Who here has an 11 yr. old son?

[roliepolieoliefan]

My son is 11. He has friends that are girls but definetly not girlfriends.

He doesn't text, call or "go" with anyone . His friends are the same. So maybe alot has to do with who your kids hang out with..

 

[Mickey's Minion]

My son is 11. He has friends that are girls but definetly not girlfriends.

He doesn't text, call or "go" with anyone . His friends are the same. So maybe alot has to do with who your kids hang out with..

Absolutely. I definitely allow my child to run around with a bunch of hormone crazed, texting middle schoolers. And proud of it. At least I know for sure he isn't a teacup, more like the steaming teapot ready to perk.

Luckily they are all really good kids, great students, great athletes and great friends. I couldn't ask for a better set of boys to "hang out" with.

 

[NHdisneylover]

DS will be 11 in December. Girls have never been "yucky" to him. They have just been girls. He has as many friends who are girls as friends who are boys (probably a side effect of being a dancer--he spends so much time as the only boy in the room). HE has not done or said anything to indicate any crushes, oging out, etc.

DD12 started getting attention from boys her age last year (she looks much older than she is and she has been flitered with by older boys who assume she is their age for a while). Summer camp drove her batty with boys falling all over themselves trying to impress her, waiting until she signed up for excursions so they could sign up for the same ones, etc. SO far, she sees the boys as irritating instead of desireable (I keep thinking I will wake up one day and find tha thas done a 180). That attitude actually seems to make things worseIt is like some sort of contest to see who can finally get Marika to like them back or something

 

[tasha99]

DS 11 has a friend who is a girl, but he is definitely not interested in girls yet. He still turns away at movies if people are kissing because of the "yuck" factor. He's kind of a young 11 (almost 12, but not growing up as fast as some kids I see). His friends are the same, though there are boys in his class who like girls.

 

[delilah]

My son is 11 1/2. He has had "girlfriends" ever since he was in kindergarten. Fortunately for me, his best "girlfriend" lives in about 30 miles away from here. They have been friends since first grade, because they have attended the summer science camp sponsored by my husband's employer since then. Several times a year, we make a special arrangement for a meeting with this girl and her family, usually at the Children's Museum at Christmas, or at the fall "Headless Horseman" event at Conner Prairie (we live near Indianapolis).

I have to say that some of the girls at his school are very aggressive in a skanky sort of way, and as a future MIL, I am very open in my observations of this type of behavior. He attends a Catholic school, and I feel very strongly about modesty in behavior and dress. There are some girls that I would not feel comfortable at all about his "going out with". But, like the rest of us, he needs to make his own choices and decision. I will give input, but, ultimately, the choice is his.

 

[PatsGirl]

While my son never felt that girls were yucky, he was too interested in boy stuff like fishing and sports to be bothered with them He had his first girlfriend at about 15, went to his first dance at 17 and started really dating about then. According to all the girls around here, he is a hottie

I should add that I was very strict during his middle school years and did not allow girls to call my home. The first one that did got a real talking to and she spread the word My DD12 knows that she will NOT be calling boys at this age either. Concentrate on your schoolwork and keep focused for a bit more until the hormones really get raging and then....well, then, we gotta let go a little, huh?

 

[LuvOrlando]

I have an 11 year old boy and I think it is normal to pair up and break up on a weekly basis. He had his 1st 'girlfriend', whatever that means at this age, last year. My DD is 10 and when a boy asked her out last year she told him, "No thanks." but now there is someone who has caught here eye, I'm not sure she'll 'go out' with him though. Around here going out is more about texting mono-syllabic messages There is a dance next week, which I think is ridiculous, but I suspect no-one is going to be pairing off, it will probably be more about being with friends but KNOWING someone there likes you. Uggh, why is everyone in such a rush to make these kids older for this I blame the school but I won't keep my DS home. Him being an outcast won't help things.

 

[N&B'smom]

Sadly, my DS10 has never thought that girls were yucky. Now that being said, he has always liked to have friends that are girls, he's very protective of them. (he has a little sis) He has not had someone that he calls his girlfriend. Frankly, I'm not looking forward to that one AT ALL.

Here is one cute thing that happened, first day of 1st grade, he came home and told me about the little girl he sat next to in class...here's what he said 'oh mom, she has the voice of an angel'. I wanted to cry.

 

[wdwfan16]

I had a "boyfriend" in fourth grade. He would walk me to school and home everyday. It only lastest a few weeks or maybe a month.

 

[mjkacmom]

Well, I can help you out. I have a dd13, and ds11, and the girls start first. Ds got his first notes last year, in 5th grade, and although he claimed to find girls icky, after I questioned him more, he did admit to a little crush on Megan, and the fact that most of the boys felt the same way (BTW, Megan is sort of a tomboy, not a girly girl). I remember JH, and some boys were WAY ahead of the others in this area!

