Would this bother you?

[tiggersmom2]

Originally posted by Disney Doll
Sounds pretty arrogant ot me too.
Of course, I'd have also had it out with him right there, because stuff like that gets under my skin big time.

Oh yeah, I would have definitely given that arrogant jerk a piece of my mind THEN and THERE!

 

[Mskanga]

I didn't say anything right then and there because it wasn't the place and time , my daughter was there , but even when we got out my daughter asked why he got mad because she wasn't sick enough?
My daughter actually told him that her health teacher had told them in class that 136.000 people would die from the flu this year. I'm not sure if this is the amount that the teacher really told them but the doctor goes to my daughter, how would they know? are they doctors? I said to him , you are right , they are not doctors , they don't know. You are a doctor, I guess you know. We left after that. I am to follow up with this, in my opinion his behavior was not appropriate. Thank God not all the doctors there are like him, otherwise I would be gone.

 

[tiggersmom2]

Originally posted by Mskanga
I didn't say anything right then and there because it wasn't the place and time , my daughter was there , but even when we got out my daughter asked why he got mad because she wasn't sick enough?
My daughter actually told him that her health teacher had told them in class that 136.000 people would die from the flu this year. I'm not sure if this is the amount that the teacher really told them but the doctor goes to my daughter, how would they know? are they doctors? I said to him , you are right , they are not doctors , they don't know. You are a doctor, I guess you know. We left after that. I am to follow up with this, in my opinion his behavior was not appropriate. Thank God not all the doctors there are like him, otherwise I would be gone.

It sounds to me that this doctor has a "God Complex" So glad to hear that not all the Drs at this practice are like that.

 

[Mskanga]

TM , that is exactly the impression I got.

 

[Epcotgal8]

Yes, I would have been bothered by his attitude. A mother's input should be appreciated by the dr. to help him make a diagnosis because nobody knows a child like their mom does, so even if "our" diagnosis is wrong, all the info we can give them should be of some help. I loved my children's original pediatrician but his practice became so busy we switched to one of his partners. We had a couple visits with no problem and one day my friend called, really ticked off with the same dr. because she had taken her dd, 12, to the dr. because she was fatigued, pale, and just didn't feel well ...turned out to be mono. But the dr. gave my friend's dd a grilling, asking what activities she did (basketball and piano once a week), if she was happy, and how often and WHERE they went to church. My friend was flabergasted at the questions. Dr. told my friend that perhaps she shouldn't put her dd in activities after school. ???? I realize that if dr.s have reason to think there is some sort of deep problem at home or abuse they should question it, but if you knew my friend you would no there is absolutely NO reason for anyone to even question that. A month or so later my ds had an upper respiratory infection and I took him in. Guess what? I got the inquisition too! Not about when and where we go to church (thankfully for his sake or I would have told him that is NOT his business) but because my son hadn't been there for 13 months and why hadn't he been in? Umm...his shots are up to date and he is a healthy kid and hadn't had anything wrong except a tummy ache for a couple hours or a stuffy nose without fever for a day or two, neither required a dr.'s visit. He proceeded to ask my son if he had gone to any other dr. for anything. My son said, "Yes." "Who and why, what was wrong?" My ds replied, "I had to see Dr. M......(our dentist). Nothing was wrong, I don't even have any cavities yet...but he cleaned my teeth." He dropped it and I bit my tongue but I can tell you I was mad! I can't believe I got the inquisition because my child was too HEALTHY to be in sooner. ???????

 

[Jeanny]

so, what were you supposed to do?? go in there and say, "Ok, you're the doctor, you figure out what's wrong... I won't give you any symptoms, any idea as to why we're here??

come on, give me a break Dr. Snot!!;'!!! I'd be calling the office and have they write in your daughters records that you refuse to see that Dr. again. And as another poster mentioned, if he's on duty, go above his head to the emergency room.

Just please make sure the office knows how you were treated. You're the Mom, you know what's wrong with your child!!!!

 

[tiggersmom2]

Originally posted by Jeanny
come on, give me a break Dr. Snot!!;'!!!

