What would you guys do? and how to make the change?

I'm very big on family but I would be missing the wedding. I would just let him know that tickets have been purchased and some are non refundable.

We are booked for August and if someone planned a wedding I wouldn't be going. If my SO wanted to go then he could go but I'm not missing this trip.
 
Tough decision for sure.. However, I wouldn't change my trip. How many days are you
into your vacation when his wedding is planned? If it's only one day, change it to
either later flight or the next day. If it's later in your vacation, stick to your plans,
as I'm sure he must be aware of your plans. Go with your heart...
 

I know that it's close family, but I would look at it from the flip side. If I'm getting married, and it's important to me, I would run the date by any close family/friends to make sure they could make it -- before I scheduled the date. If this family member didn't take the time to do it, I would question how importance your presence is to him. If you weren't important enough for him to clear the date with you first, you have to take that into consideration. Don't make him more important than he makes you.
 
In this case everything is refundable and can be rescheduled :confused3.

MNSSHP aren't refundable if she already purchased them.

For us it's been 4 years since we've been. I've been saving for a year to do this last big hoorah with all of us. We haven't been since 2011.

DS is 15 and already plays spring sports and is going to start fall sports which start in the summer. I don't pull them out of school so I don't know if we can do a big Disney trip all 4 of us again (I won't do holiday weeks or the busy summer time of July and early August). DS will be off to college soon and who knows what his feelings will be about family Disney trips.

So for US I wouldn't be cancelling. Instead of lying I would simply say "we've had this vacation booked for a year. It'll be a pain to change everything around and my kids are really looking forward to it. I don't want to crush them."
 
So for US I wouldn't be cancelling. Instead of lying I would simply say "we've had this vacation booked for a year. It'll be a pain to change everything around and my kids are really looking forward to it. I don't want to crush them."
Hmmm .. isn't your vacation a surprise? How would it crush them if it's a surprise and they don't know?

In any case, I believe the OP was just at WDW in October and she can still travel with friends in Feb. So, while you may not want to cancel your have-not-been-in-a-blue-moon vacation I think it's different for the OP. FTR, I *did* change my vacation for a friend's wedding. We left 3 days early and flew in the day of the wedding. It was crazy but fun and I'm glad I did it.

OP, what how does your DH feel about the wedding?
 
Hmmm .. isn't your vacation a surprise? How would it crush them if it's a surprise and they don't know?

In any case, I believe the OP was just at WDW in October and she can still travel with friends in Feb. So, while you may not want to cancel your have-not-been-in-a-blue-moon vacation I think it's different for the OP. FTR, I *did* change my vacation for a friend's wedding. We left 3 days early and flew in the day of the wedding. It was crazy but fun and I'm glad I did it.

OP, what how does your DH feel about the wedding?

We actually just surprised them this weekend since DS has decided to play football and it starts around the time we leave. I had to let him know and his coaches know so everyone would know about missed practices. I need to change my countdown.

Yes I agree her situation is completely different than mine. She's gone more often and can go more often. I would also see how her husband feels about it.
 
We actually just surprised them this weekend since DS has decided to play football and it starts around the time we leave. I had to let him know and his coaches know so everyone would know about missed practices. I need to change my countdown.

Yes I agree her situation is completely different than mine. She's gone more often and can go more often. I would also see how her husband feels about it.
Those sports certainly get in the way of a good vacation! My DD swims year round plus does track in the spring. She literally has just 10 days off in August and a week off in the spring. When we go over Christmas she works out with another team. I'm happy to hear that your coach is working with you :).
 
Those sports certainly get in the way of a good vacation! My DD swims year round plus does track in the spring. She literally has just 10 days off in August and a week off in the spring. When we go over Christmas she works out with another team. I'm happy to hear that your coach is working with you :).

They only made an exception because he's a NEW player. Existing players don't get the luxury. That's why I figure this is it for a while. He also does baseball in the spring.
 
Point of clarification on Southwest policies.

