When should your child stop seeing you naked?

[connorlevismom]

At what age do you think it is appropriate for a parent to make sure they have clothes on around their child?

Kristine

 

[LisaNJ25]

When your teenager says his eyes are burning when he accidentally walks in on you getting changed.

 

[Snowy-girls]

Hello,
Our 6yr+3Yr old girls still see me naked.But as for seeing Daddy naked that stopped when our 6yr old was 2 1/2yrs,and has only recently stopped for the 3yr old (as she has recently stopped wearing nappies in bed and when she called for daddy to take her to the bathroom it was much quicker for him to get up+run in to take her before she wet herself,than for him to struggle half asleep in the dark to get his p.j bottoms on(very funny sight when he first tried it,slipped and headbutted the wall .x.

 

[MSSANDRA]

Our DS's Doctor always told us that when the child is no longer comfortable they will let you know. Of course if you are unconfortable then it is also time to stop. Otherwise do not make a big deal out of it. We have always be very relaxed in our home. As DS got older we moved to underwear comfort. We don't routinly walk around in underwear but if we need to run to the laundry room or what ever that is fine.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

I think the answer for the same sex could be never.

There is nothing wrong with nudity. Nudity does not equal sex.

I remember seeing my father naked around age 11/12. I could not sleep and was reading under covers with a flashlight. My father walks by my room to get some water (this is around 3:00am), I hear the noise and turn my flashlight on my naked father.

No biggie - I already knew about boy parts and girl parts and had seem books and pictures. Not scarred for life.

Of course there could be problems if a parent prances around naked all the time in front of the opposite sex, but occasional glimpses - nothing wrong with that.

 

[zippy doo dah]

I agree with MSSANDRA - it all has to do with comfort levels on both the parent and child side. With 3 kids myself I have found my comfort level changed when then were about 5 or 6 (although the occasional underwear run to the laundry basket or bathroom is fine with us - except when my mom is here lol) and there still is the occasional time when on the way to the bedroom from the shower the towel has opened in the back and the kids have gotten mooned .

 

[DawnM]

It is different for every family.

I have never been naked in front of my boys. I would never feel comfortable with that, even when they were little. But I will walk around the house in a long T-shirt and undies. Everything is covered up, but still not "decent."

Dawn

 

[Teacher03]

When your teenager says his eyes are burning when he accidentally walks in on you getting changed.

That's exactly what my son said, now he makes sure he knocks and hollers before entering my room!

 

[ChillyWilleys]

I'd love to stop being seen naked. I can't get a moment in the bathroom without the door flying open or curtain being pulled back! So hopefully its older than 3!

 

[Rylee]

WOW! After reading the responses, I realize we are a very informal bunch!

We don't treat certain body parts any differently than we do a finger or a toe. We're family... and I think we all have healthy body images.

No one freaks if someone walks in on them, and no one walks around deliberately flaunting their stuff.

 

[Rylee]

I'd love to stop being seen naked. I can't get a moment in the bathroom without the door flying open or curtain being pulled back! So hopefully its older than 3!

My children still bring jars to be opened or arguments into the bathroom, when I'm trying to take a relaxing bubble bath!

Heck, with 5 kids and all our scheduled activities, sometimes the only place I can catch them is in the shower. We've had some great conversations there...

 

[lighttech]

I'd love to stop being seen naked. I can't get a moment in the bathroom without the door flying open or curtain being pulled back! So hopefully its older than 3!

Ahhh, I long for the day my 3yr old will let me use the bathroom in peace. Now that he's figured out how to open doors, any closed one w/o a safety lock is an adventure waiting to happen.

WOW! After reading the responses, I realize we are a very informal bunch!

We don't treat certain body parts any differently than we do a finger or a toe. We're family... and I think we all have healthy body images.

No one freaks if someone walks in on them, and no one walks around deliberately flaunting their stuff.

I heartily agree. Good for this group. I opened this post a little nervously b/c I wasn't sure if any sort of morality argument would ensue. I'm very impressed to see that there are several diff't opinions and that all of them are being respected.

