Word vomit.

[vivilasvegas]

Tonight was a really weird night. I had an incident, and tried to relay it in a funny way on this board. It was not taken as such. So I tried to explain that, but still wasn't getting through. At that point, a lot of harsh things were being said, so I didn't feel the need to give civilized answers back and I was very defensive. What would you have done? I try to be funny rather than argue, it's always been that way. I release anger on other places, but is then talked about here.

I've been on this board since 1999. I was dreagirl before the boards changed and we needed new names. I was then Babar a few years. Most recently I was ViviLasVegas. So all you who claim to know me as a person would know me from all my past posts. And then you would know that I was simply misunderstood in this last post and your accusations and insults were completely unjustified. I've proven myself over the years to be a pretty decent person, not perfect, but far from what you have described.

All of you who are criticizing me about being a mean, horrible person....I've never had such mean things said about me in my entire life.


And this isn't a YAGE. I'm not dumb enough to post here anymore, but I will still read, because I've had a lot of enjoyment from this board. And I'm not wounded or crying, but I did want my say.

Enjoy. I won't attempt to post on this thread again.

thanks!
Andrea

 

[Planogirl]

This is a shame. People do tend to go on the offensive awfully fast nowadays.

I wish that everyone could grow a thicker skin. With only a few exceptions, I couldn't care less what others say about me.

 

[preshi]

There is no need to not come here anymore and post. I've stuck my foot in my mouth more than once here and yet here I am.

 

[kejoda]

You said you have been drinking maybe you will feel differently when you are sober.

 

[Aidensmom]

There is no need to not come here anymore and post. I've stuck my foot in my mouth more than once here and yet here I am.

Exactly what I was going to say.

 

[sajetto]

I really think you need to stick around.


Actually, people have been very weird on the DIS this evening. Some of the attitudes have been a little shocking especially since this is the beginning of the weekend.

 

[ZipaDeeDooDah]

Don't feed the trolls!!!

 

[gallaj0]

Don't go.

It's nice to see someone stand up for themselves, even to the point that last thread got.

 

[PrincessKitty1]

I don't think you're a mean, horrible person. I do think you could learn something from the reactions you got on the other thread, instead of getting defensive and insisting it was all OK because you're a funny person. Nobody on the other thread thought what you said was funny.Maybe you could think about that??

Humor aimed at insulting or taunting other people, in general, is not really humor--it's hostility leaking out.

But don't let the reactions you got stop you from posting about other stuff.

 

[momrek06]

OP: You posted a Thread about an incident you and your BF had tonight...AND when you posted you expected answers and/or comments about your evenings situation. You need to realize members then came on and post their responses to your situation. And maybe some you liked and maybe some you didn't like...BUT that is what Message Boards are..a forum for members to speak their minds/opinions to one another. What happened to you tonight has happened to many Posters over the years. Don't leave the Dis Boards over this...move onward and upward...and maybe you will realize sooner than later..that just maybe you did learn a little something tonight with all the different responses you received.

 

[jtnsami]

WOW! I just read that thread, and to you. Blame it on the full moon I guess.

 

[lulubelle]

I agree. The posts have been, how shall we say, uh, not as supportive as all the great people on these boards usually are.

Sajetto, I don't know you personally but have read your posts many, many times here and I thought you were attacked on the wedding gift (charity) thread needlessly. You are always thoughtful and helpful and I was kind of shocked by some of the responses to your "opinion".

I thought Andrea's thread got out of hand, too. I understand that her humor is not everyone's cup of tea (I didn't think it was funny, nor was I offended), but she was made out to be a heartless wench.

I, too, have stuck my foot in my mouth around here a few times, but we just have to move on and not let it bother us. Tomorrow will be a new day and things will look better! Chin up, girl

 

[MSC]

I missed the first thread, but just went back through it. (There's 20 minutes I'll never get back!)

What the DIS community did to you was shameful.

Sarcasm is VERY difficult to portray in the written word, so I understand that many people didn't get it. On the other hand, their holier-than-thou reaction to the post (which was nevertheless funny) was totally uncalled for.

