Would this aggravate you?

[JerseyJanice]

I am so steamed at my husband right now. Really, I could punch him, I'm so annoyed.

He got out of work a little early today with his boss being nice about the holiday weekend. We have a ton of laundry in the house since I was extraordinarily busy running around all week without time left for wash, and it piled up.

To "help" me, he grabbed some clothes out of my son's laundry basket and put it together with his work clothes to make a load.

So the problem? His jeans got soaked with gasoline at work, and so he washed them, and all the clothes in that washed-and-dried load smell like gas. I couldn't care less about his work clothes; they stink to high Heaven half the time anyway. But the clothes that belong to DS that DH "washed" smell like DS works in a gas station.

I'm so mad. What a stupid thing to do; it just created extra work for me, and possibly ruined some of DS's stuff. Thanks, dad!

 

[DizBelle]

I think he did it on purpose to get out of ever having to do laundry again.

 

[JerseyJanice]

I think he did it on purpose to get out of ever having to do laundry again.

See, the really annoying part is that he didn't "have" to do any laundry; I didn't ask him to do it. He should have either thrown the jeans out or washed them by themselves. Or best yet, left everything alone and let me catch up on the housework tomorrow.

It was a brutal week, and he knows that. I don't normally let much of anything pile up.

 

[C.Ann]

Maybe he didn't realize the odor would transfer to your DS's clothing? Does he do laundry often enough to know the in's and outs of it?

I'm sure there's some way that the clothes can be rewashed with something that will eliminate the odor.. Not sure what you need to wash the clothes with, but someone here who has experience with clothing that smells like gasoline will probably come along soon and help you out..

Good luck!

 

[bdoyledimou]

Yeah what a mean thoughtless guy, coming home and doing a load of laundry.

Seriously.. you should appreciate the effort.. he THOUGHT he was doing good, and recognising that you had a hectec week, tried to ease the pressure.

Then you get mad at him. (and then people wonder why guys don't help around with chores)..

 

[Sparx]

It seems like he was just trying to help to me. You say he never does laundry and you say that your week was really rough, so I think he was just trying to help.

As for the clothes, soak everything that smells like gas with baby oil. Since gasoline is oil, you need another oil to get it out. Babyoil will come out of the clothes a lot easier than gasoline (and lacks the smell) which is why you want to use this. A bottle of baby oil is probably a lot cheaper than buying all new clothes too. After its soaked for awhile, wash the clothes in a heavy duty cycle with your normal detergent. The gas smell should be gone. If it isn't, try repeating the cycle of babyoil-wash one more time.

 

[kirstenb1]

I hear you. DH often gets stains or gas on his clothes from various projects. He does throw them into a separate pile, and after years of marriage, I know to wash that pile separately. I'd be peeved too.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Yeah what a mean thoughtless guy, coming home and doing a load of laundry.

Seriously.. you should appreciate the effort.. he THOUGHT he was doing good, and recognising that you had a hectec week, tried to ease the pressure.

Then you get mad at him. (and then people wonder why guys don't help around with chores)..

Are we really supposed to believe that all men are stupid and don't know better? Is it cause for breaking news if a man does some housework? I think any adult should be able to handle the chores. It's not rocket science.

Would I be mad? Exasperated probably but I do think his intentions were good so I probably wouldn't say anything about it. I would however ask that in the future if he could remember that ds's clothes get washed alone.
Oh- and I think if you wash them with vinegar and baking soda it will take the smell out.

 

[JerseyJanice]

I'm afraid to try baby oil, Sparx, but white vinegar sounds like a decent idea. Thanks for the suggestion, MHM.

He didn't mean any harm, but I'm mad that he was so thoughtless about it. Did it not occur to him that his dirty work clothes would stink up everything? He has the kind of job where he comes in contact with a lot of toxic substances; this is far from being the first time he's come home from work with majorly messed up work clothes. And let me tell you something I learned from personal experience--hunks of cement that wash off clothing can do a number on your washer and dryer.

DS's clothes smell like they'd combust if a spark comes near them. They need major Fabreeze or something.

 

[PurplePinkleEater]

Yeah what a mean thoughtless guy, coming home and doing a load of laundry.

Seriously.. you should appreciate the effort.. he THOUGHT he was doing good, and recognising that you had a hectec week, tried to ease the pressure.

Then you get mad at him. (and then people wonder why guys don't help around with chores)..

If someone tried to help me and screwed things up they should be helping to fix them, too. I'm guessing she now has to spend a couple of hours trying to find out how to get the smell out, to go to the store to get the cleaner and to go to the department store to buy replacements.

We have a quasi-rule around here. Never "help" with the other's territory without that person present. My husband doing the laundry would be like me putting lawn treatments.

