We LOVE the HDDR. We are going again this year - adults only. Western themed, All You Care to Eat ( and drink), dinner show full of audience participation, singing, dancing, and corny jokes. The food is great & it is lots of fun.
Mickey's Backyard Barbecue is geared toward young children. I would avoid it.
The Spirit of Aloha gets very mixed reviews. We have never been because we love HDDR so much