For the record, I agree w/ most other posters. Just has to do w/ your and your child's comfort level. A lot of societies don't see the human form as anything to be embarrassed about. I tend to agree. I was raised to think of the body as natural and beautiful (art teacher mom and LOTS of trips to the museum) and I think it really demystified it for me and made me have a much healthier body image than I would have otherwise. But, its a personal decision, and should be.

 

[ilovejack02]

Im not sure, My cousins ped. told her she needed to start staying dressed around her boys when they hit somewhere around 1.5 yrs... I just about fell on the floor laughing!!! My oldest is my stepson I got him at 4 but NEVER once did he see me naked until he hit 16 and walked upstairs on me at our condo at the beach I thought he was going to die, the look on his face to me was so darn funny I couldnt even be embarrassed.

My baby is 5 now and he still sees me undressed, but not nearly as much as he used to and i tend to send him out the room alot more. We still shower sometimes, but Ive been cutting it back. Its not a big deal around here, we just dont flaunt it.

 

[Zeebs]

Im not sure, My cousins ped. told her she needed to start staying dressed around her boys when they hit somewhere around 1.5 yrs... I just about fell on the floor laughing!!! My oldest is my stepson I got him at 4 but NEVER once did he see me naked until he hit 16 and walked upstairs on me at our condo at the beach I thought he was going to die, the look on his face to me was so darn funny I couldnt even be embarrassed.

My baby is 5 now and he still sees me undressed, but not nearly as much as he used to and i tend to send him out the room alot more. We still shower sometimes, but Ive been cutting it back. Its not a big deal around here, we just dont flaunt it.

1.5

Cullen is nearly two he loves showering with us and to be honest I love having a bath with him we have a lot of fun. We agree with Rylee as well just another body part in our house. We will stop when the boys are uncomfortable with it but if they come into the bathroom or bedroom they take a chance that I may be naked.

Kirsten

 

[_queenie_]

No one freaks if someone walks in on them, and no one walks around deliberately flaunting their stuff.

Same in my house. I don't try to be naked around my kids, but sometimes it just happens by accident, especially in hotel rooms.

 

[ljhmom]

Same in my house. I don't try to be naked around my kids, but sometimes it just happens by accident, especially in hotel rooms.

It's the same in our house although, my DH did say I needed to stop getting dressed in front of DS 3 the day that he put on one of my bras and started walking around the house saying he wants to wear one like mommy does.

 

[Thats_for_Shore]

Yall are wanting to go to the bathroom in peace with your three year old?

HA!! Just wait til you're on the pot and your 8 year old AND your three year old come running in. And stand there having a whole conversation.

"Can you please leave so I can wipe in peace?" is said everyday at my house.

The 3 year old often keeps me company when I'm in the bubble bath. He just sits there, chattering away about anything and nothing.

I try to keep them out, but it hasn't worked yet.

 

[momx2]

We have 2 DDs. I read somewhere that cross gender nudity should stop when the child can tell the difference in sexes. My oldest DD was probably 2 1/2, close to 3 when that happened. She walked in while I was in the shower and pointed you know where and asked why I didn't have a tail like daddy did. That's when she stopped seeing Daddy naked.

Now youngest DD still hasn't said a word about it and she is almost 7. But we stopped around 3 1/2 for her seeing Daddy naked. He didn't feel comfortable any more. Now, they see me all the time naked. I have started locking the door when I take a long soak and they bang on it asking why they can't come in.

 

[eventamy]

Ha! Love this thread! We're a naked family. We're all very comfortable around each other. My daughters are only 4 & 8 months though. Not sure how much longer it'll be before my husband decides to cover up around the girls, but it's usually only shower and right after etc.
The women in my family are all naked people. In fact when my grandmother was living at my parents' house and we were visiting we've been known to have 4 generations of naked women in the bathroom! 1 taking a shower, 1 in the tub (usually with one of the babies in there too) and others getting dressed! no big deal at all!

 

[connorlevismom]

I am so happy to see there are so many naked people here!

I would call myself a naked person. I hate having to wear something after a shower because I get do dang hot and start to sweat. My son will be 4 in Feb. and he sees me naked everyday. I don't have a problem with it and neither does he. He knows that mommies and daddies are different but answer his questions when he asks and don't make a big deal about it.

Kristine