Dinner seems to be much more active than lunch - IMHO. If you go at lunch, and it's quiet at first, there is no reason you and your family can't "start something." Bang sivlerware on the table, wave your bandana napkins around your head, or start singing. If a CM has a name tag that involves a familt title, like Aunt or Sis, hug 'em and pretend it's been years since you've seen them since the last family reunion.
Keep in mind I worked here--this would be OK for me to know you wanted the full attention treatment. Perhaps the lunch servers need a little wake-up call every now and then...