the vet agreed, maybe there was more medical problems that you did not know about.

He told my friend that was it. I don't know why the vet did it. I don't know what he told the vet.

Quite frankly, I'm not going to ask him about it. He's been selfish in other ways, but never like this.