With all these MIL threads, I'm afraid to do anything!

[disneygals]

Another vote for a good MIL! I got along fine with mine, she passed away almost 2 years ago.

My mother drives me crazy , but I love her anyway!

Vivienne

mom to 3 gals

 

[Princess_Aurora]

I think you shouldn't think of what kind of MIL you will make, but what kind of friend you will make. I honestly think if you take the viewpoint of "I'm gaining a daughter not losing a son" then things will be just find. In my experience (which I should say I don't have much of) the only time MILs get harsh is because they feel as if the "other person" has taken away their child. My sister doesn't have a very good relationship with her MIL because she married her "baby". That's not a good way to look at things.

I have the BEST relationship with my MIL. She's not just a good MIL, she's a good PERSON. She has the biggest heart out of everyone I've known. DH and I have gone through some ups and downs and she's always there to help us...whether its giving us some money to pay the bills, or giving us a trip to Disney World. I love her as if she were my own mother and I think of her as a mom and not a MIL.

As for my mom, its a little bit of a different situation. She lives with us She moved in with us after my dad died. She takes care of the kids for me and does the cleaning and laundry, etc. Kinda like a free maid/nanny DH gets along with her just fine though...sure there are some things that she does that gets on his nerves, but that can happen with anyone you live with. There are things that DH does that gets on my nerves.

Anyway, to make a long story short, I don't think you should think of yourself as an in-law...just think of yourself as a friend and all should work out just great.

 

[Jiminy102]

My MIL is great. We get along so well!! She let's DH and I lead our lives without butting in but is always there with advice without it being advice. Kinda you need to do what is best for the 2 of you kind of stuff. She was so accepting when we got married and loves me and worries about me like one of her own. My Mom Adores my Dh but she calls way to much and likes to be nosy as to what is going on and stuff. I have told her more than once to but out. I have a hard time telling her to butt out right now since we lost my dad in August!! She calls even more and it drives me nuts!!!! Some DIL and MIL relationships are great. depends on the family. My mother and her MIL get along wonderfully and they are really close!!