Why is my sister so mean.

[sharbear]

Everytime I talk to my sister I think I need to go into therapy. She is just such a pain in the butt.

My aunt owns a couple of timeshares. My Mom told me that she was planning to use her timeshares to have a family gathering. My mom said that she really wants to host a family gathering with the timeshares that she owns. So I tell my sister that my aunt is going to do this. My sister tells me that she will let my mom stay with her but that the rest of us will have to pay our own way. This is not what my mom said but my sister talks to my aunt all the time so maybe she is right.

Today I call my sister (my MIL is doing her a favor) and she tells my really meanly are you going to my aunt's son's wedding. I said that I was probably going to have to and she says my aunt wants everybody to go to a resort afterwords. I told her that my mom and dad could not afford to do that. She says well she'll let mom and dad stay with her but not you. It was said really snippy too. My family does not have a lot of money to go to an expensive resort and I don't really want to go with my Mom's family.

My sister says really mean things to me all the time. We can not afford to go on a lot of vacations all the time and we don't have a bunch of money. I try not to talk to her that much because it hurts me so much but sometimes I have to.

Thanks to listening.

Sharbear

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie. Sorry your sister hurt your feelings

 

[browneyes]

She has insecurity issues. She's mean to you so it'll make her feel like she's better than you, but deep inside-she's jealous of you.

{{hugs}}

 

[gemmie214]

{{Hugs}} I have a SIL like that and I feel your pain

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I don't know WHY but I do say just expect her to mean forever, develop a skin as thick as a RHINO and /or do the "la-la-la-la" thing and do not get involved with relaying info with family unless under pain of death.
I find the "la-la" thing works wonders with some of my family.

{{{HUGS}}} most of us have somebody in the family that drives us nuts.

 

[sharbear]

That is true. I just don't have time for all of that negative energy. It drives my DH crazy. He hates to see me hurt and then he has to pick up the pieces.

This summer she has told me I wear too much makeup, that my DH doesn't do enough around the house and our house is a mess and that I could use plastic sugery.

She doesn't say mean things to me, what she says to my mom is even worse. My mom who was retired had to get a job (with the stock market like it is). My sister's first comment was to worry if my Mom was going to take two weeks off to watch her children while she goes to Europe. She such a sensitive person!

Boy I'm getting a lot off of my chest today.

Sharbear

 

[sharbear]

Hey I'm there. BTW my SIL is a lovely kind person who I have never had a problem with. Go figure.

 

[cotye]

Sounds like a real bitter person with a chip on her shoulder. {HUG} for ya.

 

[Colleen A.]

My oldest sister sounds a lot like yours....only WORSE! When I was younger, in my late teens through 94, when I was 29, I thought mistakenly that she was my friend. She was much older than me - 26 years to me precise. Her youngest child is 8 months older than me. Anyway, things started unravelling when I was placed on bedrest with my youngest child. She was asked to help me my mother, who was in the latter stages of Altzheimers. She positively refused to help! I was in a position where I couldn't do anything. My other sister works full time. She had a 3 bedroom house all to her self! She was home full time, but refused to let me mother stay with her. Anyway, I got to talking to my other sister during this time - the one my older sister convinced me did not like me. Anything and everything I had told my oldest sister in confidence, was spread through the whole family and all her friends. She would then tell my other sister things that I supposedly had said to her (all lies!). For whatever reason, she didn't want me and my sister to be close. The worst thing she had ever done has left me with some severe emotional baggage! I was pregnant in 1993. I was 7 months pregnant and despite the fact that my amneo told me that I was having a perfect little boy, I still worried. One day, I was really worried and talked to her about it. The baby wasn't moving as much as he had been. I told her I was going to call the doctor. She convinced me that all babies have "quiet" days and not to worry. After talking to me, she jumped on her telephone and called all her friends and family and told them that "Colleen is so worried about the baby. I don't know why she just doesn't call the doctor!". Well, the next day, I couldn't take it anymore and called the doctor. My perfect little boy died the day before - the day I wanted to call the doctor and would of if it hadn't been for her head games that she so loved to play! Anyway, to cut a very long story short - I didn't speak to her from 1994 - 2000 when she died. My final words to her as she lay in a coma, "I will never forgive!".
Sorry to rant so much....I'll leave now!

 

[mom2boys]

It's because you are prettier & she knows it!

 

[Nancy]

I am so glad i have great sisters!! My younger sister can drive me nuts, but not in a mean way...she's just 12 years younger thn me and sometimes we have different views on things. My older sister is the best, I wish she lived closer so I could spend more time with her.