 

[Mskanga]

I can tell you one thing , if it wasn't for my doctor in that practice, I seriously doubt I would still be going there.
He listens to our concerns and always says, better safe than sorry. He has gone out of his way sometimes to take care of health problems, other doctors would not do that.

 

[Lachesis00]

My sisters doctor told her her kids were ill b/c they did not attend church and the religion we belong to (but do not practice) was wrong... how HER KIDS could DIE b/c they did not go to church, esp this particular church... and he was going to turn them in to child services b/c they did not go to church (no other complains). Talk about weird. She had never had a problem up to this point and I think she was bringing the kids in for shots... they were not even really ill.

There were a couple doctors at my old doctors office I refused to see. I'd rather die then see them. Their bedside manner was terrible... the "I am God" syndrome. I would see the nurse practitioner over these creeps.
One doctor who had cancer, told me to stop whining (he was freezing and then burning off some warts w/o any pain meds) b/c he had cancer and you just do not have a clue what pain really feels like.

Same guy told me to stop crying (when I had an bunch of infected skin tags in a VERY sensitive area). People every day were in much more pain... you don't hear THEM crying. Buck up. OMG. I was soooo humilitated.

He passed away from the cancer but I do know of 2 other guys in that I office I wouldn't go near.

 

[Kallison]

We had an obnoxious doctor in our group of Peds. I just requested to never see him again. Once my DS had to see him in an emergency because he had pneumonia. The nurse tried to insist that I had to see him for a follow-up, I said sorry but I'm paying you for a service, you are not doing me a favor. I will see who I want. Another time same DS broke his nose, this doctor sent me to emergency, I called him from the ER trying to get some info. I said do you think this will disfigure his face -- he says very nonchalantly "probably", I said "you are an (bad word for butt) hole" and slammed the phone down. All the techs and nurses looked up and I said "It was Dr. So&So" and I they all laughed and said - good for you.

 

[carole88]

Sorry you had such a bad experience. I would also refuse to see that dctor again. The only thing I have to add would be in reference to another poster's comment about not going to the doctor in about 13 months because her child was not sick. It's great if your child does not need any sick visits, but check-ups are just as important and should be done once a year for older children. Doctors can then ensure that the child is indeed healthy. Not all illnesses are symptomatic.

 

[diznygirl]

I had an issue with the dr. on call one night - we were first time parents and DS had bad diaper rash. We used some cream and he SCREAMED! I wiped it all off and then we called to see what we could use that wouldn't hurt. He told us the same one we had used - so I told him that didn't work. Well he kept telling me it should, and I kept telling him it didn't - back and forth! I cut him off finally and pulled the upset mother routine - asking him was he a pediatician, (he wasn't) how many children did he treat, how many kids he had, on and on, I already told you that cream hurt him, I just need some other suggestions - something that doesn't have the same ingrediants. He said the name of another cream, I said thank you, and hung up on him!

The point is, these people are doctors, not gods. We don't have to sit there and deal with lousy service. If it was a waiter we would probably tell them off, ask for the manager, or at the very least leave a small tip. We can stand up to our drs too!

 

[browneyes]

It sounds like he has an "I am a doctor, therefore I am like a God" type of complex. One of the doctors in my kids' peds had that same complex. He was like that until he became a dad, then his attitude started changing. I still refuse to see him unless I have no other choice though.

 

[DVC Jen]

I would have been very upset with him.. and probably wouldn't have handled it as nicely as you. I have a bit of a temper. Especially when someone has their head caught up in deep dark places.

 

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[shortbun]

I would not have been happy.
Was he able to help your DD?
He'd get one more chance with me; after that, I'd
complain. How many partners in your Peds office?
Is he new? Perhaps they'd like a chance to review
his personal "technique."
He sounds like a real jerk!
My friend is married to a jerk who is an EXCELLENT
doctor. I hate that she's married to him but his
reputation is well known as amazingly good.
Sometimes you have to give up bed side manner
to get the good ones.

 

[marlasmom]

My pediatrician (a long, long time ago) used to say that no one knows a child like his or her mother. He believed me when I said that my daughter was going to get sick (she used to get ashmatic bronchitis) in two days and order her prescription just in case. I firmly believe that a doctor should listen carefully to a mother's concerns.