When did you stop signing your children's names ...

[Bon Bon]

on your holiday cards? I have a DD who is 19 and a DSS who is 22 and they both live out of state. It breaks my heart to stop signing their names to our family Christmas cards, but I know I have to stop sometime and let them do their own.

 

[powellrj]

I wondered the same thing. Since this is the first year my ds has been gone, I just signed the cards '' and kids", next year when he is overseas, I am not sure what I will do. I am not ready to release him from our cards yet, but I did stop making the kids pose for a card every year. I am interested to see how others handle this.

 

[Keli]

If your children are still in college and living in another state for that reason then I would still sign their names. I think I would do that until they have moved out of your home permantly. It will be a sad day for me too when I no longer include my dd's name on our cards. Kinda like the end of an era.

 

[battricia]

Do you stop doing it because you feel your children would be offended, or just because it's time to let go? This is my 3rd christmas out of my parents house and I wouldn't mind if they put my name on christmas cards, however I send out my own as well. I don't see why it's necessary to stop putting their name on it, you are still a family, after all.

 

[RUDisney]

Gosh, this has made me very sad. I hadn't even thought about having to stop using the kids' names on our cards.

Luckily, I won't have to think about it for another 10-11 years, but still, that doesn't seem like too long.

 

[MAC3]

Originally posted by RUDisney
Gosh, this has made me very sad. I hadn't even thought about having to stop using the kids' names on our cards.

Luckily, I won't have to think about it for another 10-11 years, but still, that doesn't seem like too long.

Me too!

 

[Bon Bon]

The kids are not in college, they are officially in the adult world now. I don't know, it's just strange to me after all these years to sign the cards from our family without their names. Maybe when they have kids of their own or spouses to sign them with? It's a hard feeling to articulate. I don't want to baby them either or make them feel like they are out on their own so "let go already Mom."

 

[nativetxn]

I stopped when Travis went away to college.

 

[Robinrs]

I remember my Mom getting angry about getting a card from my sister with her kids names on it when they were all grown! I remember something about her saying she should've had them send their OWN cards!

I do remember when my parents suggested we do our own card sending. We were in our early twenties.

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

My parents stopped signing my name the year I graduated from college (same with sister). However, they still add a short update on me (and sister) in the letter. Usually it is where we are living now and whether or not my parents have any new grandkids!!

 

[Pop Daddy]

I only sign my dogs names now

 

[catsrule]

I sign Simba and Cali's names.

 

[browneyes]

I still sign their names (as many cards as I send out, it's faster if I do it). But I let them send out their own to who they want to and let them sign my name if they want to.

 

[Nutsy]

Originally posted by battricia
Do you stop doing it because you feel your children would be offended, or just because it's time to let go? This is my 3rd christmas out of my parents house and I wouldn't mind if they put my name on christmas cards, however I send out my own as well. I don't see why it's necessary to stop putting their name on it, you are still a family, after all.

I tend to agree. We send & receive cards from people whose children are all grown up & in some cases even married. But we know the children as well & send the card to the parents & family & likewise they do the same when they send theirs...........from so & so & family.

I really see no reason not to include your children on your card, especially if the recipeint also knows the child(ren).

 

[disneychrista]

I don't send Christmas Cards but my opinion is that if they aren't living in the house any more then you don't sign their names.

 

[KimRaye]

Originally posted by battricia
however I send out my own as well.

That's when the parents should stop signing your name.

Originally posted by disneychrista
I don't send Christmas Cards but my opinion is that if they aren't living in the house any more then you don't sign their names.

I agree.

{{HUGS}} parents, I'm not looking forward to the day either.

 

[powellrj]

I agree with Bon Bon, its a strange feeling when you are sitting there with pen in hand. On one hand, he doesn't live here, but he doesn't have his own family or home yet, so I always want him to feel welcome here, and I am afraid that he would be really hurt and feel left out if I just put the 2 younger kids names on the card. Like I said, this years I just put " and Kids" and left it at that. We will see what next year brings.

 

[disneychrista]

I guess it would depend on the family but in all honesty I can not see how the child would care one way or the other if the parent put their name on the card or not. Look at it from the view point of the receiver, do you really thing Aunt Sally is really going to say guess My Niece Suzy doesn't like her son Jimmy as much as the other kids or how rude of her not to include her grown kids names on the christmas card this year.