READ IT AGAIN, PEOPLE. He assaulted her, and then ASKED IF HE COULD BUY THE FOOD! Think about that for a minute - the homeless man offered to BUY the food. So who's being the smartass? She responded to the assault and absurd question with an absurd answer - she named a price. Does anyone see the nuance there? Actually, it's not really nuance -- it kind of smacks you in the face -- if the guy had merely said to her as she passed "Hey, can I have your leftover food?" and she had responded "No, you can't have it, but you can buy it for $10.00!" then she would have earned the vilification she got from you people. Instead, she responded to an offensive question in like manner.

In a highly stressful situation, she responded to his offensive actions with an offensive answer. He deserved it. Touche. But AT NO TIME did she ridicule him. Where do you people get that from her story?

And since when are homeless people so sacrosanct that someone who's been threatened by one must fall to their knees and ask them forgiveness for the sin of having leftover food they don't want to share with someone who has just assaulted them?

Vivi - don't let the hateful, judgmental, holier than thou elements on the boards run you off.

 

[palmtreegirl]

You use to be Babar?! I was wondering where you(as Babar) went, I'm so out of the loop.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

You use to be Babar?! I was wondering where you(as Babar) went, I'm so out of the loop.

That was my reaction, too. "Oh, it's BABAR!"

I hope you let this go. You have been a member of these forums for years, and life is way too short to let one thread change your participation - especially if on the whole you get enjoyment from it.

 

[Bbgrizzle]

I hope you stay too, vivilasvegas. I understand why you got defensive. You were attacked by the people on that thread. I'm sure you didn't mean to get so defensive. I'm sorry if I made you feel bad.

Once I started a thread about how it bugged me when people used ellipses as their ONLY form of punctuation. (I got a tag out of it!) I did not say I hated all ellipses. Only when people used ellipses between EVERY sentence, with no periods, question marks, paragraph breaks, etc. People started ragging on me for being the grammar police and stuff. One person, whose posts made no sense, started staying I was only happy when I was being mean to someone else and that I had mental problems and stuff. Made a lot of personal attacks. I was just like, "Holy cow, where did that come from?"

My point is that you are not alone, this type of thing has happened to quite a few of us. Just lay low for a couple days and continue posting. People will forget all about last night. Or they'll forget it was you who was the OP.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Once I started a thread about how it bugged me when people used ellipses as their ONLY form of punctuation. (I got a tag out of it!) I did not say I hated all ellipses. Only when people used ellipses between EVERY sentence, with no periods, question marks, paragraph breaks, etc. People started ragging on me for being the grammar police and stuff. One person, whose posts made no sense, started staying I was only happy when I was being mean to someone else and that I had mental problems and stuff. Made a lot of personal attacks. I was just like, "Holy cow, where did that come from?"

I remember that thread and didn't realize it was you who started it! I thought it was a funny thread and knew what you were getting at and yes, I still use ellipses, but I do use other punctuation! I just happen to also like ellipses...

 

[Christine]

Sometimes there is a "pitbull" mentality on this board (my apologies to the pitbull breed). One person will get sanctimonious about one statement or perceived meaning and then start. Like a frenzy, others will jump on board.

 

[NewJersey]

I didn't read all the responses, but I did read your OP, and some of your subsequent posts. I'm a HUGE fan of sarcasm, ask any of my friends, even though you can't ). But I didn't find what you did to have an ounce of humor in it.

And you posted thinking people would laugh or support you or whatever, and you have to understand that when you open up yourself like that, all opinions can be expected. There's no need for bashing, but I found your post quite rude and shameful. That's my opinion. Others have theirs.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I didn't read all the responses, but I did read your OP, and some of your subsequent posts. I'm a HUGE fan of sarcasm, ask any of my friends, even though you can't ). But I didn't find what you did to have an ounce of humor in it.

I totally agree with you--I am also a very sarcastic person and didn't get it from your post.

And in my first post to you, I didn't even rip you, but gave you I thought a respectful response, but you barely gave me a passing blow of a comment about one thing, saying that one thing that I commented on (you going to lecture the guy) was a joke. That was it. And I agreed with your general conclusion not to give this particular person the food, but did have a question how you would have reacted to him had he not grabbed your arm. But "joke" is all you could muster up to me, even though in a later post you said that you made quite a few comments to me, that they just weren't good enough. Huh? You commented to others, but not to me, which is fine, and if you got posters confused, that's fine, but just admit it and move on.

It is hard to come across as we intend on an internet discussion board. You may be a very nice person with a great sense of humor and I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt.