Would this be fair?

[TheOtherVillainess]

As a lot of you know, DH and I are planning (along with DSIL and her gang)a big family trip to Michigan in Oct. There is a chance my boss (aka Little Hitler) will tell me I can't take the time off to go because I 'just' got back from maternity leave (I've been back since May 5th).


So...would it be fair to ask DH to help me plan a solo trip to WDW if I can't go to Michigan with him?

TOV

 

[LisaSt]

I would call in sick for the day s you need for MI.

 

[Pam]

ToV,
If possibly you won't be able to take off work to go to Michigan with your family, how would you be able to swing the WDW trip??

Secondly - shouldn't you have put your request for the Oct. trip in at least a month ago? It sounds as though you are using the "tit for a tat" theory. In other words, well, he gets to go somewhere and I can't go on this particular trip, so I deserve my very own trip.

And thirdly - what about your baby? What will you do about childcare if you are on a solo trip?

I personally couldn't leave a small infant to make a trip by myself to an amusement park, or for that matter, anywhere. I cherished each and every moment I had with my two children when they were babies. They reached some milestone on a daily basis and I am so glad I was there to experience it with them.

 

[tkyes]

So, how could you get time off for a WDW trip, but not for a
Michigan trip?

I wouldn't want to go to WDW without my husband if he was
able to come along. Now if he didn't WANT to come along,
that would be a different thing.

 

[LisaSt]

We left our oldest daughter home in 96 at 3 months old to go to WDW. We left he home with my mother for the week it was a blessing.

Darren

 

[Crankyshank]

Definitely not fair.

What makes you think you can get time off for WDW and not for a family trip to MI? Also, aren't you visiting family in MI? The only way it would be fair is if you negotiated a solo trip to visit someone in your family that lives out of state

 

[disykat]

Nope, doesn't sound "fair" to me. I can see where you might want to do it, but it doesn't sound fair.

 

[Keli]

I would not do that to my dh. If I were unable to go on a trip with him for reasons that he could not control (it would be different if he were taking a trip with the 'guys' and you weren't invited) I would not feel like I get to have a solo disney trip in return. But I might try to talk him into a 'family' disney trip sooner than we would usually plan if we were able to do that.

 

[Pop Daddy]

yes thats fair, also ask hubby if he could find a few dates for you while your there

 

[Strings]

I'm assumiong the WDW trip is later, so you can get the time off. I say go for it. Be sure to schedule a spa treatment for yourself. Can a girlfriend go with you, and make it a girl's trip.

 

[Beth76]

Originally posted by Pam
I personally couldn't leave a small infant to make a trip by myself to an amusement park, or for that matter, anywhere. .

This wasn't part of the OP's question. It seems that her baby will be several months old by the time the trip occurs--hardly a small infant who can't live without his/her mother for a few days.

To the OP, that doesn't really sound like a fair trade-off to me. It actually sounds like you're trying to "get out of" visiting the in-laws. Not saying that's the case, just kind of looks that way.

I'm actually going a 3-nt cruise with my girlfriends in Dec (ooh-and my baby will be 5 mos old--bad me). I told my DH that he should take the boys to visit his mom while I'm gone. (You see, that way I can get out of visiting for Thanksgiving and Xmas ) He didn't go for that at all. Dang it!

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Well, I no longer have to worry about it because the boss said as long as I tell him by Monday when I'm going, I can go. Otherwise, I cannot go.


I was thinking that if I was unable to get the time off in early-mid Oct for the Michigan trip, I would try to convince DH to let me go on a solo trip to WDW in Feb or March of '05. But I don't have to worry about that now. Oh well..thanks for the advice anyway.


TOV

 

[Dan Murphy]

Good news, ToV.