When it is one sided...

[glenpreece]

Hi everyone with just one month left til Paris I am getting more and more excited everyday. I am also getting closer to my french guy who will be joining me for the weekend on my trip. We video chat almost everyday and we have so much in common. He is off to California for 2 weeks tomorrow and we said goodbye last night. I really like him and could see us being together we have talked for months and talk about almost everything. But I really think I am into him more than he is into me. What should I do? Should I say something while we are in Paris? We have a DCL trip planned for Nov and I would really hate for that to be awkward if I did say something while in France. It's just really tearing me up. I kn ow I am going to miss him alot over the next two weeks. My friends say i need to find someone nearby (Toronto area) but so far no luck there. Why do we always fall for the impossible ones? str8/married/other continents LOL

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Take it one step at a time? I mean, when you are together... evaluate his responses to you and see how things are going?

Not too sure if you prefer to just be up front and say this is how I feel, or to be a little cautious and proceed gently...

But then, what the heck do I know!?! LOL

 

[Sphyrna]

That's why I don't like talking to people who are not local. I'm afraid I could become attached and complicate things. I would just say see how things go. Not just in Paris but the time leading up to it. Maybe drop hints and see what the reaction is.

 

[ToddyLu]

I haven't read your other posts about him. He is taking two trips with you. He may be like my DH...platonic friend for a year...then he goes to Florida for a 1 month job...he misses me, I miss him...He offers to take me to New Orleans when he gets back....we go...badda bing, hasn't left my side and we will celebrate our 16th Aniiversary in three weeks. DH's basic response when we first thought and talked about having a real relationship is "Lu, if I wanted a friend then I would get a dog". Didn't mix words, was very guarded about showing emotions but yet loved talking to me on the phone for hours and we could laugh and do almost anything together and have fun.

Prior to the New Orleans trip above we had been on other day trips and even to New Orleans and nothing happened. He was only holding my hand to cross the street. Looking back he was waiting on me to be ready, because I could tell he really really liked me. Have you met him in person? I would just see how it goes, gradually maybe he is waiting on you to really meet and see him during the trip. Why would he invest all the time if he wasn't interested...and for that matter be on two trips with you, if he wasn't. Goodness I am so excited about this thread it sounds like a Lifetime movie and can't wait to her how Paris and DCL go.

 

[ToddyLu]

DH was in a little hotel in the Okeefanokee (sp?)Swamp and still found a way to call me nightly....and that was in 1993, before cell phones. He can't talk to you while he is in California?

Subbing and got the popcorn...

 

[hematite153]

To respond a little orthogonally....

Didn't you meet him on this board? Perhaps he now knows how you feel.

I'd probably wait to see how it goes. But, I'd probably also want to at least talk to him about it. I think you could do that without applying pressure.

I've had friends where one of us was attracted to the other and we worked it out. I think that if you try to hide the attraction it becomes awkward, but, if you name it and talk about it you can find a way to retain the friendship and at least you've opened the door in case he feels similarly.