Women: When you married, did you change your maiden name to your middle name?

[Aimeedyan]

Nope, didn't keep any part of my maiden name. Just exchanged my maiden for his last name.

 

[Antonia]

I also kept my maiden name as a middle name and dropped my original middle name altogether.
I live in the South and here it seems people with "proper" etiquette do it this way LOL - of course, that's here in the South. I kept my maiden name mainly as a way to honor my parents and keep a connection with my family.

 

[dizneenut]

No, I dropped my maiden name altogether.

 

[Rutt and Tuke]

My mother was from the south and she sometimes used her maiden and sometimes her middle name. I think a lot of it had to do with her hating her middle name.

 

[onecoolmama]

I know a lot of people that have done this. I didnt..but a lot of my family members did!

 

[WDWLVR]

Count me in as one who kept my middle name as it was and dropped my maiden name.

 

[Jockaroo]

Legally, it is my first name, maiden name, married last name. I was told to do this at the social security office. It is this way on everything except my checking account where it is my real middle name. It is weird, but I just think of myself as having 4 names. I actually like my middle name and in my mind never dropped it.

I'm in the South.

 

[JVL1018]

I kept my middle name..my Mom named me after her grandma and I don't want to lose that-makes me feel special.
My grandma dropped her middle names(Maria Angela) and used her maiden as her middle.
Middle names in my family have meaning-my brothers middles are my grandfathers first, my daughter's is my Mom's maiden name and my son's middle is James after DH and his Dad.
I would be sad if my daughter dropped her middle for her maiden name when she married. I picked that as my future daughter's middle name when I was about 10. It's a link to my mom and my grandma and means a lot to me...and I hope it will to her.

 

[MScott1851]

Yep.. I dropped my middle name and kept Scott as my middle. I never liked the combination of my first and middle name, anyway.

If it makes any difference, I was born and raised in the Deep South, and everyone I know does this.

 

[Otto's Doll]

Interesting thread. I dropped my maiden name, and kept my middle name (my mom's name, so it means a lot to me). I did have a friend from down South who did the maiden name to middle name thing. I think it is neat, but it would not have worked for me! My SIL uses her first, middle, maiden and married names for work, but goes by her first and married name elsewhere.

 

[Mimi Q]

Yes. My middle name is now legally is my maiden name.

 

[DisMN]

Good point about keeping consistent with our names......I use my maiden name as my middle name.

However, I've been told it's not "legal" per se. I've found different documents want it done different ways......sometimes I'm almost forced to use my given middle initial.

On my drivers license it's my maiden name, on tax documents and on my SS card, it's still my given middle initial/name.

I'm curious how many people actually go to court to have the name changed. Do people do this?

 

[GEM]

I didn't have to go to court or anything. Everything I have (social security card, driver's license, checks, credit cards, tax forms, etc.) all have my legal, official name as being "First Name, Maiden Name, Married Name". I changed it with social security first and then had no problem changing it everywhere else. All I had to do at ss was fill out a form.

 

[jjarman]

I am from the South and thought every woman used her maiden name as her middle name because 99% of the women I knew growing up did this. Then I thought it was just a southern thing until I read this thread. When I finally got my new SS card (19 years after getting married) no one questioned me putting my first name, maiden name, married name. When I first got married I didn't use my maiden name and so now a few things will pop up with that but by and large everything is consistent.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

I never had a middle name, so I got one when I got married by using my maiden name. With shorter last names, I might have chosen to hyphenate tho, but both my maiden and married names are 10 letters each.

I do live in New England too.

 

[Divamomto3]

Yes, I made my maiden name my middle name. Just tell 'em Jackie Bouvier Kennedy did it too and so did her daughter and that's good enough for me! (Yes, I'm from New England.)

 

[phillybeth]

I don't have a middle name either, but my maiden name really doesn't work as a middle name. The only time I use it is when I am initialing something in work, so instead of AC I would be ABC.

I wanted to keep my maiden name, but I lost a bet. DH and I had a bet going when we were engaged, if he won I would change my name, and if I won we would never have a son named after him- no junior.

 

[Divamomto3]

Originally posted by DisMN
Good point about keeping consistent with our names......I use my maiden name as my middle name.

However, I've been told it's not "legal" per se. I've found different documents want it done different ways......sometimes I'm almost forced to use my given middle initial.

On my drivers license it's my maiden name, on tax documents and on my SS card, it's still my given middle initial/name.

I'm curious how many people actually go to court to have the name changed. Do people do this?

I didn't have to go to court. Every document I have, drivers license, soc. sec. card, work ID, credit cards, bank accounts, mortgage, insurance, etc all have my maiden name as my middle initial. I know that there is something though that has my middle initial as my old middle name and for the life of me, I can't think of what it is right now. But whatever it is, it annoys me! Oh wait, i remember now....it's my hospital record...I noticed that when I had my kids...my ID band had my old middle initial. That's it though.

 

[eeyore45]

Me too!! Dh's family are from Michigan, and never consulted or listened to thier comments... we are from TX!! (born and raised a hoosier, but .... family is from tx!)

Anyway I told dh that I would keep using my maiden name as my middle name, and it would take me a very long time to think of myself as Mrs. Him, and I would be eeyore me him until I was Mrs Him as long as I had been Miss Me... and it finally happened, I've been married almost 25 years now...

and I havent done it in front of a judge, but its on all my legal documents

 

[mtblujeans]

No, I took my husband's name. But, when my first son was born, I gave him my maiden name as a middle name. We had all girls in the family and I didn't want my Dad's family name to disappear. I think he was honored that way.