Not all of them have been in the mail - the trip in 2005 was a postcard code, but prior to that we have used codes in the newspaper, Mousesavers, or by just calling and seeing if we have a PIN attached to our name in the computer. I have also gotten codes via email that we haven't been able to use due to time of the year, etc -- I have registered every email address that I have with Disney.com to try to receive more of those, if that's possible.
As far as the driving down, no -- we're near Chicago and not quite the quickest drive to Orlando by any means!
I would really have to think about what we spend on a trip -- we have never spent over $89/night for any moderate, which is what we usually book. (The All Stars were an exception simply because of that crazy price!) Our trips are usually 6-7 days in length.
We never book a package with tickets or dining included though. We have found it much cheaper to purchase a big multi-day park pass and keep it for several trips. We purchased non-expiring 10 day passes in 2004 and have used those for the past 3 trips, and I think we each still have a park day and two "pluses" (water parks, etc) on them as well. It's a bigger initial outlay to do that, but then you lock in the ticket price vs. dealing with it increasing each year. And once you have those passes, it's so easy to plan around cheap room rates because you can just show up and go in the park & aren't tied into booking packages with passes. This next trip, whenever it is, we will probably need to ante up for another set of big passes though!
We usually eat very light for 2 meals with food / snacks we bring from home, and we then have one "big" meal a day -- we love to eat in Disney! But lunches are cheaper than dinners, so lunch is often our big meal depending where we feel like eating that day. We don't go in the park every day -- we may visit other resorts, Fort Wilderness, spend a day at our own resort, etc., so those days are less expensive as well (if you have a length of stay pass, you've just paid for everyone's admission to go into the park every day of the trip, whether you do so or not.) We also haven't rented a car since Magical Express started, so our only outlay for these past few trips has been airfare, room, and meals. We usually don't buy many, if any, souvenirs -- this last trip though, our cousin in Orlando took us to
Character Premiere at one of the outlet malls, which is where Disney sells park & resort-themed merchandise for 50% off or more. So then we did buy some things..!
We have 4 in the family, an 11-year-old, a 2-year-old, my husband and me. The baby's first trip down was when he was 6 months old, and he was a trooper -- we went again last summer so he was 1 1/2. So he's been cheap to bring along since he doesn't need a pass yet or eat too much.
