Who else will own up to being a jealous SO???

[EsmeraldaX]

Nah I'm not jealous. When I was younger maybe a little, but I think you kind of grow out of it.

I agree. I think it kind of shows a lack of maturity to be very jealous.

I mean, don't be stupid. Everytime I see a thread on here where someone says "My hubby went out in the middle of the night to hang out with some friends and he's never done that until he met this woman at work...do you think he's cheating??" kind of threads I think "yeah, he probably is and you should discuss it with him, not with the DIS". But that is a legit red flag.

If you don't have any red flags, and you are still jealous, there is problem. Why even be with someone you don't trust? I'm really of the midset now that you need to be comfortable with yourself, and get beyond jealousy before you can have a satisfying relationship.

I won't even put up with a guy who doesn't trust me, it's kind of annoying being on the "other side" of a jealous SO. I've been there. Being accused of stuff you are not doing is not cool. Having someone constantly concerned about what you are doing when you are not with them is not cool.

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

I haven't been jealous in years. I have had moments in the past but it's been a long time.

My two cents worth is that if you feel the need to ask if your SO is up to no good, they probably are. Trust your instincts, they won't lie to you.

 

[Planogirl]

I've known a few people who were so jealous that they were bizarre. One was a boss' girlfriend and he was even forbidden from talking to me "too much". Another was a jealous husband. His wife had to lie to him about where she went in case there were ever any men in the area and once she went to a bachelorette party and that was a cloak and dagger situation like I'd never seen before.

So I don't agree that there's always a reason to be jealous. Sometimes it's some kind of insecurity and sometimes it's just imagination IMO.

My DH and I are totally not jealous and I love it. It's a nice, free feeling IMO.

 

[tiggersmom2]

My hubby KNOWS a good thing when he sees it! We both get stares and laugh about it.....I don't get upset when someone is checking him out and vice versa. It just makes us smile to know that others wish they have what we have.

 

[jenm2878]

Just have to share this story. Last night my fiance and I went to dinner and the hostess was totally into him. Arm touching, laughing, brushing up, the whole nine yards. (While I was standing next to him. ) We sit at the table and my oblivious fiance looks at me and says "what was wrong with that girl?" He was that clueless.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

I'm not jealous. That makes DH upset, go figure. He does travel from time to time and usually with younger, good-looking pilots. But I figure I can't change what may happen and he's never given me a reason to be jealous, so why worry? We've been married for 15 years, together for 22, with 2 great kids, and as someone said, I'm cheaper married to him than divorced.

 

[simpilotswife]

Jealousy does not show someone how much you love them, it just shows how insecure you are.

 

[MrsNick]

I really think that excessive jealousy is more about control than anything else. You just have to know what someone is doing at all times, dictate to them what they are and are allowed to do, where they are allowed and not allowed to be, what they are and aren't allowed to think about.

Fortunately for me, DH has never given me a reason to be jealous (heck, one woman invited him out to a movie, and he said he'd go if he could bring his wife along )

He also doesn't get on my case, and laughs when I tell him that I have a work husband who I eat lunch with

 

[mamaprincess]

This is the name of the dance (the Jealous and Envious Dance of Doom) I do when I see people doing the single digit dance. It looks like this.

 

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

I'm not a jealous person. Yes, I have been cheated on in the past but being a jealous person wouldn't have changed that.

I'm currently not seeing anyone, but my "boyfriend" is married. His wife calls him my married boyfriend and she loves me since I'll go places with him that she doesn't want to (country music concerts), help him pick out the perfect gifts for her etc... We go out for lunch and dinner without her (lunch during work, dinner when shes out with her other friends). She trusts him, she trusts me. It's wonderful to be able to flirt with someone and be flirted with without worrying about anything else.

I should thank her for not being a jealous person because if she was I wouldn't have such an amazing friend (who yes, is good for more than flirting ).