Who walked you down the aisle?

[goofy4tink]

First time, in '70 my dad walked me down that aisle. Second time, in '90, my 16 y/o ds walked me down the aisle...that one was so meaningful since it was the church ds was baptized in, as well as the church that I grew up in. First wedding was in dh's church since I so disliked the pastor at my own church!!!

 

[Tantor]

My brother. Father died 10 years before I got married.

 

[Kitty 34]

My dad. Then I stopped and handed a rose to both my Mom and my new MIL.

 

[Pigeon]

Both my mother and my father. Dh's mother and father walked him down, too.

 

[princesspumpkin]

Wow, it's very sad to see how much divorce effects a wedding. I knew that the divorce rate is high, but i never really knew that so many dads had little or no relatioinship with their children.

 

[AllAboutPluto]

Wow, it's very sad to see how much divorce effects a wedding. I knew that the divorce rate is high, but i never really knew that so many dads had little or no relatioinship with their children.

I completely understand the point that you're wanting to make, but there truly was nothing at all sad about my wedding. Sometimes divorce is the best thing for the kids (and without wading thru a bunch of muck, I believe that in my family's case, it was). Yes, I'm probably screwed up somehow because of it, but I'd have been screwed up in some other way had they stayed together. I like the me I am today, and I got to grow up with a much stronger mom because of it.

That said, if my daughter was to choose to walk alone, her daddy would be crushed. But then, her daddy is everything my daddy wasn't.

 

[princesspumpkin]

I completely understand the point that you're wanting to make, but there truly was nothing at all sad about my wedding. Sometimes divorce is the best thing for the kids (and without wading thru a bunch of muck, I believe that in my family's case, it was). Yes, I'm probably screwed up somehow because of it, but I'd have been screwed up in some other way had they stayed together. I like the me I am today, and I got to grow up with a much stronger mom because of it.

That said, if my daughter was to choose to walk alone, her daddy would be crushed. But then, her daddy is everything my daddy wasn't.

I totally hear you. I wasn't saying that divorce is terrible and weddings are sad because of it. I was just surprised (and saddened) that after divorce, so many dads had no sort of relationship with their kids (even adult kids), and that affects a lot of weddings. I was under the impression that yes, around half of all marriages end in divorce, but that for the most part, the children were able to maintain a relationship with both parents (with some exceptions). I know divorced families, but everyone still has relationships with each other. I learn something new all the time.

 

[kikakeko]

My stepdad did. My grandparents who raised me disowned me for marrying my DH (almost 10 years ago). They didn't even come to my wedding. It has taken a long time to get over that, but it really has helped my stepdad and my relationship.

 

[nickelsfamily]

My father and step father did, one on each side (I love my pictures from this). I am very close to both of them. At fist my stepfather declined my request as he thought it would be disprespectful to my biological father. But, my grandmother said that it was my wedding and I should get what I ask for!
I also had 2 father daughter dances. I felt very lucky to have all of the men in my life with my on my day!

 

[babiesX2]

The Elvis impesonator (sp?) who married us.

 

[Zandy595]

My brother walked me down the aisle. Now that I look back, I really should have had my mom do it though. I guess I just didn't know that was an option. At the time I didn't really get along with my step dad and my father and I haven't spoken in about 15 years (I got married 11 years ago).

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I have a bit of an interesting one. I'm getting married in January 2007. Here's the aisle:

It's ... long. I don't have a relationship with my father (and he's in jail, so it would be a logistical problem getting him there, ha) and my stepfather passed away, so I'm going to have my mother and stepmother escorted up the aisle, then I'll be walking myself all the way, until I get to the end, where there are stairs up to the intimate front area, where about 150 people will sit ...

and then my mother and my grandmother will walk me up, together.

That church is STUNNING!

Best wishes on your nuptials!

 

[swankybeth]

My mom and dad both walked me down the aisle.

 

[katied]

I walked myself down the aisle (and my DF has not forgiven me yet). I gave my DM the option of walking me down the aisle, she did not feel it was right, so my next best option was to walk myself.

It was the best decision for my situation.

 

[princesspumpkin]

It's amazing how much politics there is in weddings.

 

[TiggerStac]

My Dad walked me down the aisle.

When we have our VR in 09, I hope to have DS..who will be 8 walk me down the aisle. When we have our VR, I will have a DS or DD who will be almost 3, need to incorporate them somehow, too.

 

[SueRS]

My mom walk half way and waited for me to join her and then took me to (now) DH.

My parents divorced when I was 15 and I felt that my mom did the raising. (Even before the divorce). Dad was a guest, not part of the wedding party.

 

[castleview]

DH and I walked down the aisle together. It wasn't about my dad or any kind of honor. I was 29 and didn't want to be "given away" by anyone. Both sets of parents walked down the aisle as part of the processional and were seated at the front at that time. My father got up to read the scripture lessons. At the point where the minister might have said "who gives this bride?", instead he said something about the loving support of families and both sets of parents pledged to do that.

We each just had one attendant. Our processional was - the alcolyte (our neice), the two pastors, dh's parents, my parents, our attendants (my sister, dh's BIL), and then us.

I'll pass this on to my sister. She's getting married in a few months and is 32. My dad is flipping out because he's not giving her away. She finally got so fed up with his tantrum, she said "I don't belong to you".

Having been through a wedding with my parents 10 years ago, I empathize with my sister and offer her encouragement to do her wedding the way she wants...at the same time, as a bystander - I think it's pretty funny

 

[princesspumpkin]

I think that it can be an embarrassment to some dads to be at their daughter's wedding, but not be the one walking them down the aisle. You know how people (especially family) talk. Dads are probably hurt when they aren't asked to do the walking, but that feeling is probably tripled when they think about how it will "appear" to family and friends.

 

[sajetto]

I'm getting married in January and both my dad and grandpa (father's side) are walking me up the aisle. My grandfather is 81 years old and I'm very close with him. I wanted him to have a special job, but at the same time I didn't want to kick my dad out of the position so I just chose them both.

At first I was worried that my mom would feel left out, but it doesn't seem to bother her.