Remember in the movie Bad Boys, Martin Lawrence did this to calm down?! Well I am Whoosa-ing right now since I just got off the phone with my mother!!
She was hear last week for some church function and because of a whole lot of craziness going on with my family, my DS called a family meeting to be had at my house. We were to start at 7:30pm but my mother was at my grandmothers helping her move things around due to a leak in the roof. She didn't tell anyone that just kept calling to say she would be late. Finally around 9, I decided it was too late and I needed to prepare for work the next day and go to bed. I picked up the phone to call my Dsis and DH comes in the room and tells me to tell everyone it's too late. DH is very calm and reserved and I am the HIGHLY volatile one. Every now and then DH does his what I call Billy Bad A-- routine and talk to me in a way that I don't approve.
Then Brooklyn Tiff comes out and it goes on from there. So, anyway, when he said what he said and then Brooklyn Tiff asked him who he was talking to like that. My other Dsis and Db were already there and they excused themselves from the room. I proceeded to tell him that he needed to watch his tone, etc and that I was in the middle of cancelling the meeting when he came in the room. He goes "well, deal with it." and walked into the bedroom. Now, I think he has issues with the fact that even though we drive each other crazy, my family is fairly close but his family is practically non-existant. He doesn't discuss it though. But it manifests in starnge ways like this particular night. But to me, it doesn't excuse his disrespectful tone. Anyway, to make a long story short, I followed him in the bedroom and we started to argue. I heard my DM and Ds come in the house but other Dsis quickly pushed everyone out the door. Anyway, DH and I have been married 7 years, I am the screamer, he says a few things to incite a one woman riot and then I say something that he finds amusing and hugs me, telling me how much he loves his "brooklyn Tiff" and we make up. That's the fun part! Right or wrong, it's "our way". Afterwards, he said he was sorry for speaking to me like that and we were going to apologize to my Dsis and Dbro as well even though they have lived with us so it's not a big deal anymore to them.
Anyway, DM calls me today and tells me that God put it on her to tell me something and for me not to respond or explain anything to just listen. Then she starts telling me how my husband is the authoritative figure in the home and how I am not supposed to raise my voice and how she wasn't listening but she heard me disrepect him by swearing at him which I don't do. I swear when I get upset but not at him, there's a difference. She was just going on and on, about me not talking to him like that. Funny thing is she kept saying, she really didn't want to get in my marital business but...... I finally just told her that we have been married for 7 years and have never argued in front of her, and I never take any marital issues to her because it has nothing to do with her. Then, thank goodness, my realtor called. Had to go!
Whoosa! I am sure I will get flamed for the arguement and some may agree with my DM and some may say they never argue or raise their voice at their SO, oh
to you! To each his own!
She was hear last week for some church function and because of a whole lot of craziness going on with my family, my DS called a family meeting to be had at my house. We were to start at 7:30pm but my mother was at my grandmothers helping her move things around due to a leak in the roof. She didn't tell anyone that just kept calling to say she would be late. Finally around 9, I decided it was too late and I needed to prepare for work the next day and go to bed. I picked up the phone to call my Dsis and DH comes in the room and tells me to tell everyone it's too late. DH is very calm and reserved and I am the HIGHLY volatile one. Every now and then DH does his what I call Billy Bad A-- routine and talk to me in a way that I don't approve.
Then Brooklyn Tiff comes out and it goes on from there. So, anyway, when he said what he said and then Brooklyn Tiff asked him who he was talking to like that. My other Dsis and Db were already there and they excused themselves from the room. I proceeded to tell him that he needed to watch his tone, etc and that I was in the middle of cancelling the meeting when he came in the room. He goes "well, deal with it." and walked into the bedroom. Now, I think he has issues with the fact that even though we drive each other crazy, my family is fairly close but his family is practically non-existant. He doesn't discuss it though. But it manifests in starnge ways like this particular night. But to me, it doesn't excuse his disrespectful tone. Anyway, to make a long story short, I followed him in the bedroom and we started to argue. I heard my DM and Ds come in the house but other Dsis quickly pushed everyone out the door. Anyway, DH and I have been married 7 years, I am the screamer, he says a few things to incite a one woman riot and then I say something that he finds amusing and hugs me, telling me how much he loves his "brooklyn Tiff" and we make up. That's the fun part! Right or wrong, it's "our way". Afterwards, he said he was sorry for speaking to me like that and we were going to apologize to my Dsis and Dbro as well even though they have lived with us so it's not a big deal anymore to them. Anyway, DM calls me today and tells me that God put it on her to tell me something and for me not to respond or explain anything to just listen. Then she starts telling me how my husband is the authoritative figure in the home and how I am not supposed to raise my voice and how she wasn't listening but she heard me disrepect him by swearing at him which I don't do. I swear when I get upset but not at him, there's a difference. She was just going on and on, about me not talking to him like that. Funny thing is she kept saying, she really didn't want to get in my marital business but...... I finally just told her that we have been married for 7 years and have never argued in front of her, and I never take any marital issues to her because it has nothing to do with her. Then, thank goodness, my realtor called. Had to go!
Whoosa! I am sure I will get flamed for the arguement and some may agree with my DM and some may say they never argue or raise their voice at their SO, oh
to you! To each his own!
