Why is it always the same mom that picks up late?

[stsomewhere]

My daughter's friend is always here after the agreed upon time, Her mom usually gets picked up at least 30 minutes late.
My daughter had a sleepover last night and all the other moms are picking up at 4pm. But, the late mom is picking up at 3pm , she asked if I could keep her until 5pm. I told her no. Her daughter is upset that she has to leave early.
Well, its 3pm and she is not here. I am the type of person who always picks up a few minutes early.

 

[JoiseyMom]

My daughter's friend is always here after the agreed upon time, Her mom usually gets picked up at least 30 minutes late.
My daughter had a sleepover last night and all the other moms are picking up at 4pm. But, the late mom is picking up at 3pm , she asked if I could keep her until 5pm. I told her no. Her daughter is upset that she has to leave early.
Well, its 3pm and she is not here. I am the type of person who always picks up a few minutes early.

Selfish and inconsiderate adults?? I can see being a few minutes late, I mean traffic, some little thing, but that lte all the time... Sorry!

I am like you, I always try to be early. Unless we are going to in-laws..but I can never get DH outta the house, or the kids!! SIgh!!

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

My daughter's friend is always here after the agreed upon time, Her mom usually gets picked up at least 30 minutes late.
My daughter had a sleepover last night and all the other moms are picking up at 4pm. But, the late mom is picking up at 3pm , she asked if I could keep her until 5pm. I told her no. Her daughter is upset that she has to leave early.
Well, its 3pm and she is not here. I am the type of person who always picks up a few minutes early.

I would tell her: if you are late one more time, your daughter is not coming over anymore for these sleepovers. Trust me, the daughter will do everything in her power to make sure her mom is on time and if she isn't, the mom will pay consequence of the wrath of a teenage girl, and she'll learn her lesson.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

She sounds like on of those people who think their time is more important than anyone elses.

 

[stsomewhere]

She just got picked up. 20 minutes late.
The other moms will be here on time.

I don't mind a few minutes late or if it was an occasional thing.

 

[msmayor]

Well, for this party was it YOU that wanted her picked up at 3 and all the others at 4, or was it the Mom that originally said 3pm?

If your intended 'end' time was 4pm then if she showed up at 3:20 I would not have considered her 'late'. Late for HER time, but not yours...and in my mind I would not be annoyed since you had intended for the girls to remain until 4pm.

 

[stsomewhere]

Well, for this party was it YOU that wanted her picked up at 3 and all the others at 4, or was it the Mom that originally said 3pm?

If your intended 'end' time was 4pm then if she showed up at 3:20 I would not have considered her 'late'. Late for HER time, but not yours...and in my mind I would not be annoyed since you had intended for the girls to remain until 4pm.

No, I said 4. She asked if I would keep her until 5 otherwise she would need to pick up her up at 3.
I am not annoyed she was late since I have girls here until 4pm.
It was more of an observation. She is the one who is always late. I guess it doesn't matter if she picks the time or me. I will have to builod extra time into the pick up next time.

 

[OceanAnnie]

If I were in that situation, I would give the mother a "special" time to pick up her child. I would make it about an hour or so before the other kids were to be picked up. Then she would be on time, every time.

 

[stsomewhere]

If I were in that situation, I would give the mother a "special" time to pick up her child. I would make it about an hour or so before the other kids were to be picked up. Then she would be on time, every time.

This is what I plan to do now.

 

[mickeyboat]

One of my daughters' friends' parents always brings my kids home when they visit her home. That way she can be sure the kids leave on time. And before you say it's because I am late, I am never late. I think she just likes to be able to control when the kids leave.

 

[FayeW]

If you said the girls were to be picked up at 4:00, and she picked her daughter up at 3:20, she wasn't late.

Later than she said she would be, yes, but not late picking her daughter up from a party that technically didn't end until 4. Not sure why you are peeved.

 

[Buckalew11]

Some people are always late.

I guess they are selfish and inconsiderate.

I have clients who are late to every single hair appointment. It is a pattern for them. I see it every single month/6 weeks.

