I think the title of the thread is problematic: when to MAKE an unwilling kid ride. And I think that's why you've gotten a lot of "never" answers. I think PPs have offered ways of CONVINCING or PERSUADING kids to ride, but just forcing them to do something they don't want to do - something that's unnecessary and supposed to be fun - is what's rubbing people the wrong way.
My daughter is on the bubble about Everest on our next trip. I've shown her youtube videos and let her read what others have said about the ride, but the decision is ultimately up to her. I don't want her to miss out on something she might like, but the truth is - it's no big deal if she wants to skip it.
Interesting PP about escalators and elevators. My daughter hates escalators. She and my husband went on a trip to Peru. She was 11 then, I think. I knew she'd encounter escalators in the airports and it was a tour group, so freaking out and finding another way might not be feasible or comfortable. So in the days leading up to the trip, I took her to the mall and we rode escalators. I promised her a Starbucks drink after each "session". She still dislikes escalators, but she wanted to practice each day because of the Starbucks drink. Long story short, she got over her fear enough to make the trip go smoothly, though she still marveled at the other kids on the tour who would ride up and down the escalators for fun. LOL. Just not her thing.
Anyway, I think that's different. I do think conquering fears is important, but riding a roller coaster is just not a necessary part of life.
Part of being a parent is helping a child overcome fears. Would we say 'never' if the question was about helping a young child overcome the fear of sleeping by themselves in their own bed? What if a child is scared of escalaters? Do we always go out of our way to find an elevator? What if elevators scare them too? Do we keep them on the first floor of a building at all times?
There is a fine line here. Children should not be forced to go on a ride, but backing down the first time they show a little uncertainty is not the right approach either.
I think having them watch the exit and observe other children their age getting off the ride smiling, laughing, and being excited works very well. Let them know it's just not adults that can enjoy the ride. If that doesn't work, then offering encouragement, support, and maybe even a little reward are perfectly acceptable.
Bottom line is that dragging them on kicking an screaming is not the answer, but 'never' is not the best approach either.
I have NEVER made my kids ride a ride.....I have willingly left a line near the very front of Space Mountain when my son panicked because I wanted him to know that he always had the choice not to go, and if the others came back saying how great it was and he wished he had gone, he would have learned the lesson that perhaps he should have tried it. But that's because I know my kids. If I push, they'll dig in their heels. When they're ready to do something, they will.
Part of being a parent is helping a child overcome fears. Would we say 'never' if the question was about helping a young child overcome the fear of sleeping by themselves in their own bed? What if a child is scared of escalaters? Do we always go out of our way to find an elevator? What if elevators scare them too? Do we keep them on the first floor of a building at all times?
There is a fine line here. Children should not be forced to go on a ride, but backing down the first time they show a little uncertainty is not the right approach either.
I think having them watch the exit and observe other children their age getting off the ride smiling, laughing, and being excited works very well. Let them know it's just not adults that can enjoy the ride. If that doesn't work, then offering encouragement, support, and maybe even a little reward are perfectly acceptable.
Bottom line is that dragging them on kicking an screaming is not the answer, but 'never' is not the best approach either.