Which would you do?

[jamsmom]

I will try to keep this as short as possible:

1) SO after 9 years wants us to go out separate ways (as of April 3)

2) I HATE the thought of teaching, but could possibly have a 3rd gr position at a local elem. that is considered a good school. The principal wants to meet me this week (after only being told about me today by a curren teacher at the school and a friend)

3) I have no experience with 3rd gr....only 5th and up

4) Pay stinks and I would be in same town with SO.....a very small town. (That I know would be hard to deal with, BTW)

My best friend is in this town




HOWEVER:

1) My sister would love for me to move up to where she is (by Arlington, TX) which offers many more job opportunities

2) I applied for a great Comp Lab Teacher and a Campus Tech. at the district where my nieces and nephew attend. Also applied for 5th/6th grade position

3) Pay is much better and I don't think the cost of living will be that much worse than here

4) I just applied and have been told that districs principlas will not be back until sometime next week

5) I would be 1.5 hours from my son who lives with my parents (by my choice......been at that school since K and hi friends are here)


Should I meet with the local principal about a position that I am concerned about pay and if I could do and be in the same town?

 

[disneefamily]

Disnee Dad Says.....................................Yes, meet with the guy. Doesn't mean you are taking the position, it just buys time, just in case you need to take it.

BTW, If you teach 5 th grade, 3rd grade will be a vacation, they still want to learn!

You will do fine, you are a wonderful person. I have read many of your posts. In a way maybe you are " free at last"

 

[snoopy]

You know what I think you should do, Carol! Living with your sister, and closer to your son versus living in the same town as the ex with a job you don't like - no contest! Set your sights high, and accept only what you feel will be good for you in the long haul.

Good luck, sweetie! I'm keeping you in my prayers.

 

[shortbun]

It's clear to me by the way you wrote it that the 1st option
has no pluses. However, don't burn your bridges and anyway-
one can always use practice interviewing. Good luck!
mimi

 

[Serena]

Go to the interview, if nothing else, you'll have practice and be more comfortable with the next one. It won't hurt and you just might need it.

But, as the song says, "these boots were made for walking". You do sound like you want to move. Go for it.

 

[Cindy B]

I would definetely meet with the person and see what it is all about. It is never a problem to interview, and you can always say NO. If anything its interview practice.


I would love 3rd grade! My son is going into 3rd grade, and it will seem easier than 5th. they are 9 year olds for the most part... I can do 9 year olds.

Its the 7th graders I work with are a problem!


But with the second option, there is no firm interview., am I correct? This first option is an interveiw. If the second district is larger, sometimes it takes a while with paperwork and all that jazz, just to even get an interview.


My district is large (12 elementary, 3 middle, 3 high) and it takes a while just to get paperwork, let alone an interview.

 

[WDWLVR]

I agree about going on the first interview. It will be good practice, good for your ego (since they already seem to want you), and could only help you when/if you go for the other job.

It doesn't hurt to look into the job and if offered the same day be honest and tell them you need time to think about it.

Good luck!

 

[browneyes]

I would want to be as close to my child as possible. I would also want to be as far away as my SO as possible. Perhaps there are more opportunities nearby than you think.

 

[Pop Daddy]

you gotta get out of there

 

[honeywolf7]

I'd move.

 

[DMickey28]

As others have said, I think that there is nothing wrong with the interview. You can't have too much practice when it comes to that. However, the second option sounds much better when it comes to family and your ability to move on and grow as a person.

 

[faith]

Closer to your son and family.

 

[ChiTownZee]

How far away from your son are you currently? I definately wouldn't take a teaching job that you don't want because a.) you don't want to be doing a job you despise and b.) I cringe at the thought of a teacher that hates being there teaching MY kid.

I don't know why your son doesn't live with you or how far away you are from him right now as opposed to 1.5 hours, but if it were ME, I'd move to the actualy city my son was living in if I couldn't have him with me and get a job there.

 

[Mishetta]

Hmmm...did I misunderstand? I thought you'd be further away from your son if you took (or were offered) the job you really would prefer?

Anyway, I would still go on the interview of the job you really wouldn't be all that interested in, as others said, for the practice & you never know that in finding out more info on the job, you may really want it afterall. Taking that job would keep you closer to your son (or did I misunderstand??)

I wouldn't worry so about being in the same small town as your SO. Let that go. Don't let him make a move you may not want too or one that would move you further from your son. I couldn't imagine being away from my kids. I need them like I need air to breathe!

Good luck to you, I know that you are going thru a major change in your life (& you've made it clear that you don't LIKE change ) but hold your head up & make things happen for YOU. It's time to put YOU first for a change!

(((Hugs to you))))

Rose

 

[MAC3]

It sounds like the change would do you good. If your only 1 1/2 hours from your son that's not so bad. Plus you have the support of a family member.

Hang in there, things will get better for you.

Best of Luck to you in your decision,
Lisa

 

[jamsmom]

Well, if I move to where my sister is, that is farther away from my DS. However, many more job opportunities and family thatI would live with at first.

Here, closer to son, but can't imagine me being a great 3rd grade teacher. What do I know about them? LOL...... Loved 5th grade. I would still see my son just as much if I live 1.5 hours away. I do not want to move back to Waco where my son lives with my parents. I wish I could convince them to move, too since my ex knows where they live. But, that is a whole other story.

If I stay here, I do have two good friends...both married.


Deep down inside, I *think* I do want to move. I think a whole new change will be best, probably.

You would think someone my age who has been through a divorce could handle this better!

 

[ChiTownZee]

It is nice being near family (we're not Why don't you take your son to live in the town with your sister to get a job? I couldn't imagine being 1.5 hours away.

 

[Beauty]

I would definatly move! If you lived in a huge city I could see staying but it is going to be painful there with your ex. Plus the opportunity to be closer to your son.

Yep I would definatly go somewhere and make a new beginning!

 

[Pin Wizard]

I'd go!

 

[Keli]

I think you already know what you want to do. It's a bit of a risk and I'm sure you're worried about how it will all turn out but I would do what I thought was most likely to have me where I want/need to be in the future.