Who here has an 11 yr. old son?

[C.Ann]

Okay - as you know, I'm 60 years old - so what my son was like at 11 years old is sure to be vastly different than what an 11 yr. old boy of today would be..

My question is: If you have an 11 year old son (6th grade), is he still in the stage where he thinks "girls are yucky"??

The reason I ask is that my 11 year old DGD came home from school today with not one, not two, not three, but four notes - from four different boys - who are apparently "smitten" with her.. Each one wanted to know if she would "go" with him (which I guess is code for "be my girlfriend").. She got quite a chuckle out of it and said she was going to write back to each one and say:

"What difference would it make if I said I would "go" with you since we can't "go" anywhere anyhow???"

Please tell me this nonsense doesn't start this young.. We were hoping the boys would remain "aloof" until at least 13 or so!!

 

[brios86]

I believe this non-sense starts around this age or even younger.

 

[tazdev3225]

I have an 11 y/o DGS. He has been going "out" with girls since 4th grade. When I asked him what that meant he had no clue. He has a new girlfriend every week. For him it is still a harmless stage.

 

[Mom loves Disney]

It starts now!!

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

Holy smokes! I wasn't expecting this stuff for another 2 years! I just asked DS11 if he likes girls and he said, "no". I believe him for now.

I like your DGD's response, she is pretty funny!

 

[Starbrite]

DS is 13 & girls have been calling here for about 2 years now.

 

[C.Ann]

Ugh! Not liking these responses..

The boys should definitely still be thinking girls are "yucky"..

 

[Luv Bunnies]

I have an 11 year old son who is in 5th grade. Most of the boys in his class aren't interested in girls yet. They're still talking about sports and computer games. The girls, however, are already talking about boys and trying to pair each other up. My husband walks our son to school every morning. He says when they approach the classroom, one particular girl always comes over to say hi to him and tries to get his attention. DS just quickly says hi and heads over to his group of friends. I suppose things will change when they start middle school next year and the boys will start to catch up to the girls.

 

[mrsbert]

My DS turns 11 tommorrow. He would never admit in a million years that he likes a girl. He is still into video games and tv. I wish it would stay that way but I know it will be changing soon.

 

[Kimberle]

My dd is 10 and in the 5th grade. They have never been at the stage where boys or girls are "yucky". She has always had may friends who are boys. They have not reached the stage of "puppy love" either.

 

[NAB]

My son is 12 but he had different girl friend since 10. It started with church dances when he was in grade 5.

Only thing is they change all the time. It isn't a true dating thing. If they danced that night they are going out....

He says he needs a girlfriend because he will have grade 8 prom next year and he doesn't want to have to go alone....he would be a loser.

Lots of drama at these dances.....wish I wouldn't have let him go so early. They start at grade 5 to grade 8. Then it will High school dances. Having said that I am driving him and his "girlfriend" to the dance Friday night.

 

[Mickey's Minion]

I have an 11 year old son who is in 5th grade. Most of the boys in his class aren't interested in girls yet. They're still talking about sports and computer games. The girls, however, are already talking about boys and trying to pair each other up. My husband walks our son to school every morning. He says when they approach the classroom, one particular girl always comes over to say hi to him and tries to get his attention. DS just quickly says hi and heads over to his group of friends. I suppose things will change when they start middle school next year and the boys will start to catch up to the girls.

Girls started texting DS14 around 5th grade asking to go out. They are still the more aggressive.

6th grade was the big leap into group dates (mostly parent supervised) and "going out" although I don't think they really know what that means yet. They all seem to be "going out" with somebody new each week. Listening to them is hysterical when they are discussing who is going with who, who dumped who and who likes who. Sometimes I think middle school boys are as much drama kings as the girls are drama queens

Making out seems to get more prevalent in 7th and 8th grade.

 

[RunningGirl]

Sorry, but DS11 and his friends no longer think girls are "yucky". He came home from school the first week with about 5 notes from girls asking for his phone number, and now has a "girlfriend". That basically means nothing, as far as I can tell. He doesn't see her outside of school.

 

[Sparx]

My DS turns 11 tommorrow. He would never admit in a million years that he likes a girl. He is still into video games and tv. I wish it would stay that way but I know it will be changing soon.

oh, he'll stay into video games and television! my dbf is 22 and i can always find him playing his DS game and watching tv at the same time!

 

[Minniemama350]

Neither of my boys have ever thought girls were icky. They are 12 and 9. The 9yr old always has a "girll friend."

 

[MaumeeMom]

Our DS11yo is still a bit "geeky" and doesn't have a girlfriend yet; however, many of his friends have been "going" out for years. My god daughter started dating in 5th grade.

Boy, I'm not ready for this stuff.

 

[mhsjax]

Okay - as you know, I'm 60 years old - so what my son was like at 11 years old is sure to be vastly different than what an 11 yr. old boy of today would be..

My question is: If you have an 11 year old son (6th grade), is he still in the stage where he thinks "girls are yucky"??

The reason I ask is that my 11 year old DGD came home from school today with not one, not two, not three, but four notes - from four different boys - who are apparently "smitten" with her.. Each one wanted to know if she would "go" with him (which I guess is code for "be my girlfriend").. She got quite a chuckle out of it and said she was going to write back to each one and say:

"What difference would it make if I said I would "go" with you since we can't "go" anywhere anyhow???"

Please tell me this nonsense doesn't start this young.. We were hoping the boys would remain "aloof" until at least 13 or so!!

Sorry to tell you but my son is in 7th grade and in 6th grade he really noticed the girls and he is the shy quiet type. In fact he had his first girlfriend in 6th grade. Luckily, we knew the family and we loved them and they loved us. They did "break up" lol, but we are all still friends. Good luck, they grow up fast .

 

[Tink888]

Yep, it starts earlier and earlier. I think it depends on the kid though. My boys never really thought girls were yucky. They just basically never noticed them. DS14 had a crush on a girl by the end of 6th grade. DS12 (7th grade)still has no interest or pays attention to girls yet. Neither have had girlfriends. DS12 has friends who had girlfriends in 6th grade and would tell me he thought they're too young (thank goodness lol).

In a lot of ways I think sometimes parents encourage it by playing up the cuteness of it. I'm in no hurry.

 

[laurie31]

It starts in 5th grade now.

With older DD (now 13) it was the end of the year. I started hearing stories about "she's dating him and he's cheating on her" and these kids WERE actually going places together. Parents were dropping them off at the movies for a "date" - in the FIFTH GRADE!

Well, with DD10 (she'll be 11 next week) it's already started. She was talking to me last week about when I had my first kiss, and asked some rather specific questions. So tonight (yes, just about an hour ago!) she told me why she had asked. Apparently, "Jane" is going with "Joe" and "Suzy" dared them to make out, so they did. I asked, "You mean they kissed each other?? On the lips??"

DD replied, "NO, I mean they kissed with TONGUES!" "Over behind the bleachers at the football game last Friday. Lots of people saw them, and now there are bad rumors about "Jane" and how she makes out with boys." She is friends with "Jane" and wanted to know how to stop the rumors.

Hoooly carp, I wasn't expecting THIS until HIGH SCHOOL!!!

 

[cristit14]

It starts now. My DS is 11 and had a girlfriend at summer daycare. They don't go to the same school so they don't see each other anymore, but he did call her the other day.