What Would YOU do??

[kimmar067]

...okay, so I used to occasionally visit a website on the internet (it was a website to locate school buddies, class reunions, and the like) that I joined back in its fledgling days in 2000. We had a 30th reunion in 2005, but soon after (less than a year or so) I really didn't visit it [the website] anymore. Out of the blue, I received a birthday card from a former [male] classmate last year. I never dated this person, was never friends with this person, wasn't even really acquaintances with this person; in fact, he didn't even attend that last reunion. Well, my DH was not-too-happy about this, so I decided to visit the website and send a brief note stating that I was not too happy about getting a random card in the mail from him, and that neither was my DH. I also specified that I do not wish contact from this person in the future. Months go by and now our 35th reunion will be coming up this October. I keep getting e-mails from him about attending (he was given this info from our 2 classmates that formerly handled the reunions but didn't want to do it anyomore)....I've replied specifically stating that I will NOT be attending, please take my name off the list, blah-blah-blah....all's well until yesterday, when I received in the mail another birthday card!! Again, my b-day is not even CLOSE to being in April, and now my DH is beginning to think that there is something going on....this all is very creepy to me and I'm wondering what I should do....

 

[npmommie]

How did he get your address?
did you post it on that website?
I forgot to say what I would do............I agree I would block his email, and also return to sender unopened any mail that comes from his address, if he continues to send mail, I would file something with the post office, if thats possible to prevent getting mail from him.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I guess I would block his email for starters. He sounds crackers to me.

 

[dislaney]

Could he have you mixed up with someone else? Just a thought and if that is not the case I would block him and return the birthday cards. Sounds like a nutcase and not the kind of person you want extra attention from.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Your post illustrates the biggest reason why I haven't signed up for Facebook yet.

I'm pretty sure I busted a heart or two back in the day (just like you did, Kim ) and I don't want to deal with the fallout now.

We Jersey girls can't help being the smoking-hot, man-magnets that we are. Some say it's a blessing, but it can become a curse--like it is with this guy.

 

[kimmar067]

How did he get your address?
did you post it on that website?....

....no I DEFINITELY did not post my address!!! And no, I didn't give him my address - I am guessing that he got it from a master list from the last reunion since he and another person are handling this upcoming one....

 

[kimmar067]

Could he have you mixed up with someone else? Just a thought and if that is not the case I would block him and return the birthday cards. Sounds like a nutcase and not the kind of person you want extra attention from.

....I'm thinking yes, because why would he think that my birthday is in April??

 

[EllenFrasier]

You could take the information to the police to file a report. They can't press charges for him sending you an unwanted birthday card - at least I don't think they can. If his contact starts to get more frequent, or he starts calling your house or following you around or something, you would want somehing reported to the police so they have him on file. They might even check him out to make sure he's not wanted for harassment somewhere.

 

[DizBelle]

Wait a minute... you're upset over someone wishing you Happy Birthday?

Unless it was a raunchy, suggestive card, why can't you accept it for the sentiment it is?

 

[LuvLDM]

I guess I'm in the minority because although I find it all a bit odd, it just doesn't strike as something to be alarmed about.

 

[DizBelle]

Also, you could just throw the card away if you aren't interested in it.

 

[BCDisneyFanatic]

I guess I'm in the minority because although I find it all a bit odd, it just doesn't strike as something to be alarmed about.

Why on earth would your DH get worked up about you receiving a card from an old classmate? If he doesn't believe you when you tell him there is nothing going on, I think I'd be more worried about that than some random birthday greeting.

Have you considered the possibility that this man is sending birthday cards to everyone who attended the reunion?

 

[krcit]

I think I would just ignore anything you receive from him. Maybe it's just an innocent thing but maybe he enjoys getting you all worked up so ignore it.

 

[XTinabell]

Wait a minute... you're upset over someone wishing you Happy Birthday?

Unless it was a raunchy, suggestive card, why can't you accept it for the sentiment it is?

That was my first thought too. I thought it was rather a kind and thoughtful gesture to send you a birthday card. However the fact that he seems to be ignoring your wishes and is still mailing you and emailing you, sounds like something is amiss. Block the emails, and like others have said return the envelope back in the mail.

 

[overlyspoiled4sure]

I find your situation a bit odd too, OP, & don't blame you for wanting him to stop.

If the website you're talking about is the same one I joined when it was first around, well, I took my name off. It took me awhile to figure out how to do it but did manage. I only joined to find one friend & after I found her (she was maid of honor at our wedding) I wasn't interested in belonging to the site anymore.

If the people who organize the reunions have your address, I'd just quit the website. If you can block that person from emailing you, I'd do that too. Good luck!

 

[Scurvy]

Have you considered the possibility that this man is sending birthday cards to everyone who attended the reunion?

That's what I would assume. I'd just ignore it. Since he's handling the upcoming reunion, I would think he's just really enthusiastic about it. If he kept sending emails and it annoyed me then I agree with others - I'd just block his emails. But unless the card or emails are overly suggestive or threatening I wouldn't be alarmed. (And I'd be really annoyed if my husband got upset because a former classmate who is handling the class reunion sent me a generic card, but maybe that's just me.)

 

[disykat]

I also find it odd but not alarming. I wouldn't do anything unless it escalates. A once a year birthday card plus notices about a reunion doesn't see excessive. Some people are lonely and consider people their friends who really are not.

 

[DisneyBeagle]

Why on earth would your DH get worked up about you receiving a card from an old classmate? If he doesn't believe you when you tell him there is nothing going on, I think I'd be more worried about that than some random birthday greeting.

Have you considered the possibility that this man is sending birthday cards to everyone who attended the reunion?

I agree! He might just think he's being nice.

Can you tell us if he wrote something in the card that would make your husband think something is going on with the two of you?

 

[PrincessKsMom]

I could have one of my friends pay him a visit

 

[kimmar067]

I could have one of my friends pay him a visit