What's the "proper etiquette" for registry info??

[Pam]

So, I've been immersed in all of these wedding planning books and websites and Emily Post and about a thousand others say that you should NOT put your wedding registry information on the invitations. That's a huge NO-NO!

I have received invitations in the past where the registry info was imprinted on the invitation.

Just exactly how should you get the word out that the couple are registered at different stores?

 

[Skylarr29]

There should be an insert inside the invitation to the bridal shower (A piece of paper slipped in, not written on the invitation)

 

[Pam]

Thank-you!

 

[cseca]

From my research the proper ettiquette are:
1. Word of mouth. You can tell your bridal party where you are registered and they can tell people who are interested. Or of course your guest could ask you directly.
2. List it on your website. Apparently nowadays website is the best way to do it. You can put all your info in there including your registry information.

Per the rule (not saying that I always follow the rule mind you... ):
You can never put registry information anywhere near your invite. That is blatantly asking for gifts
Never mention $. Which I personally think is silly ... because nowadays what is better than getting $ for gifts).
So if you already have 2 of everything you need (like we do )... good luck finding stuff to register for...

Good luck!

 

[Ember]

Registry info in invites is a huge no-no. I know there are people who aren't offended receiving gift info in an invitation, but others truly are. I'm one of the later who sees it basically saying, "Please come to our wedding! Be sure to bring a gift, and by the way, THIS is the gift I want." You invite people to weddings, not presents... Sorry, I didn't mean to get carried away... It's a pet peeve...

Anyway, other posters are correct. You can include registry info in a shower invite (though, showers are really only for family and friends, not necessarily every female on your guest list), on your wedding website though a link that must be clicked on to be accessed (so not the first thing people see after your names), and through word of mouth. When people ask what you would like you might say something like, "We don't expect anything at all, but we are registered at _____." (Or, "we are saving up for _____," if you would prefer money in which case you also wouldn't register which is a big hint you'd rather have cash without rudely demanding it of your guests.)

You also never mention gifts unless asked. I know brides who didn't include gift information but then talked loudly to anyone who would listen about where they were registered and what they expected to "make" off their weddings. TACKY! A gift is optional and is at the discretion of the giver. The receiver has no part in the whole process but to graciously say thank you.

Good on you for trying to be a delightful and polite bride!

 

[Handbag Lady]

Registry info in invites is a huge no-no. I know there are people who aren't offended receiving gift info in an invitation, but others truly are. I'm one of the later who sees it basically saying, "Please come to our wedding! Be sure to bring a gift, and by the way, THIS is the gift I want." You invite people to weddings, not presents... Sorry, I didn't mean to get carried away... It's a pet peeve...

Anyway, other posters are correct. You can include registry info in a shower invite (though, showers are really only for family and friends, not necessarily every female on your guest list), on your wedding website though a link that must be clicked on to be accessed (so not the first thing people see after your names), and through word of mouth. When people ask what you would like you might say something like, "We don't expect anything at all, but we are registered at _____." (Or, "we are saving up for _____," if you would prefer money in which case you also wouldn't register which is a big hint you'd rather have cash without rudely demanding it of your guests.)

You also never mention gifts unless asked. I know brides who didn't include gift information but then talked loudly to anyone who would listen about where they were registered and what they expected to "make" off their weddings. TACKY! A gift is optional and is at the discretion of the giver. The receiver has no part in the whole process but to graciously say thank you.

Good on you for trying to be a delightful and polite bride!

What she said.