 

[Skywalker]

My 11-year-old son is most definitely NOT into girls yet. If you even mention it to him he gets the chills, lol. Most of his friends are the same, except for the one "ladies man" friend he has that has dated all the girls in the class.

My younger son, 8 years old, had a "girlfriend" in grade one but now he is back to "yuck."

 

[TangaroaTiki]

Yes, my 11 year old thinks girls are yucky & dumb (except for me )

 

[Becky2005]

I have a 12 year old & as far as I can tell, girls don't really interest him at the moment. He might think some are cute but that's about it. He's definitely more into computer games, sports, school clubs, etc... He never talks about any girls...I'm not really sure he would though.

I know when I was in 7th/8th grade my best friend & I would swap boyfriends just about every other week. We were all on the track team and hung out afterwards just going down to the local McDonald's type of thing but we never called them, never talked to them outside of school. I don't think my parents even knew I had a boyfriend(s) in Junior High...considering "going on" just meant passing notes to each other really. I never mentioned it to my parents either.

Of course, when my DD was in Middle School she did have one boy try to ask her to the movies -- it totally freaked her out. Now she hangs out with the guys mostly because she is used to their antics with have 3 brothers of her own & she *hates* the girl drama that happens amongst the girls. She would rather hang out with the guys and not deal with it. I think that may be part of the girl drama for her, she has no problem talking to the boys -- I know last year one of the girls asked DD how she could just go up and talk to the guys. DD told me basically she thought they were nuts, that all you do is go up and say "Hi", it's not that difficult. She hasn't dated yet though either.

 

[dopeysgirl01]

My 10 yr old DS is still in the girls are yucky phase. My 8 yr old DD has had a "boyfriend" since June. They talk on the phone and see each other at the football fields. I think it just depends on the child.

 

[stsomewhere]

Sorry, but DS11 and his friends no longer think girls are "yucky". He came home from school the first week with about 5 notes from girls asking for his phone number, and now has a "girlfriend". That basically means nothing, as far as I can tell. He doesn't see her outside of school.

Same here.
He does have a lot of friends who are girls, too.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

I have both a son and a daughter that are 11 and in the sixth grade. They've always hung out with both boys and girls together. DS isn't interested in girls in "that way" yet, nor does he think they're yucky. They're just friends. He's pretty happy to hang out with kids of both genders as long as they're having fun and everyone's getting along well. I don't think there's any one girl he's interested in yet. No girls have called him yet.

DD, OTOH, has been noticing boys for a while now, but she's quiet about it. She doesn't call boys on the phone. The most I've heard about it (aside from what we've discussed together as part of our ongoing discussions about life) is her and some of her girlfriends whispering to eachother who they "like".

I did see that some of their classmates, even last year, were "dating", but it was only a few and not the majority. I asked one of the moms of these kids what that entailed, and she said they text eachother, talk on the phone, hang out at the beach (as part of a group), and go to dances. One thing I observed myself was that most of the "dating" kids had older brothers and sisters, which made me wonder if it was something that was modeled and more accepted by parents? I have no idea, but I thought it was interesting... (and I am not saying it's necessarily a bad thing in case anyone interprets it that way).

 

[HonnyDipp]

I have an 11DS. He has been girl crazy for a few years now. Last week we get a knock at our door. Not 1 but 2 girls came by to see my boy. I was stunned! These girls with there little cell phone was staring at my child like he was a piece of meat! It really freaked me out. I called Isaiah back into the house and quickly shut the door. I'm not ready for this!

 

[ginna74]

my just turned 12 year old son has had a couple girlfriends and has LOTS of girls that are friends. He is WAY into girls and has been for about a year.

 

[padams]

My 11 year old thinks girls are yucky (and weird, and silly, and giggly, and strange....). There are some boys in his grade who do have girlfriends. DS says these couples mostly text each other but a few actually go on dates (driven by parents or siblings). I have a neighbor who thinks its just adorable that her 11 year old DD has a boyfriend. I don't understand pushing the issue this early in life.

 

[C.Ann]

My 11 year old thinks girls are yucky (and weird, and silly, and giggly, and strange....). There are some boys in his grade who do have girlfriends. DS says these couples mostly text each other but a few actually go on dates (driven by parents or siblings). I have a neighbor who thinks its just adorable that her 11 year old DD has a boyfriend. I don't understand pushing the issue this early in life.

The part of your post that I bolded says it all for me too.. Fortunately DGD thinks it's "funny" and has no interest in "going" with a boy, but I was just flabbergasted by these notes! I know for a fact that I didn't have any interest in boys at 11 and I'm pretty darn sure that the boys still thought girls were "yucky" at that point in time..

I think the first boy I "liked" (and liked me back) was when I was around 13 or so.. Even then, I wasn't "going" with him - nor did we "go" anywhere..
I think we just passed notes in the hallway or something..

Makes me kind of sad that "childhood" is becoming shorter and shorter..