When you have a pity party

[snapppyd]

Whatever you do, make sure you put on your red lipstick!

 

[Duchie]

Try watching a movie that makes you cry. I know that sounds weird, but for me crying helps relesae all those sad feelings. And watching a sad movie makes me cry, and directs those sad feelings onto something else. Then take a bubble bath.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way.

 

[JoBird]

ooooh--- I cry. A lot.

Cry, cry, cry until you are almost done. Think about why you're crying and cry some more. Do it for about two hours-- until there is absolutely nothing left.
Then get angry.
And since no one will be home to hear you- start saying out loud what you're mad about. (By this time I'm usually angry b/c I was crying and feel like crap-) Let it alllllllllllll hang out. Leave nothing unsaid.


When that's over with, wash your face, put on your best makeup, your best shoes.....
and go shopping.
It doesn't matter what you're shopping for. The point is buying something that you LOVE. Don't look at price tags- just buy one thing.

Something that will make you smile when you look at it.

Go home, put the item on the counter in the bathroom, light some candles, soak in the tub and look at your special prize you bought yourself.

You'll feel better--
Your checkbook may not, however, depending on your new baubble.

I always have a pity party for myself somewhere between Thanksgiving and December 7th - the date of my Dad's death.
I always know it's coming and I'm usually in a horrific mood until I have my pity/cheer myself up party.

Hope your day is better than you thought it was going to be.

 

[suejai]

I tend to clean when I'm upset. I put on some music, something I can sing along with. Early U2 is especially good for this. And then clean away singing at the top of your lungs. Very cathartic. Just remember to close all your windows

 

[Briarmom]

Whatever you do, make sure you put on your red lipstick!

I'd recommend opening a nice bottle of wine and putting on 'It's a Wonderful Life' and getting your Christmas wrapping done.

That's what I'm doing this Thanksgiving!

 

[monkeybug]

I cry!
Then I listen to music that makes me cry some more!
Then I take a HOT shower, put on my "makes me feel cute" outfit and go to Barnes and Noble. They have lattes AND books! It's a quiet little slice of heaven! It's hard to remember that there is anything bad in the world when your head is full of new book smell and your tummy is warm and cozy with latte.

 

[Pakey]

My pity parties always involve shopping. Lots and lots of shopping.

 

[dizluvah]

most of my suggestions have been stated, some multiple times but I wanted to share that I call my pity party having a "shame spiral" - on those rare occasions when I feel sorry for myself and then once you start you spiral down and down until everything sucks....I also eat, shopping therapy helps me (as long as the gifts are for me), when I am mad or angry I clean like a madwoman but pity party is usually about lounging around and self indulgence.

DH and I are going to our cracker barrel for turkey day - just the two of us....not sure where you are in Northern VA but I know Manassas has a cracker barrell .....

Hang in there and enjoy your day the best you can

 

[nutterbutter2010]

I tend to clean when I'm upset. I put on some music, something I can sing along with. Early U2 is especially good for this. And then clean away singing at the top of your lungs. Very cathartic. Just remember to close all your windows

My DH is like this too (without the singing LOL) I swear there are times that the house is a mess, we having people coming over, and I don't feel like cleaning.... I think for just a second, if I start a fight, I can have the whole house clean in under an hour, without having to lift a finger!!!!

 

[TheBigBadWolf]

My pity parties always involve shopping. Lots and lots of shopping.

Me too! I always splurge on things I wouldn't buy otherwise, and tell myself I deserve them! At my last pity party I bought a new love seat and some $100 red towels!

My BFF called this week to tell me about her pity party. She rarely drinks, but had recently gone to a wine tasting party and bought a bottle of wine. So she decided to have a nice glass of wine at her pity party. She wound up drinking the whole bottle. She said as her DH walked through the door (he was her reason for her pity party), she yelled at him to bring her the garbage can, and started throwing up her guts. Her DH thought she must have Swine Flu and wouldn't get near her the rest of the evening. She said he went to bed, and never knew she was sick from drinking a whole bottle of wine.

*** I do not recommend this for your pity party. My way is muchhh better. Shopping.

 

[punkin]

Haagen-Dazs Chocolate Chocolate Chip and Pink Floyd (either The Wall or Final Cut).

Oh, hide all the knives in the house beforehand.

 

[C.Ann]

Very loud upbeat music!! I usually clean at the same time, so I'm killing two birds with one stone..

 

[wdwfan16]

My DH knows how to get me back on track. I rarely have a pity party but when I do he makes me feel better very fast.

 

[OK!]

Cracker Barrel automatically makes any day better, as far as I'm concerned. I also like to watch movies, particularly ones I haven't seen before, since they make me think and take my mind away from whatever has me upset.

 

[Piglet843]

I know there are usually bigger things out there than whatever is bothering me when I want a pity party.

But I think sometimes - especially as a woman - we need to have those pity parties. We need to step away from what is bothering us an take time to evaluate the situation or to give it time to fizzle out.

Also - we deserve to do things for ourselves when needed.
We deserve that glass of wine - or the ice cream or good book or time to ourselves.
Its refreshing and liberating - and having that pity party sometimes is what I need to make me realize that there are bigger things out there - or to get myself out of that slump.

Good luck OP

 

[redlight]

Eating used to be my go-to for pity parties. I'm trying to learn new strategies after gaining weight last year. Listening and dancing to music works.

 

[The Mayor]

First I try one of these...

If that doesn't work I have one of these...

And if they fail I have quite a few of these...

Surprised

 

[jiminyC_fan]

I eat dark chocolate.

Hugs to you.

 

[Stacerita]

When you are having a pity party, what do you do for yourself to make you feel better?

I only have time for a mini pity party right now. I'm going to have a full blown one tomorrow. It's weird to have a pity party while knowing you are blessed but hey I'm only human.

Due to this military family I'm working with, I won't be leaving the area for Thanksgiving and naturally my military family friends will be gone as well as my husband. My DC/NOVA people where is the nearest Cracker Barrel? I think they are normally open on Thanksgiving? Of course I'll probably be working that day and may just have some homemade pie that day, another pity party


So what makes you feel better when having a pity party?

When I am hosting my own pity party, I have wonderful snacks and treats. If that doesn't work, I have some Malibu rum with juice. Then all is fine.

Sorry you won't be with your family and friends on Thanksgiving. Not sure what other restraunts are in your area, but I know that Black Angus, Hoff's Hut and Mimi's have yummy Thanksgiving day meals.

But if I was you, I would skip traditional Turkey dinner, make or take out something I really like, have some yummy dessert and kick back at home. Then down the road when everyone can be together, I would celebrate then.

 

[jsmith]

Ugh Tina im sorry your Thanksgiving is going to suck. TDay is gonna be okay but im bracing for Christmas to suck massively.-But its the life we lead right?
I try not to give into the pity party thing but when i do-i let my self cry out the hurt and anger-then i put on my walking shoes and get moving-and i walk til im really tired. Then i sleep-and im usually better after that.