What would you do? Please Help!

[saratogadreamin09]

I know this may be alittle long but I'll greatly appreciate any help


I was friends with this guy (who I'll call) J. He was my best guy friend and we were realy really really close. But, after awhile I started to develop a crush on him. He knew and he was ok with it and actually found it alittle cute, but we decided to just stay friends.

But, then J's best friends sister (who I'll call E) started saying that J and I were dating. Then she started saying that we were doing all these nasty things (if you get what I'm saying). So, in January J came to me and said that he thought that it would be best for both of us if we werent friends anymore.

So, I've been really depressed that we're not friends anymore because I miss him A LOT. But, the worse part is E is still harrassing me about J. We are both on the softall team and EVERYDAY at practice she says something to me about our loss friendship or my crush. We were both at a sweet 16 on saturday night and she even started to harrass me on the dance floor.

I am SO sick of her doing this. She's always been a b**** but now shes taking it to new levels. I dont want to play softball anymore because I dont want to paly with her and I am starting to hate going to school with her.

What should I do? Yesterday I told my softball coach about whats going on at practice and she did nothing sad2. Im afraid about talking to E myself because she has a tendency to start more rumors and she can get loud and mean and scream in my face (which she did to me at our softball game last Thursday). My mom wants me to tell the school's dean but I think thats alittle immature to tell on her.

So, what would you do?

 

[minniemouse440044]

just tell her off. thats what i would do.
you shouldnt care what people think. because you know the truth. and if your scared of her screaming in your face just be the bigger person and not get affected by it.

and heres how i think about it, if people spread rumors and talk about me, hey that means people are paying attention. i dont get affected by any of it.

 

[CptWife80]

I would not go and face her if you are that upset. It will only lead to horrible things and who knows what will happen to you if you confront her. I would take your mother's advice and speak with the dean. What she is doing is bullying and it is not right and has obviously affected your school spirit and desire to go to school not to mention your best friend J. And at least if you talk to the dean and it continues you can have someone to talk to. Who knows you could get the courage to speak to her and then have her go back to the dean and say that you are harrassing her. Don't let it get turned on you and talk to your friend J and explain how you feel. If you were really good friends he will understand and things will be the way they were. Good Luck.

 

[wilmabride'sdaughter]

Well what kind of guy decides he doesn't want to be friends because of some silly rumours? A
And why can't he do something about it? Because she is his sister, right?
I'd suggest you tell him about what she's doing to you, but i guess if you're not friends...

To be honest, if i was you i'd end up staying quiet. But that's because im too much of a coward to do anything about that kind of stuff.
You should tell someone. Even if you do think it's a little immature. Technically, she is bullying you. Nobody should get away with bullying, ever!

But don't go shouting and mouthing off to her. I should know. When i get upset or angry i just let loose and tbh, it doesn't do anything except from giving them and incentive to carry on.

And i hope things get sorted out for you

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Her brother is friends with J, who was my best friend. Im also friends with her brother but hes not my best friend and we're still friends

 

[jobrosx0disney]

do you have s guidance councler(sp? sorry im a terrible speller) @ your school? they could be very helpful! i think you should go talk it over with her/him first and see what he/she says. also, if you were really close with this J kid, then talk to him. b/c he has to know you're this upset. AND on top of that, if he doesnt talk to you just b/c of what this one b**** is saying, then he's not a real friend. hope that helps :]