What would you do?

[azdisneylover]

Ha ha the summers are brutal here. You better get excited for high AC bills.

Yes, they are! Pools and Sonics slushies (Lemonberry ones for me) are helpful getting through the summer months. It's after 10pm and it's 77 degrees now.

 

[azfalcon]

Yes, they are! Pools and Sonics slushies (Lemonberry ones for me) are helpful getting through the summer months. It's after 10pm and it's 77 degrees now.

I swear it starts earlier every year

 

[Christina-B-Na]

I swear it starts earlier every year

Lol!! Fellow Arizonan and I swear I think I say that every year!

Interested to see how its going for the OP. Tough predicament.

 

[nikerbokers]

I would go. She was sick on Friday with a cold. Yeah colds suck but a full week after she shouldn't feel like death- she should almost be completely better. If she chooses not to go, that's her decision. If she resents you for still going, she has other issues going on IMO. You've had this trip planned for a long time and to cancel because all the sudden she doesn't feel like going, that's not right.

But honestly, she may have just had a rough day with the cold and will change her mind when she's better. Please keep us posted!

 

[bumbershoot]

Tarheel...if she is of the age where it's possible, are you sure it's *just* a cold? Anything else that could be going on that's causing moodiness, the feeling of a cold, and not wanting to go to a themepark? Worth a thought.


That said.....

Solo trips are amazing. You're in San Diego and have never gone solo? Wild!

If it were me who didn't feel like going on the trip (Ok let's be real, it would never be me LOL) I would INSIST upon you going.

Same here. Also the parenthetical park; it would NEVER be me LOL.

You know that saying of "happy wife, happy life" ?

She has a cold.

Put yourself in your wife's shoes. How would you feel if you weren't really feeling 100% in the health department and were facing the strong possibility of walking all through busy theme parks on a busy weekend?

A cold! The flu, pregnancy, that sort of thing, sure. But a cold?

You could be sending her the unspoken message that she is not important to you...that Disneyland is more important than your sick wife.

My eye is twitching...


You TWO need to communicate. No more theorizing online. Ask her. Get to the answer. Might take awhile. Doesn't sound like she's communicating very well with you, but you NEED her to do so.

Wanting to go on a solo trip doesn't mean you prioritize Disney over her, unless she's that sort of person, and I bet you would know if you married that sort of person already. Wanting to go on a planned trip even though she had a cold last week ALSO doesn't mean you prioritize Disney over her.


It was actually during a stay at DLH that DH got sick, and he insisted that we go out and enjoy ourselves while he recuperated!

 

[gillep]

I am not going to comment on the husband/wife dynamic thing as I have no idea what your relationship is like and the only way to know how she feels is to talk to her.

My husband would definitely want me to go without him. He has been getting a bit overwhelmed by the crowds recently at DL so we take a lot more breaks (love listening to the piano player at the Grand Californian), and sometimes I head to the parks while he enjoys the resort and then we meet up at the parks later. For me, I prefer touring the parks with DH, but I like the solo time too! I love being able to ride whatever I want, or not ride anything at all, or pin trade, or get a snack without discussing it first, it is a different experience but it is still fun.

 

[tarheelalum]

I would go. She was sick on Friday with a cold. Yeah colds suck but a full week after she shouldn't feel like death- she should almost be completely better. If she chooses not to go, that's her decision. If she resents you for still going, she has other issues going on IMO. You've had this trip planned for a long time and to cancel because all the sudden she doesn't feel like going, that's not right.

But honestly, she may have just had a rough day with the cold and will change her mind when she's better. Please keep us posted!

Hopefully your right. But I've decided not to say anything else about it until Wednesday night and let her cool off. She seemed really stubborn and unreasonable about it the other day but she was not feeling very well and she tends to get that way when she has a cold. So I'll see how it goes Wednesday because Thursday morning its time to cancel my kennel reservations for our two dogs for the weekend if she is staying home. And I'll try to sweeten the deal with her on Thursday morning, if necessary, with an offer of a trip to Nordstrom for any pair of shoes she wants if she wants to go. She loves shoes more than anything and I'm not above bribery to get to go back to the happiest place on earth. We may only be in Arizona for a few months because my job might be moving us again to the southeast in the fall so I really hope it works out.

 

[pblack]

I'm curious to know what happened in this situation? Did both of you end up going? Did you go solo? Did neither of you go? There's too many unanswered questions!!

 

[tarheelalum]

I'm curious to know what happened in this situation? Did both of you end up going? Did you go solo? Did neither of you go? There's too many unanswered questions!!

It was close but we both went and had a great stay at the Disneyland hotel. We even added a day to have four nights so we could start our 3 day SoCal passes rested and refreshed on Saturday morning. It was truly a wonderful trip.

But it did cost me a pretty penny in bribery. I had to buy her some very pricey shoes at Neiman Marcus. But we are moving to Tucson next month and likely won't be coming back to Disneyland this year so it was worth it to me.

 

[maleficent55]

ha! After all that it all worked out. Good to hear!

 

[pblack]

Glad that it worked out and that both of you were able to enjoy your trip!

 

[mom2rtk]

Glad that it worked out and that both of you were able to enjoy your trip!

Well, in all honesty, we don't know if the wife enjoyed it or not. All we know is that she got some really expensive shoes.

 

[pblack]

Haha that is true! Well at least we know she enjoyed her shoes and he enjoyed Disneyland!

 

[tarheelalum]

Well, in all honesty, we don't know if the wife enjoyed it or not. All we know is that she got some really expensive shoes.

Oh she loved it. But she also loves shoes. And luckily, Tucson doesn't have a Neiman Marcus. and she doesn't like to buy shoes online, so I'll save a fortune when she gets made at me there.

 

[Miggee]

i would totally go, I went to universal couple times by myself, and will be taking a solo trip again end of the month, it's great!

 

[Miggee]

i would totally go, I went to universal couple times by myself, and will be taking a solo trip again end of the month, it's great!

i mean solo trip to Disneyland later this month

 

[GeneralTso]

Just a guess, but I think your wife would be ticked if you went alone, plus you would feel guilty.
Disneyland isn't worth the strife. It just isn't.
It's miserably crowded this week. Go later when she really wants to go, and feels better.

I get the sense she **really** does not want to go. If it's just a cold, you soldier on.

 

[mom2rtk]

Just a guess, but I think your wife would be ticked if you went alone, plus you would feel guilty.
Disneyland isn't worth the strife. It just isn't.
It's miserably crowded this week. Go later when she really wants to go, and feels better.

I get the sense she **really** does not want to go. If it's just a cold, you soldier on.

I got the same sense. But it's all good. He bribed her with expensive shoes and they had a great time.

 

[ThistleMae]

I would go. You've been planning the trip, you've booked the hotel, in my mind its too late to back out now. If your wife chooses to stay home then she really can't resent you for going - her choice to stay. Plenty of people go alone - and just think of all the single rider queues you can take advantage of!

This...for sure. There's threads for people who go single, and they can give you tips. If you don't like to eat alone at night, get something to take to your room and do face time with your wife...or not. You'll still have fun if you love Disney! And there's tons of people to talk to in lines and while enjoying a sit down snack outside.