What would you do?

[Momma Rabbit]

I'm more of a lurker than a poster, but I just wanted some advice..


So, yesterday I was my birthday. I'm not a person who circles the date in red and whispers hints for months in advance. I wake up yesterday and nothing, my husband, daughter, mom, brother, sister, grandma etc.... you get the picture no one remembers. I'm in shock. I still haven't said anything. Do you think I should? I don't expect much but just a simple card and Happy Birthday would have been good enough. I'm really kinda ticked do you think I'm making to much of this?

If this happened to any of my fellow dis'ers what would you do?

BTW...there is nothing major happening in our lives right now

Thanks

 

[Trinity721]

I'm sorry to hear that Momma Rabbit! Happy Birthday! I am like you. I don't make a big deal or drop hints or circle the date on calendars. I might mention it, but I don't try to make a 'Hey it's my birthday' show of it. That's just how I am.

Still, it definitely hurts when someone doesn't remember. I think you should say something. I wouldn't know how to say it. But I think it would be better to say something instead of keeping those bad feelings inside. I am sure that your family will feel very guilty and apologetic, and hopefully they won't forget again.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

im so sorry
happy birthday
i would definetly say something to my DH
actaully i did a couple years ago when he forgot
i twasnt plesant but whatever

 

[Twinkles6892]

Maybe there's going to be a surprise party tonight?

Oh, it was yesterday.....

I'd call them all to you and say
YESTERDAY WAS MY BIRTHDAY! WHERE'S MY CAKE!?!?!?!

 

[tevagirl]

Here's a party....

I hope you liked the band I hired for it! Happy Birthday!

 

[Jessie]

Thats awful I sing 'happy birthday to me' a couple of days before so no one can forget.. So anyway...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR YESTERDAY
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU

 

[DawnCt1]

Here's a party....

I hope you liked the band I hired for it! Happy Birthday!

That's really cute Tivagirl. Momma Rabbit, I wouldn't suffer in silence. I would let them know that birthdays are important to you and remind them that you never forget their birthdays and that you are hurt. Hopefully it will never happen again. I don't blame you for being upset.

 

[SherryNC]

If this happened to any of my fellow dis'ers what would you do?

Go drinkin my blues away.

 

[LABelle]

How in the world can your own Mother forget?

If your DD is a teen or older-shame on her.
Your Husband ?Well mine would have heard plenty.

 

[poohtown]

a couple years ago the same thing happened to me??? Still not sure why. Everyone realized a couple days later and was very apologetic. My mom didn't call for almost 5 days later. LOL I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I'm the party planner. I'm the one who buys the presents, wraps, sends out cards, etc. You'd think they could all handle 1 day. but I still love them

 

[Talking Hands]

Happy Birthday

 

[dmslush]

Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!

 

[SillyMe]

Are you sure it was yesterday? Maybe you had the wrong date. Just kidding. I'd be really upset, too. Happy Birthday!

 

[vettechick99]

Happy Birthday!

Maybe since you don't make a big deal of it your fam and friends don't feel like you want to celebrate it? Either way, it stinks - so HAPPY BIRTHDAY from us!

 

[phamton]

It happened to me a few years back. My birthday was on Thanksgiving day that year. All 5 of my kids were there and my husband and my dad (my mother isn't living.) No one remembered, not even friends. I spent the day working my tail off to prepare Thanksgiving dinner and not one of them remembered my birhtday. My only sibling (a sister) didn't call either. At work, they always announce birthdays over the intercom. I'm a teacher. Before holidays they announce the holiday birthdays and they forgot me also.

I didn't mention it but the next day my husband remembered but he was the only one.

 

[BriarfoxinWA]

I'm sorry Momma Rabbit - I'd be upset too! Happy Birthday!

My DH never does anything for my birthday. The last few years I've managed to make sure we went someplace fun on vacation over my birthday as sort of a "Happy Birthday to me". My boys don't remember either - but my parents usually do.

Lately my DH has been making a big deal over my upcoming birthday - I'll be 39 in June- he turned 40 last year and he insists on telling everyone that I will now be 41 or 42! I swear if he tries to pass this off as number 40 I think I might do some bodily harm to him!

 

[Momma Rabbit]

Thanks for all the b-day wishes It's not that we usually don't celebrate...we usually go to dinner and have cake at home ....not this year though

I just need to come up with the right way to let my family know they forgot.

 

[poohandwendy]

This happened to me years ago, it was my DH that forgot...although there was alot going on at the time, it still hurt.

As to what you should do? I would go out to your most favorite bakery and buy yourself a decadent cake and candles, invite everyone over and light them in front of everyone.

And HAPPY Birthday to you!!!!!

 

[lewdyan1]

Happy Birthday

 

[disykat]

First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

It seems weird none of them remembered - are you sure there's not a party tonight and they were torturing you? I'd talk to your dh and let him spread the word you were forgotten. I'm sure they'll feel terrible.

I think it's time to start circling the date on the calendar - I'm sure everyone else's is on there. I'm of the opinion (and I know this won't be popular, but it's not against you - please don't take it personally) that sitting back and waiting for other's to remember things that are important to you is a bit passive aggressive. I'm a big fan of letting people know what you want. I'm not big on "buy me lots of stuff and make the day all about me, me, me", but I do say something like "How about if we go out to dinner for my birthday next week?" My dh and I compare notes on what we are doing for every one else's birthdays, why not our own?