Would it be weird

[MushyMushy]

I don't think it's weird at all, just not something I would be able to do. Believe it or not, I am horribly shy and I would feel so self conscious sitting there by myself I'm getting an anxiety attack just thinking about it It's on the list of fears I have that I need to overcome Please go...do it for me and all the other social wallflowers

Me too! I've never been confident enough to go to the movies or out by myself. It took me years before I would eat lunch or dinner by myself in a restaurant, but I'll only do that in my college town where it's very common. In the town where I live? No way -- people just don't do that. I don't know why.

Op, how did it go?

 

[freckles and boo]

I love going to hear live music but smoke-triggered asthma (and having kids ) put that on the back burner for several years. I say go for it! Have a great time but use good sense. I wouldn't count on the bartender to take care of you, but staying near the bar is a good idea. Definitely ask for an escort to your car if you feel at all unsafe and even on the way home, be alert. I was followed home from a solo trip to the movies once when two guys realized I was alone.

 

[Galahad]

to go to a bar just to listen to live music? Alone?

I have never done it, but I am thinking about it. The thing is I don't drink much, and I don't smoke. I could invite my sister, but we really don't have much in common anymore.
I used to have several friends but that changed when I got divorced. Either they were his friends too, or they disapproved of the way I handled it. Yeah, I was supposed to fight harder and beat the crap out of the OW.
The girls that were in most my classes are old enough, but they all have young kids and I am old enough to be their mom.

I am tired of not doing anything. I have spent the last 2 years working and going to school and nothing else. I want to do something.

Don't know which bars you are thinking of (here in Indy) - but if you think you'd like the music at the Slippery Noodle or the Jazz Kitchen or some of the other Broad Ripple area clubs it wouldn't be unusual at all for someone to go by themselves as those places are considered to be mostly "about the music" rather than a bar that happens to have music.

 

[Stitchfans]

Sure why not. If it was a country music band playing chances are I would wander in to the bar and listen for a while.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Nope, not weird. Go check it out at least once.

 

[ckay87]

Oh definitely do it. My husband and, to be honest, most of my friends can be real sticks-in-the-mud. I like some smaller bands who play in a bar-like setting. So I'd do this on my own.

Depending on the way the place is set up, I would NOT sit at the bar if I didn't want to be approached by men. If I was really there to see the band, I'd make that clear by sitting or standing close to the stage and turn my attention to the music. If you want the attention from the men, the bar is the place to be.

Tell us how it goes!

 

[C.Ann]

Go and enjoy. Just be careful-don't leave your drink unattended and try to park close by in the light.

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I agree.. You deserve to have a good time.. Give it a try.. If you don't like it, try something else!

 

[Serena]

Aww, thanks for the pep talk. I didn't go last night. I had to work today and have to again tomorrow, so if I go it will be on saturday nights.
There is one place I've gone to before and I think I will go there again, alone if I have to, to start my adventure.

And yes, I was too scared and too shy most of my life to do anything. Oh, don't forget, I had two kids with a husband that worked 24/7, and he did not appreciate the one time I went out with his sergeant's wife.
LOL, it wasn't my fault she got plastered and I got lost going home and didn't make it until 4am. I was in germany for heavens sake. It might have been bad if I had wandered into france or east germany or something, but nooo, I just got turned around, but I did make it. He and his sergeant was in the field for a month and didn't like us going out apparently.

It might actually be more fun to do this taking notes. I will let you know when I do. Tomorrow is saturday isn't it. hmmm. I'll look and see if I can find a live bad playing somewhere.

Galahad, I have heard of the Slippery Noodle, but I've never been. The last place I went and danced was Gallagher's II on the southside. The name of the band just slipped my mind. I really enjoyed them though.

 

[chell]

Go for it! I've been in your shoes before. I used to be that shy one. I'm not anymore. Now I'm not the loud outgoing one either, but I'm not so shy either. Over the past few years I've found a few great bands too! You might meet some great people there too.

About two weeks ago we went to Asheville to see one of my favorite singers and this girl came to the show (alone) from Tennessee. We started talking and are now keeping in touch. It worked out for her to go by herself. She made several new friends that night and it was also her first time seeing this artist live.

Come back and tell us what a great time it was!

Make sure you keep an eye on your drink at all times so no one slips anything in it.