 

[Planogirl]

I think that anyone who truly thought about what they were doing wouldn't wash work clothes like these with other clothes. That's just careless IMO.

Good luck getting the smell out!

 

[Princess Nancy]

I feel your pain!

Dh decided to clean out the fridge 2 days before trash day! I had missed some old chicken the week before. He proceeded to cram it all down the disposal.

By the time I got home, he had used drano, gone to the hardware store and bought a snake and finally called a plumber.

Oh did I mention, it was my Birthday? We were going out to lunch since the kids had evening plans. I did not feel bad that he had to leave and go home before his food arrived, when the plumber called to say he would be there in 15 minutes instead of 2 hours!

$250 dollars later, I was still fuming!!!

 

[a1tinkfans]

I am so steamed at my husband right now. Really, I could punch him, I'm so annoyed.

He got out of work a little early today with his boss being nice about the holiday weekend. We have a ton of laundry in the house since I was extraordinarily busy running around all week without time left for wash, and it piled up.

To "help" me, he grabbed some clothes out of my son's laundry basket and put it together with his work clothes to make a load.

So the problem? His jeans got soaked with gasoline at work, and so he washed them, and all the clothes in that washed-and-dried load smell like gas. I couldn't care less about his work clothes; they stink to high Heaven half the time anyway. But the clothes that belong to DS that DH "washed" smell like DS works in a gas station.

I'm so mad. What a stupid thing to do; it just created extra work for me, and possibly ruined some of DS's stuff. Thanks, dad!

Would I be mad, yeah, but not for long, cause I'd rather have a hubby good enough to "help" even if he was pathetic at it , then ignore it and not care that I was overwhelmed.
Sorry about sons clothes....let us know if you're able to save them...

 

[lovesmurfs]

We have a quasi-rule around here. Never "help" with the other's territory without that person present. My husband doing the laundry would be like me putting lawn treatments.

OP, I usually do laundry and (given my personality) I probably would have thought that the detergent would take care of it, like your DH did. Try the vinegar -- hopefully it will help.

The lawn treatment made me LOL! I did this last year, thinking that if a little was good, a lot would be better, right? Well, I bumped the tiller do-dad to 14 (it's supposed to be 5) and didn't hose down the lawn afterward.

Well, there were no weeds, but no grass either. We enjoyed a mostly brown lawn all summer! DH was very nice about it, too. He asked (pretty nicely) to do it this year.

 

[kathie859]

OP---I figured out early on in my marriage that I didn't possess any special training to do laundry or to iron. If I could do it--so could DH. DH is a bright guy and it only took one session of sorting, pre-treating, washing and folding and, by gum, he caught on! I held DS and DD to the same standard--I think everyone needs to know how to do the basic duties.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

See, it's one of those things that you just shake your head and think of the positives about him. I sadly need to do that with DFiance often which is why he's not allowed to do the laundry EVER.

 

[JerseyJanice]

I'm really crabby; I know it and so does he. We went through a major family tragedy this week and emotions are high (along with the size of the laundry pile).

Still, I am so ticked off over such a lack of common sense on his part. This can't have been good for the washer and dryer, not to mention that it was probably dangerous to put those jeans in the dryer. I haven't even looked at the jeans yet. If I find any holes or tears in them, I'm going to be even more PO'ed. They were Kirkland Signature brand and cost what? 14 or 15 dollars? Hardly worth destroying other clothes over.

 

[EclecticWAHM]

I'd be most pissed if he actually put clothes that had been soaked with gasoline in the dryer. That's an accident waiting to happen, I would think.

 

[myhouseofmouse]

I most say do you know my wife? because this really sounds like something I have gotten yelled at about. What do you mean you can not put dirty clothes in the washer and expect the washer to clean them???? Really??? we are just trying to help out...if i just walk over the clothes I get yelled at for doing nothing! if I help out, I get yelled out for not using our head!.... After 13 years of marriage....I finally found the answer, before I come home, stop at the flower shop, pick up some flowers kiss the wife, and tell her"I taking a shower" throw the cloths on the floor next to the bed (you now because thats where they go!!right?) and because of the flowers, she never yells at me for putting them on the floor.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

I'm really crabby; I know it and so does he. We went through a major family tragedy this week and emotions are high (along with the size of the laundry pile).

Still, I am so ticked off over such a lack of common sense on his part. This can't have been good for the washer and dryer, not to mention that it was probably dangerous to put those jeans in the dryer. I haven't even looked at the jeans yet. If I find any holes or tears in them, I'm going to be even more PO'ed. They were Kirkland Signature brand and cost what? 14 or 15 dollars? Hardly worth destroying other clothes over.

I'm sorry Janice. I understand. It's moments like this that I want to bring up when males think they're smarter than females.