I thought that you could only get a refund if you cancel within 24 hours of booking, or if you purchased with a refundable fare, like the senior fare for people over 65 or one of the higher priced fares (not the lower "Wanna Get Away" fares). Otherwise your only option if the fare goes down is to take the credit for a future flight, which you have to use within a year of the original booking.

I only purchase the "Wanna Get Away" fares and have never had a problem getting a refund or transferring funds to another flight through Southwest. Maybe I have been lucky.. I don't know. I just know that 2 weeks ago (5/7/15 to be exact) I changed my flights from one week to the next when the earlier flights opened up and our trip was finalized and they offered us a refund and it showed up on my credit card. I have changed my flights a few times as I travel for work frequently and have never had a problem.
 
For a 3rd wedding, I wouldn't go. We didn't go to our BIL's 3rd wedding and he's now separated from the woman. We also didn't go to my SIL's 2nd wedding or my sisters 4th wedding.

As far as changing dates, that's easy for the most part. Just call Disney to move your dates but if there is no free dining available, you'll lose that. They may also refund the MNSSHP tickets too if you ask nicely.

Southwest will let you change to another flight I would think based on what I remember reading on their website.
 
I only purchase the "Wanna Get Away" fares and have never had a problem getting a refund or transferring funds to another flight through Southwest. Maybe I have been lucky.. I don't know. I just know that 2 weeks ago (5/7/15 to be exact) I changed my flights from one week to the next when the earlier flights opened up and our trip was finalized and they offered us a refund and it showed up on my credit card. I have changed my flights a few times as I travel for work frequently and have never had a problem.

That's interesting. The SW site has a chart showing the terms for the various types of fares and the Wanna Get Away fares show as not being fully refundable. I have frequently made changes (usually to get a lower fare) and have received travel credits, but the option for a refund always shows $0 as the refundable amount.
 
Thinking on this a bit more, I believe the best info you have received to date has been from PP luciusbest and some of very first PP who gave you some dispassionate mechanics info about how to go about rescheduling your vacation and flights. It's important that you first fully understand if and how you can reschedule before you make the big decision about whether to actually do it. If you can't reschedule easily or to do so involves losing a significant amount of money, then that's a big factor in your decision. Only you and your husband really know the ins and outs of your relationship with your BIL and what is best for you and your family. I had jumped on the bandwagon early and said family comes first. But in truth, its your own little family unit that must come first. Only the two of you know what's best for you and your children. I'm (selfishly) kind of relieved that I don't face this decision. I'm guessing the reason why your post has sparked so many stark, polar opposite responses is that it sparks a bit of a fear or worry in many of us who . . . like you . . . plan diligently, save for months (or years) and dream about our vacation. No one wants this to happen. But it could happen to anyone. Very best wishes for you & your family.
 
You can cancel your September package since it is before your 45 day mark and get a full refund (minus the MNSSHP tickets which are non-refundable). Once 2016 packages become available to book (later this summer) you can just book again online from scratch. Very easy to do. Just call Disney, give them your confirmation #, and they'll process the refund back to your credit card. If you used any gift cards towards your package make sure you saved the cards because the refund will go back on those. :)

UGh, I was afraid of the last part of this! I used a gift card for the one payment I've done since deposit. I was a dummo and didn't think to save it, because after all, I wasn't going to cancel! LOL At least I haven't used any more of the stack of cards in my desk yet. I was at first holding them until we heard about free dining or not but I was about to start plugging them in when all this came up.

Point of clarification on Southwest policies.

I thought that you could only get a refund if you cancel within 24 hours of booking, or if you purchased with a refundable fare, like the senior fare for people over 65 or one of the higher priced fares (not the lower "Wanna Get Away" fares). Otherwise your only option if the fare goes down is to take the credit for a future flight, which you have to use within a year of the original booking.

I did get the cheapest option on the fares, so I assume refund is not an option. If the credit is good for a year, I should be okay just doing that. I doubt flights for February are released yet since we just got September a month or two ago. Thanks!



