We had a scary experience at Cape May Cafe, unfortunately. The chef was very nice and walked us around the buffet, but he failed to point out the peanut butter brownies that were located right next to the kid's food. Crumbs could have easily gotten into the chicken nuggets, which were right next to the brownies (on a lower "kid's height" level). In other words, the p.b. brownies were next to the ledge sort of "overlooking" the kid's food. When someone got a brownie, crumbs could very easily fall into the kid's food.
Anyway, when I went back up to the kid's buffet to get her some more food, I finally saw the p.b. brownies! I'm telling you, it scared me badly! I didn't eat another bite, I just sat and watched her, terrified!
Fortunately, she didn't have a reaction and everything turned out okay, but I learned a valuable lesson - just because you are in WDW doesn't mean you can reduce your vigilance. Chefs and wait staff can still make mistakes, so check everything out thoroughly. We should have asked the chef to fix her plate in the kitchen, and in fact, that's what we now do when we go to buffets at WDW (don't go to any outside of WDW).
My understanding of my dd's allergies is that it only takes the tiniest amount of peanut protein for her to have a reaction, and she's had some very serious reactions in the past. That's why we'll never go to O'hana, with all that peanut sauce! I know others have eaten there successfully, but cross-contamination can happen so easily, especially with something like peanut sauce.
Now I always look at the menu for the restaurant (look in the wdwinfo area or on the disney website), and if they serve pbj or peanut butter pie, etc., we avoid that restaurant. That's just my comfort zone. We do eat at places that have tree nuts (she's got that allergy too), but the idea of smeary, sticky peanut butter is too scary to me. It's just too easy to cross contaminate in that form. Also, dd orders things that are very straightforward and unlikely to be contaminated.
Other than the Cape May scare, we haven't really had any "bad" experiences - just some places go the extra mile, which is really important when you don't get to eat out much due to food allergies. The chef at Liberty Tree Tavern did an exceptionally good job of making dd feel special, bless his heart. He made her the biggest, fanciest looking fruit salad with divvies cookies you've ever seen!
Anyway, have a fabulous time, and enjoy eating out!
