Why do other people care where you stay? longwinded...

[G8r4evr]

If your heart is set on the Poly, stay at the Poly and let them stay at POP. Im sure you will see plenty of each other, even while staying at separate resorts.

 

[PolyAddict]

Every argument being brought up, could certainly be countered. A medical problem with a sister and missed time together, could easily become a medical problem with her husband who really wanted family time at the Poly, but instead settled for extended family time at a resort he did not want to stay at. Disappointing a sister, as compared to disappointing her own husband. The OP already mentioned that she took a trip this year, without her husband and that she and her sisters stayed in separate resorts. There were no problems reported. If the sisters want to invite themselves into an already planned vacation, I see no reason why the OP has to change things around to accomodate them.

We don't know much about the OP, but it sounds like a fairly large age difference amongst the sisters. If they were 12 and 15 when she was born, do we really know how much sister bonding there truly was? My youngest sister was 8 when I got married and moved out of the house. I hardly had time to get to know her before I was off and starting my own family. Irregardless though, the age difference between sisters and the kids as well, can possibly add to the difficulty of trying to coordinate the groups. I'm sorry, but beyond compromising my existing and already planned vacation to include a grand gatherings event and a few scheduled meals together, I wouldn't do much more than that.

The OP clearly needs to do what's best for her own family.

Tammi-you sound as though you already understand my family dynamics. I was 4 years old when my first niece was born. Therefore, my oldest sister was out of the house by the time I was three? We were not close growing up, but live close to each other now. I have been married longer than any of my siblings and have had the most stability in my life, an advantage to watching alot of drama unfold when you are young and refusing to have it in your own life. I love my siblings but have always felt distant from them. DH and our DD's are my life and I have been married 18 years. I think putting them first is what has helped keep stability in our lives. I have never compromised when it comes to them and will not start now.

When she asked if she could come along this trip, I said sure, assuming it would be like it was this past June, pleasant.

 

[ms_mckenna]

All I can say is I feel your pain. DH invited his family and I invited a few friends to go with us in 08. Before we did so DH and I talked about how his family for the most part even though they can afford to Deluxe they won't ... getting them to take thier children on a vacation alone is going to be a big enough issue. I asked him if he wanted to stay at Pop or one of the All Stars with them and his answer was a no with a few more words around it . He loves the Boardwalk / BC area and has said the only way he will ever not stay in that area is if one of the kids REALLY wants to stay at a different Deluxe. So we invited everyone and told them where we would be staying but that they could still stay onsite for considerably less at one of the values or mods. We will meet them in the park and dinners etc. but we will not have that group time back at the pool and the hotel. My best friend is staying in the same hotel as us because her whole point of going is to let the kids have time together and be with us.
Anyway I just wanted to say keep your head up and stay the course. I understand exactly where you are coming from. You have to do what is best for you and your immediate family. I see no point in being unhappy to keep everyone else happy.

 

[marlynnp]

disfan- this will be our family trip, she asked if she could come along with her husband and 2 grandchildren. I said sure assuming we would do like we did on this past trip and each stay where we want to stay and plan our days and meals together. I really think that is enough, any more and it might get to be too much. There were several times on this last trip that her and her husband were fussing alot with each other and that is no fun to be around.

I didn't read all the replies, so this may have alrready been said...

That's your answer. It's obvious from your posts that you and your sister have different expectations for this trip. You need to explain to your sister that when you agreed to go at the same time that this was what you expected.

 

[JulyGirl]

Honestly, I would not want to spend my trip worried if my sister and Co. were going to knock at my hotel door at any given time. I'm sure husband would not care for this either. It's an awkward situation, but I think you need to tell your sister what you told us on this thread.

 

[TammiMcMan]

Tammi-you sound as though you already understand my family dynamics.

Yup, I think I do. The funny part, is that I'm on the opposite end though, because I'm the oldest of 6. I can honestly say, that what my younger sisters enjoy for a vacation, is not what my family would call a good time. We have very enjoyable get togethers at each others houses, but it just doesn't extend to family vacations.

 

[disneykid4ever]

Stay where you want to stay. It doesn't sound as if you are all planning some grand gathering where you all will be doing every little thing together. Sure, spend some meals together, catch the fireworks together, etc . . . but if this is planned family time for your kids, husband, and you then you should stay where you would be comfortable and fully enjoy the vacation.

 

[PolyAddict]

Stay where you want to stay. It doesn't sound as if you are all planning some grand gathering where you all will be doing every little thing together. Sure, spend some meals together, catch the fireworks together, etc . . . but if this is planned family time for your kids, husband, and you then you should stay where you would be comfortable and fully enjoy the vacation.

Awe, love the furbabies!!!! Thans for the advice.

 

[disneydave]

I love my extended family and enjoy spending time with them; however, when we travel as a family typically we stay at different hotels. Our idea of an acceptable hotel and their idea is not the same. We still spend time together during the day and then we get a chance to get away and relax for a while before bed.