OP, is this your husband's brother? What does he want to do?[/QUOTE]

Yep, husband's brother. And that's part of the problem. He doesn't know what to do. He keeps saying " _____ him. He didn't ask us about dates, we've met the girl twice, and I don't care." But of course, when I ask him about a final decision he waffles on me. Family is very important to us. Definitely more important to us than the brother-in-law getting married. The only family drama would be from my mother-in-law. But she always has drama over SOMETHING so I'm used to it. But we would know. I ADORE Disney, but we were there just over a year ago so I GUESS I could wait. And there would definitely be people who wouldn't get it because we "go there all the time" according to them (we typically go every other year). LOL If they only knew how it could be!

For wedding number 3 I'm actually surprised there is more than a trip down to the justice of the peace or a trip out to Vegas but I suppose that has more to do with his fiance than him. I would send a gift and a "third time is a charm" card and go enjoy my vacation.

Honestly, I think the only reason there's a to-do is that she's only like 24 (HALF HIS AGE!) and it's I believe her first wedding. I've talked to her exactly twice so hard to be sure. :rolleyes: And yeah, one of my fears is that we'll cancel or change and they'll call it off or move it or just run away to Vegas or something. :headache:

A couple people mentioned the MNSSHP tickets, I have not purchased those yet. Knowing they were non-refundable I was waiting a bit to be sure our park plans or ADR's didn't switch around.

The family members we have been planning with in September is my cousin and her family and her husbands sister and the sisters kids. So we were kind of an offshoot add-on. We love to travel with others since there is only 3 of us. I'm sure they'd be disappointed but it wouldn't really change their trip overmuch.

It's a very tough decision with so many factors. I really appreciate each and every one who weighed in on all sides. I knew there would be no overwhelming vote for me to follow, but I also knew you guys would point out some factors I might not have thought of and help me see things from an outside point of view. :thanks:

I still don't know for sure, though I'm leaning toward moving it to Feb when considering all the other factors. It will definitely depend on some more checking into the refund situation with WDW. I am not willing to lose even 1 dollar of this trip for his narcissistic tail. :upsidedow[/QUOTE]
 
You sound like a really nice person OP. If it was me and my husband gave the OK, I'd be in Disney ;)

Good luck deciding. I hope either way your family has a great trip whether it is in September or later!
 
I can't help you with changing your reservations for the room, tickets, etc...

I can help you with Southwest though.. :) All you have to do is log into your account and go to "change flight" on the right side of the screen. It will/should take you to your current reservations. You can click on the flights you would like to change and just put in the new dates. It will ask you a few "security" type questions and if you are "sure" you want to change the flights. I just changed my flights from later in the day flights to earlier in the day flights for our trip in Mid/Late September (19 thru the 26th). It was fairly simple. Make sure that if you save money changing your flights to check the "refund" box. I did not do that for the flight to MCO and now I have a $300 credit for the next time we fly on Southwest. I did however check the "refund" box for the flight home (later cheaper flight) and got a $450 refund that was reimbursed to my credit card that I used to book the flight. Now I have a credit on my credit card for $450. It's always nice having the credit card company owing me money for a change.. :)


Just call Southwest and tell them you made the mistake...they've always corrected it for me (now, caveat, I typically call a few minutes later when I realize my mistake, don't know if there are problems if it has been a few days, shouldn't be logically, but ya never know....be nice and watch them work their customer service).
 
Right now on Southwest you can only book until January 4....but on June 30 they'll open up flights through March 8. If you had the Wanna Get Away flights you can't get a true refund, but a credit on your account that can be used by the original passenger for up to one year. That's still a lot better than most airlines where you are just out of luck and money or where a big chunk of the fare is taken away for any changes. As often as we change our plans, even just a day earlier or later, we'd be broke flying someone other than Southwest.
 
No way would I cancel. Who cares how often you go. Not like they invited you and THEN you planned a trip to get out of it. Sounds too complicated. Also FD is not in Feb. the only benefit to feb is coller weather. Though can be downright cold. No pools, water parks etc.

It took me 41 years to learn not to get sucked into other people's drama or narcistic needs!! Seems like you are being sucked in.
 


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