Why would any woman do this?

[Mermaid02]

Get involved with a married man- watch him abandon his wife and kids- move in with him, and have a baby with him all before he's divorced? Seriously? What happens if he maybe gets a date in the mail for a divorce hearing and calls his wife and tells her to please postpone because he thinks he made a mistake? Who is the injured party then? The guy is a JERK- and showed his true colors from the beginning of the relationship. I guess I find it hard to feel sorry for the pregnant mistress. And yes, this just happened to someone I know.

 

[MushyMushy]

Wow. Yeah, he sounds like a real jerk and karma just bit her in the rear as well.

If the wife's smart, she'll hit the road too.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

The real question is how many other children from different father's does she have already?

 

[Art 1]

Is the guy rich?

 

[Mermaid02]

The real question is how many other children from different father's does she have already?

NONE! I have a feeling this is the beginning though!

 

[Mermaid02]

Is the guy rich?

No- but he's good looking (just ask him!)

 

[BellePrincessBelle]

No- but he's good looking (just ask him!)

He's one of "those".

 

[The Mystery Machine]

NONE! I have a feeling this is the beginning though!

Oh! So this is a noob. Let's see if I can play this out.

He goes back to wife because he figures the payout for his first set of kids is more expensive than paying out for the one.

Wife will eventually divorce him after he has baby #2 with the mistress. Or wife gets sick of babysitting the mistresses kid while sending the child support payment out of her budget.

UNLESS they are in the 20's then it is just another day.

 

[disneyfans95]

Two sides to all stories..

Maybe the wife was really distant, cut off her husband from relations and was just a real $%$^.

You do know the wife could be problem here..

 

[Mermaid02]

Two sides to all stories..

Maybe the wife was really distant, cut off her husband from relations and was just a real $%$^.

You do know the wife could be problem here..

OMG thank you for the laugh.

REGARDLESS of what the problem is... the husband is playing both sides against the middle.

 

[MushyMushy]

Two sides to all stories..

Maybe the wife was really distant, cut off her husband from relations and was just a real $%$^.

You do know the wife could be problem here..

Yeah, she must have been really awful for him to have gone back to her.

 

[dislaney]

Getting involved with a married man is just asking for trouble. The wife is crazy if she takes him back as well. I think when someone shows you their true colors - one should listen!

 

[Belle0101]

When you figure out the "why" of that situation, explain to me the "why" of this situation.

2008 - My married sister took up with a married man. (He and his wife were separated and she was living with another man.) Sister moved in with married man telling her husband that she and he needed a break so she was renting rooms from a friend (1 each for her and her daughter and son).

Sister's DH, after nearly a year, threatens a divorce so sister and kids move back "home". She continues to see married man/boyfriend. She thinks he is okay with this. He's not and starts seeing a girl he dated before sister came along. She gets mad at married man/boyfriend. Decides to get her own place. Tells DH they may be able to repair marriage so they "date". (BTW - she was only delaying divorce because he was paying all the bills including health insurance.)

She and married man/boyfriend get back together, DH divorced her just this past summer ... she's mad at DH for ruining her financially. Afterall, she's been unemployed since Dec. 2008.

And she's still sore with married man/boyfriend for cheating on her.

Can we say "Drama Queen?"

 

[luvmythree]

I'm so glad I kicked my cheating ex to the curb 10 years ago. I don't feel sorry for the one he left me for considering she knew he was married and had kids. Heck she'd been to our house a few times as he was her boss. She met our kids and me.

I just don't understand the women who think that he won't do it to her after he did it to someone else to be with her. I used to get calls from her after we divorced and he dumped her wondering why he did it to her. I always answered..."Because that is what HE does! DUH!"


I hope the wife kicks him to the curb and moves on in her own life. It was the best thing I ever did!

 

[Sparx]

The thing that really bothers me about these threads is that its always about the woman. Instead of asking why women get involved with married men, I think we should be asking why married men cheat on their wives.

 

[Mickey Fliers]

The thing that really bothers me about these threads is that its always about the woman. Instead of asking why women get involved with married men, I think we should be asking why married men cheat on their wives.

This.

 

[JoiseyMom]

The thing that really bothers me about these threads is that its always about the woman. Instead of asking why women get involved with married men, I think we should be asking why married men cheat on their wives.

Because they are pond scum and only thinking with that little bitty thing between their legs, that has their very miniscule brains!!

 

[disneyjunkie]

Two sides to all stories..

Maybe the wife was really distant, cut off her husband from relations and was just a real $%$^.

You do know the wife could be problem here..

Or maybe the wife cheated as well.

Yeah, she must have been really awful for him to have gone back to her.

He didn't go back to the wife.

I think we should be asking why married men cheat on their wives.

 

[worm761]

The thing that really bothers me about these threads is that its always about the woman. Instead of asking why women get involved with married men, I think we should be asking why married men cheat on their wives.

If the woman knows that he is married, then I blame them BOTH. If she was unaware, well, you really can't blame her and it is all on him. When I was really young, I met a guy through a coworker. We hung out at his place. Total bachelor pad, no sign of a woman anywhere. We dated for 3 MONTHS before I found out from someone other than him that he was married. Talk about shocked. And I dropped him. Fast.

 

[Hutchy]

My FIL has been with a woman for we think 7 years now and my inlaws divorce was final just think past May. Six years ago he came home and told my MIL that he had bought another house and he wanted a divorce this because this woman was going to move to be with him. About 3 months later he SUDDENLY decided that no, he didn't want a divorce after all and begged my MIL to take him back. He broke up with Other Woman for a short amount of time but soon went back to his old ways. He finally told MIL again last year on Father's Day that he wanted a divorce, again. And then AGAIN tried to beg her to take him back. Thank God by that point she was finally done with his crap. We know he's been with this same woman the whole time and at one point was with my MIL, Other Woman, AND another woman, that we know of. He has cheated on my MIL their entire marriage and she kept turning a blind eye "for the kids". Some people will never change. We are sure that he's cheating on Other Woman because last year we were on vacation with him and we saw him in action flirting with a woman right in front of our face while we were all sitting there (me, husband, BIL, and BIL's girlfriend). After we were done with that situation we just all looked at each other and said "Did that really just happen???"

Anyway, my point. Some men are cheating jackholes and some women will put up with anything, and some women just have no self respect.

FIL is VERY well off though, I don't think he would get nearly as much attention if he wasn't.

Oh and Other Woman has known the whole time he was married and SHE was also married. Ugh. My husband is coming home next month and I guess FIL has hinted that he wants us to finally meet her. Yay, I just can't wait, I'm sure we'll end up being BFF's. <shudders and rolls eyes>