Who was the stricter parent when growing up?

[Lovely2CU]

It was my Mum, without a shadow of a doubt.

 

[AKL_Megs]

It was my Mum, without a shadow of a doubt.

Ditto!

 

[luvmarypoppins]

My dad for sure.

 

[minkydog]

My mom, by a country mile.She was strict beyond belief--we girls had to present "evidence" of our periods each month and even then, she never believed us. No matter how hard she came down on us, she just could not seem to whip us into shape (read: make us perfect. Imperfection was the 3rd deadly sin,in her eyes.) My father just didn't care. Unless, of course, he got pissed off about something. THEN he'd lay the hammer down on whoever happened to be standing near and he wouldn't let up until there was blood or broken bones. Yeah, they were quite a pair.

 

[aprilgail2]

My mom, by a country mile.She was strict beyond belief--we girls had to present "evidence" of our periods each month and even then, she never believed us. :

OMG gross!!!!

Mine had to be my mom---but all I had to do was cry to my dad and then things would go my way---he had the final say! She was a housewife and all I would hear was "wait till your father gets home" and all I thought was "YEA when my dad gets home it will go my way!"

 

[MushyMushy]

My mother totally ruled the roost. Even my dad was afraid of her.

 

[disfan07]

My mom. But really, neither of them are that strict. I mean my mom was the one who punished us but that was like groundings, timeouts, etc.

When my dad was in charge, my mom always said that all she cared about was that we were fed, that the house was still standing and that we were all in one piece. We could get away with pretty much anything with him.

 

[C.Ann]

It really depended on the situation..

I guess I would say the "every day" routine stuff, my mother..

More important stuff, when I was old enough to go out at night to dances, dating, etc. - definitely my dad! I guess dad's are just like that though..

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Other...Neither were strict at all.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Other...Neither were strict at all.

Same here.

 

[disfan07]

More important stuff, when I was old enough to go out at night to dances, dating, etc. - definitely my dad! I guess dad's are just like that though..

Yup. Thats my dad. I am 21 and still tells me I'm not allowed to date until I'm 30. Yeah....I've been dating for 6 years already. Nice try dad.

Now, my brother on the other hand who is 24 is engaged to a 20 year old. My dad thinks its great. So I asked my dad what he would say if I tols him I was engaged to a 25 year old. Yeah....he said he would have to hurt the guy. Also, we are taking her to disney with us and my dad doesnt really care if they share a room, but when I switched the situation around again, he said that if it was my fiance, we would be staying in separate hotels....lol. Its the father double standard.

 

[PatsGirl]

Definately Dad and he got stricter the more the alcohol intake. Mom was a softy, always trying to make up for his drunken rampages FWIW, he always tried to be a good Dad and he no longer drinks but hey, three kids before you are 21 and four before you are 25, that's enough to make anyone drink. He didn't have a clue how to parent and was just doing what he could to keep a roof over our heads. I almost feel bad for him now knowing the guilt he lives with

 

[kimblebee]

I think both my parents were strict. Us 4 kids knew what was expected of us at all times and there were consequences if we didn't live up to it. At the time I thought it was too strict but now I think they had the right idea.

I was strict with my daughter when she was younger and now I know I can take her anywhere and I won't have any problems with her. She has had a lot of priviledges offered to her because I know she can handle it.

 

[Music City Mama]

It really depended on the situation..

I guess I would say the "every day" routine stuff, my mother..

More important stuff, when I was old enough to go out at night to dances, dating, etc. - definitely my dad! I guess dad's are just like that though..

Probably the same here, although, they were both fairly lenient/permissive. I am much stricter with my kids than they were with us.

 

[Lovely2CU]

Now if my Mum said this, I did begin to worry!

 

[dislaney]

My Dad for sure.

It took me a long time to get used to having to be the strict one in my house but with the way my husband is - I had to learn quick. The kids get away with murder with him. I had always thought it would be like the way I grew up but.. I don't think so.

 

[shortbun]

Dad always laughed when Mom made him discipline us. She made all the rules. She made rules for him too, lol!

 

[zippitydoo]

Easy, my mom

 

[NotUrsula]

Well, they were both very strict and expected their commands to be followed IMMEDIATELY and to the letter. The difference was that my Dad's commands were almost always reasonable and my mother's often were not.

Mom was definitely the nastiest punisher -- she had no problem with whacking us upside the head with whatever came to hand if we didn't snap to fast enough or do the job to her very exacting satisfaction. Dad didn't do that; he just stood over you while you did it over or piled on more work if your attitude was not what he expected.

 

[tink20]

Mom was in charge when it came to us children, but he was there for back-up (mostly for my brother)

One time we ask mom if we could go somewhere, she said "go ask you dad" I guess she was tried of being in charge, we went and ask him he said "go ask your mom" so we took that as a YES! and we went wherever it was!