Would this be a deal breaker for you?

[Shugardrawers]

Yep definite deal breaker. Dh doesn't want anymore children. I'm not able and by the time I met Dh wasn't interested in adoption so we were fine. If a man wanted children that badly, I wouldn't be the woman for him.

 

[vettechick99]

Definite deal breaker. I want kids and it's important my mate want them too.

 

[mum4jenn]

My dh married me even though he wanted us to have children and I did not ever want any. we met in 1974 and married in 1988 and he knew from day one that I never wanted kids. We almost split up once because I would not change my mind.

However........God saw things another way and my never ever ever ever child turned 8 years old back in September!!! She is the love of my life and even though I never wanted children I would not change a thing. I love my dd more thatn life itself!!

 

[SC Minnie]

Dealbreaker.

If one of us couldn't have children because of medical issues it would be a different story.

 

[jbdreamer]

Yep, that would be a deal breaker for me.

However, you should find out that kind of inforamtion before getting too involved in a relationship anyways! So I can't imagine ever being in such a position.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Hmmmm I'm going ot be the different one, imagine that, lol.

DH and I got married with that being a HUGE question mark. We have two kids from his first marriage, and I love them soooo much. I wasn't sure if I wanted any kids of my "own", and DH wasn't sure if he wanted anymore. It's a subject that has come up now and again. At this point, I don't want another kid, but DH mentions it now and again. There is no resentment. It's not a deal breaker in our relationship.

Of course there is no extreme here, we were both pretty much in the middle, so I guess that was an agreement of some sort. Okay now I am confused the more I think about this.

 

[minkydog]

This would be a deal breaker for me. I married the love of my life. Three days after the wedding he announced that he really didn't want to have any children. Rather than immediately seeking an annulment, I stuck with him. 4 years later I realized that I couldn't live without children in my life. I gave him one year to change his mind or I would seek a divorce. He was shocked that i would give him an ultimatum over something he thought was a minor point. The good news is, he changed his mind.

In our case, it worked out well for everyone. I would not recommend this method unless you are willing to walk out(and i was) because the other person is under no obligation to change. I have never regretted standing up for something so important to me. We now have three kids and DH often thanks me for giving him that nudge. Our lives have been amazingly enriched by our children.