My sister is one of them. I tell her to come earlier than I really want her. She usually leaves home when she's supposed to be somewhere.

 

[Art 1]

I wish I knew but have noticed the same thing.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I know some late people. The 2 people I have in mind are both OCD about cleaning their house. I think it is an interesting observation. They get wrapped up in doing something and won't leave until it is done.

Or they just have no sense of time. It is really mind boggling to me. Many occasions I have witnessed poor judgement with time planning.

However bottom line is that they are doing what they want to do and if they are late they do not care.

I on the other hand would be totally humilated to be late all time. It goes against my nature.

 

[bumbershoot]

No, I said 4. She asked if I would keep her until 5 otherwise she would need to pick up her up at 3.
I am not annoyed she was late since I have girls here until 4pm.
It was more of an observation. She is the one who is always late. I guess it doesn't matter if she picks the time or me. I will have to builod extra time into the pick up next time.

Why are some people late? Because they just don't have good time-management skills.

I've been known to have that problem. It's NOT because I think my time is more valuable (ugh at that concept, that anyone who is late feels that way!), but just b/c I don't always think it through. For me to be on time I do have to sit and think the whole thing through, going backwards. It's not second nature to me, and the times when I don't plan it out like that, I'll be late. It most often inconveniences ONLY me...I have to cut my workout short because I've left the garage late, and DS will be making his class (after my workout) on time, so it's only ME that is being shorted, for example. So I have to go "E's class is at 4, 15 minutes to park and get to the locker room for him to shower before swim class, so pull in at 3:45, at least 20 minutes to get cross town, so be leaving garage by 3:20, 5 minutes to get from condo, check mail, get to basement in car etc, oh wait, add 5 minutes to that just in case, get ready 30 minutes before leaving condo, etc etc etc....I *have to* do this EVERY time. And sometimes I just flat out forget to do that. Sometimes I do it but don't share it with the family. Sometimes they are dragging their feet. etc etc etc.

If you said the girls were to be picked up at 4:00, and she picked her daughter up at 3:20, she wasn't late.

Later than she said she would be, yes, but not late picking her daughter up from a party that technically didn't end until 4. Not sure why you are peeved.

The woman said "if not 5, then 3". So the woman was late for her own stated time.

 

[disney1990]

I would give the Mom an earlier time. If her daughter needs to be picked up by 4:00, I would tell her 3:00.

As stated earlier, some people are always late -- they aren't just late to your house, they are late to work, they are late to church, they are late to weddings.

And, as my Mom used to say, they will be late to their own funeral!

 

[FayeW]

The woman said "if not 5, then 3". So the woman was late for her own stated time.

I understand, but she probably just wanted to give her daughter as much time at the party, which didn't end until 4:00, as she could. She still picked her up earlier than the others so she just left it as late as she possibly could while still allowing time for whatever else she had to do. I would have done the same thing. I probably wouldn't have given a hard and fast "I'll pick her up at 3:00", though, I would have said that I would have to pick her up early, around 3:00, or so.

 

[Corky's Mom]

Two of my best friends are like this. (I am ALWAYS early! Can't stand to even be on time.) Both of these women would give you the shirt off their backs! It is not that they think their time is more important than mine, They just have no concept of time. I have been friends with them for 10 years and at first it annoyed the crud out of me!! Now I just know they are on their own time schedule. If they tell me they will be there at 2 I know is will be closer 4! If I have to be somewhere at a certain time I take their kids home. The wonderful things they bring into my life out way their tardiness! I must be mellowing in my old age!

 

[ols386]

I think the main point is that this particular mom is typically late in picking up her dd. That would annoy me too, if I were the op.

 

[C.Ann]

That's one of those things in life that really, really annoys me - although I'm working on not letting it get to me so much..

As far as I'm concerned, it's extremely rude to keep anyone "waiting".. I always make a point of being on time - or even early - out of respect for other people.. Their time is important too.. It's not a difficult thing to do.. Plan ahead.. Plan for the things that might make you late (traffic; weather; an accident; etc.) - by adding in extra time for things that might cause a delay..

If this mom is "always" late, she's not setting a very good example for her DD..